If you’re looking for a sign to cut a toxic family member out of your life, this is that sign
Sadia Hakim
why my family makes me feel i have no family at all
Ive been seeking leftover parts of you in other people’s bed, but i guess thats the way life goes when you refuse to count your last cigarettes as blessings.
Ive been digging holes in my backyard and then forgetting what i was meant to bury in the first place, and the lemon tree has been using the soil as a starting point.
This isnt your fault because if it was id have to admit you were ever real in the first place, but it isnt my fault either because i dont want it to be.
When you see me next tell me what you thought about when you first tasted the blood you licked from my wounds.
-if i couldn’t find your reflection in the mirror i’d draw it in
On some days I’m full of laughter and good cheer, and on others I’m overflowing with nothing, thick pervasive nothing. I choke on nothing and it’s my friend and there’s nothing but us. There are tears but they stick to the back of my eyes, the back of my throat. They swell up my face and they scrunch up my face but I sit still. I don’t move an inch but I stir up nothing again and again. My thoughts are my enemy, they hate me and they churn me up. I sit still and a tsunami lives inside me.
©Graeae
Normal parents aren't like this
I want to scream at the top of my lungs
Like you do every fucking night
Normal parents don't do this
I want to list everything wrong with your parenting
There's too many to name
You think drunkenly burning old meat, or what you call cooking, is enough to make up for treating us talking like it's a capital crime
Normal parents don't do that
They don't look at their kid in pain and think "how can I make this about me? How can I make them feel worse?"
They don't start yelling at their kids for every little thing
Say the slightly wrong word at the exact wrong zeptosecond and prepare for our ears to bleed
From the volume of dearest mother's scream
Normal parents don't keep their kids from learning what emancipation is
In fear that they'll finally be able to get out
Normal parents don't open their kids' christmas gifts,
wrapped lovingly from their ill grandma,
and take the money to drive illegally and buy vodka
Normal parents don't instruct their kids to lie to CPS three separate times
The children of normal parents don't cry themselves to sleep while listening to their mother's yelling and father's sighing
I wish I had normal fucking parents
Because normal kids don't look at their ceiling shrouded in the dark and listen to a war outside their door and ask a god they stopped believing in way before they were ten, but silently ask so you're not wrapped into the screaming, what they possibly did...
To deserve this?
- i haven't cried myself to sleep in a while but old habits die hard: a poem
You say “we got through it”, that it was a hell of a fight for you
What about me
The person who told you for years something was wrong, but you never listened
The person you continuously pushed further than they could mentally handle
The person you made to feel like shit everytime they didn’t get up or do what they were supposed to
I fought through my mental illness, i fought you to be heard, i fought through every shitty thing you said to me when i was struggling
You say “we”, but I did it alone
Sometimes it feels like I take up too much space
Like my presence annoys others, like I don’t quite fit into place
I’m either too loud or to soft
I don’t talk enough or I talk to much
No matter what I do I can’t seem to please you
It gets so exhausting trying to be
Something for everybody, I just want to be me
But I’m stretched too thin and I work to much
I keep giving away parts of myself and it’s never enough.
“To my parents”
I no longer,
look,
for your faces,
in the cheering,
crowd.
-Hania Lín/ “Spoiled Milk”
I’m tired of feeling hollow and empty,
and like I should be grateful
for what I know isn’t meant for me.
I’m tired of feeling unheard and alone,
and like it’s against the rules
to change my mind when I’m grown.
I’m tired of the pressure,
from family and friends and society
to continue living as an expired version of me.
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Cognitive dissonance is my mistress behind closed doors.
If I could go ahead and be more honest than before,
I don’t even believe in things like capitalism
or christianity anymore.
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Does love exist without condition? 
Depends on your definition.
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I don’t think that unconditional love
should oppose what someone does
or won’t—
or in some cases (once my own)—
who they love
if no tangible, legible damage is being done.
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Tradition and religion are not reasonable excuses
for anyone in this world to feel excluded.
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Unconditional love could mean
loving someone from a distance
or wishing them good riddance
because of a drug addiction or alcohol dependance;
maybe they kill people, maybe they steal,
maybe they’ve lied or wronged you at will.
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Unconditional love is not “I love you,” but I’m going to sit
and tell everyone in the family how much I miss
the way you were when you were a kid,
before you thought for yourself or knew how to be
anything other than what you were taught by me.
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Unconditional love is not “I love you,” but you and your wife
aren’t welcome for dinner because it isn’t right,
and your grandmother’s heart couldn’t handle the strife
knowing the truth about your way of life.
Who knows how long she’ll uphold; she is getting pretty old,
so, it’s just better your story’s left untold.
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Unconditional love is not “I love you,” but you like to speak up,
you don’t hold your tongue, and you show too much skin
in a pair of shorts that pass your thumbs;
some of your opinions we just don’t want to hear,
and that should be made clear before you come near.
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Unconditional love is not “I love you,” but I’m going to belittle
your hobbies and interests until your passion is crippled,
and your identity and ambition are left riddled;
your lifestyle seems incredibly unsteady,
why can’t you go to school or get married or have some kids already?
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Decisions with no damages inflicted
are met with unwarranted incisions;
it’s always been that way;
someone has always had something to say.
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I don’t fucking care anymore.
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What does it mean to mind your business?
It means you don’t have any revisions
to make to someone else's choices or their appearance.
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Stop silencing people’s voices,
ESPECIALLY our children,
creating realities that are wilted
by “unconditional love.”
“I wish there was a way for you to grow flowers where you are, my little love. I hope you still remember their radiance. When you come home to me, they will be waiting - alive and beautiful and unforgettable, just like you.”
— Letters from Demeter to Persephone, Nikita Gill
you are the most permanent thing in your life. always. that won’t change. ever. so put you first. prioritize you. choose you. you, you, you. your needs, your wants, your dreams, your feelings, your happiness, your peace. never sacrifice any of that, and do not spend your entire life treating people who might be temporary better than you treat yourself.
— alhwrites
especially if they act like a temporary person: bare minimum, low effort, confusing, unkind, shitty, toxic.
I feel like other people maybe have a bigger impact on me than I do on them. I adore humanity, so I tend to hold on to whoever and whatever I can. The memories, experiences, and feelings I share with another person affect me so much. They help me change and grow, molding me into a better version of myself. I think other people are so wonderful and valuable and special, even if they weren’t the nicest to me. I think about them often, and am always thankful for the time we had together. Or, at the very least, thankful for the lessons I learned from them. A part of me will miss them forever; once you’re important to me, you stay that way, however much. I still have love for everyone I’ve ever cared about, all circumstances aside. But I can’t imagine anyone feeling the same in regards to me. It’s like I’m a speck of dust on the floor of a big house, something to overlook. A word in their vocabulary that isn’t spoken often. A fleeting moment that they won’t dwell on. A temporary character, someone they’re ready to leave behind. I can’t fathom someone remembering me once we exit each other’s lives, like all I am is forgettable. It doesn’t bother me too much, I guess, because you’re supposed to move on. That’s how it is. I just hope the people I’ve met got something positive or meaningful out of their time with me.
— alhwrites