I'm so incredibly pissed off by people acting like the eurovision shit that's going on is just "chaos" or "drama". There is a literal genocide going on which this organisation is complicit in. They're allowing a "country" who is bombing literal refugees, people who have lost everything, to go on stage a spew propaganda. They have so called anti-booing tech and are silencing people's mics and not allowing constants to even say ceasefire. This is literal propaganda and censorship and people are acting like it's tanacon or some shit like that.

Fuck eurovision

Free Palestine

Please return us to a world where Notp and squick are used for a ship you don’t like instead of just making up a load of bullshit about how immoral it is or w/e lol 

a short selection of concepts and phrases that used to be commonplace in fandom and we’d really benefit from making that a thing again:

NOTP: the opposite of an OTP (One True Pairing). It is a ship a fan strongly dislikes. The word is a portmanteau of ‘no’ and ‘OTP’ and thus is not a contraction of any particular phrase.

Squick: anything that is a deep-seated, visceral turn-off. Squicks may be shared by many fans or be specific to one; one person’s kink may be another person’s squick.

YKINMKATO, or kink-tomato: Your Kink Is Not My Kink, And That’s Okay: used to indicate support for fannish diversity and to distinguish between disapproval or kink shaming and simply having different taste.

DLDR: Don’t Like, Don’t Read: a phrase used to warn against complaints about an aspect of fic or meta. A “live and let live” philosophy of fandom, which places the responsability for avoiding content one doesn’t want to see on the side of the fanwork consumer, rather that on the creator’s.

SALS: Ship And Let Ship: similar to the above specifically about shipping tastes.

YMMV: Your Mileage May Vary: a phrase used to acknowledge that any given individual’s personal opinion on the topic at hand may differ due to their own tastes, standards, values, experiences, etc.

As the OP points out, all of these crucially imply no moral judgment of what they’re designing.

(definitions lifted more or less wholesale from fanlore’s relevant pages)

bring the healthy fun back to fandom!

If ever a time comes when I don’t reblog this when it appears on my dash, assume I’m dead

no offense but if your friend is trying out a new hobby be fucking nice to them

friends say hurtful things, whether it's out of jealousy, trying to be funny, etc. I don't believe it usually means they're an irredeemable person who you need to cut off. I just think we should be mindful of how snarkiness can impact someone's confidence and likelihood to keep pursuing their interests

You should also avoid giving them unsolicited advice about it! They're just getting into it and just starting to learn because right now its interesting and exciting to them! Let them be interested and excited in it.

Dumping unneeded/unasked for advice on them can actually be very discouraging because you've just robbed them of the opportunity to find that information for themselves out of their own interest. If they ask questions about it ask them if they're speaking rhetorically or if they're actually asking first - basically get their consent before answering!

Beyond that, just be happy that they're happy and enjoying themselves!

The absolute contempt for these locks is palpable.

@timeclonemike

sound off everyone what’s the worst texture. just in anything. for me it’s ground beef not even a question

When I was in college, round about 2002 or so, I did a paper on hate groups that necessitated a couple of visits to Stormfront, a white supremacist website and message board. One of the pages on the site was a "children's page" operated by the child of Storrmfront's founder, which was a unique form of horrifying. But I also remember looking at a photo of the kid on the site and thinking, that poor fuckin' kid, what kind of chance did he ever have?

But it was just a paper and that was just a photo of a child I didn't know, so I turned in the paper and graduated and got on with life.

In 2016, @archwrites posted a link to an article by the Washington Post titled "The White Flight of Derek Black" (sorry about the paywall, Arch's post quotes some relevant parts here). I thought it looked like an interesting read: it was about a white supremacist named Derek Black and a group of campus activists at the school Black eventually attended, who set out to see if they could change his mind about race with radical kindness. In large part because of their work, Black eventually renounced white supremacy and became an antiracist.

And then I hit a photo in the article and gasped, because I recognized it. I'd seen the same photo on the Stormfront children's website. The kid I'd seen and pitied was grown up and had gotten out. Immensely satisfying to see.

But it was just a news story about someone I didn't even know, so I posted about how pleased I was to see it, and I got on with life again.

This morning, I woke to the news (sorry, it's the Daily Fail) that R. Derek Black, now 35, has just published a memoir, The Klansman's Son: My Journey from White Nationalism to Antiracism. And in the epilogue, they come out as trans.

I can't imagine better news I could have heard about them -- that they're out, they're thriving, and they're embracing themself.

Congratulations, kid. It's a great new photo.

[ID: A recent photograph of R. Derek Black, with long curly red hair, wearing a floral collared shirt and a red cardigan, smiling for the camera.]

hope you don't mind but I found the Post article extremely good, so here's a gift link for anyone who wishes to read it in full.

Oh I don't mind at all -- that's actually great, thank you! Reblogging so people can access the article through the link.

One thing I didn't expect from my new worldbuilding book is the author, roughly my dad's age, including his opinions on furries

I'm liking this guy more and more

I have a new favorite author.

[Image ID: a picture of a physical book's page. The text in question has been highlighted by a red line above and below the short paragraph. The text reads: If your characters are furries, consider giving some love to animals besides foxes, cats, and wolves.

The OP, VampireJuno, has commented underneath. The comment reads: One thing I didn't expect from my new worldbuilding book is the author, roughly my dad's age, including his opinions on furries.

The second picture is another picture of presumably the same book. This text has been cropped to show only the part the OP wishes to show. It reads: I invented an alien race once that used different pronouns on land and water (they were amphibians), and had the inclusive/exclusive and proximate/obviative distinctions. They also had a pronoun for group minds, and pronouns for each of their three sexes. The complete list was impressive.

VampireJuno has added another comment, this one reading: I'm liking this guy more and more.

The third, and final, picture is of the same book. This text reads: In the future, possibly anything goes. In my SF world, the Incatena, sex changes are routine, which makes nonsense out of most present-day moralisms and even earnest debates about evolutionary psychology. But why stop there? It's easy to imagine modified bodies allowing new sexes, new sex acts, and new perversions.

VampireJuno concludes with: I have a new favorite author.

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OP in replies:

@timeclonemike

Waving Palestinian flags, wearing traditional Palestinian garments, or if we're being honest, just being Palestinian, is now officially "too political" for Eurovision.

Literally, all Saade did was wear a keffiyeh around his wrist—while being Palestinian—and that was enough to get a statement from the EBU, and have his opening performance scrubbed from Youtube.

If you're not already boycotting Eurovision this year, then what the fuck is wrong with you?

Below are two statements from Saade. The first one, giving his reason for participating, was posted a few days ago, and the other was in response to the EBU accusing him of 'compromising the non-political nature' of the Genocide Song Contest:

Reminder again to BOYCOTT EUROVISION 🇵🇸

I'm not like Mad at anyone who does this and I'm obviously not in charge of how anyone else tags shit on their own blogs, whatever, but it's always bummed me out when my sex Ed posts get reblogged and tagged with 18+, minors dni, etc. personally I actually very much want teenagers to learn about their bodies and safer sex but I guess I'm just the guy who wrote the thing.

by and large I am not an angry man but once I watched a fellow sex educator present to a room full of college students and, upon being gently challenged by one of the students who objected to them describing sex as something that happens between adults, said with very palpable disdain "I don't want to talk about kids fucking." and I was so angry about it that I made myself nauseous.

not just teens, either. every couple years I give up my Sundays for a few months to teach sex ed to 4th-6th graders, unpaid. and I don't do it because it's always fun or easy or great for my health, I do it because those are human people with changing bodies and feelings who deserve to have someone who gives a shit take the time to talk honestly with them so that they might make less painful mistakes later.

ah, this has gotten notes. now we begin a game of Is Someone Going To Call Me A Pedophile For This.

It's appropriate to tell very small children (3-5) who asked where babies come from that sex is something for consenting adults only

When they are approaching teenage years it's appropriate to tell them "hey, I know teens have sex. This is how to be safe and also how to avoid the spread of misinformation"

I will never forget being 13 and having another girl confidentially telling me you couldn't get pregnant if you drank a coke and ate poprocks directly after. Because I was educated about sex ed I was able to correct her

That girl was already sexually active btw

Teens are horny and they need information to be safe

Heck part of the reason I didn't have a lot of ill advised sex as a teenager was because I was educated and I really didn't want to get pregnant or an STD.

I still did stuff but being educated on the risks, even with using condoms and being on birth control, made a massive difference in what I actually did

Add in the list of warning signs of abusive relationships and advice for how to communicate about sex/relationships and place boundaries that I found on BDSM websites and I promise you without that knowledge I would not be in the healthy and happy relationship I am in right now. I would have had a bad time and made a lot of bad decisions and choices

(ETA: Having a lot of sex isn't inherently ill-advised. However I know myself and my hometown and my issues. I personally would not have made good choices without the education I had. Particularly if I hadn't found the BDSM resources which taught me that sex was good and that I should only have sex I would enjoy rather then sex that made me feel bad as a person. As opposed to the teaching at school to value my virginity above all else)

So yeah, it's important to talk to teenagers about sex.

To build off of tags I saw about how important it is for little kids to know proper words so they can report what happens especially if it's a familiar adult who is supposed to be a caretaker

That's actually why I said it's appropriate to tell small children that sex should happen between consenting adults.

With kiddo we explained (even before we explained what sex is) that no one should be touching you under your clothes without consent and even then it should only be a doctor when they are checking you for illness and even then you can say no and they shouldn't touch you in ways that make you feel bad or that they tell you should be a secret

Tell young children the proper names for genitalia and let them know that that is a private place that they have control over and no one else gets to see or touch it without consent and that that includes you

Let them know who they can report to

What to do if their friend tells them a "dangerous secret" and what a dangerous secret is

That if anyone touches them in private areas or tries to get them to touch their private areas what to do and who to tell. Even if it's family or someone close to them

Teach "no means no" and that their body is theirs and that their privacy is theirs from a young age

You cannot protect your child with ignorance

They have to know what it is to protect themselves from, and even if they don't fully understand it they know it shouldn't be happening and then can explain properly to someone else what happened

Pour one out for a real one.

Reading up on him, he was a pretty cool guy. He was one of the first people to stand up to John Money about his theories of gender development and position that intersex infants should receive surgery and never be told about it using his abuse of David Reimer as ‘proof’, asserting that Money didn’t have the evidence and standing his ground even when Money straight up started screaming at him. And then later he was proven right when he got into contact with David Reimer, not only discovering proof that Money was wrong but also how abusive and horrific Money had been. He then went on to write advocating for intersex and trans rights and to avoid unnecessary procedures on intersex people without full informed consent and that intersex people are part of natural human variation and that we deserve acceptance and not to be treated like a disorder.

A quote I really like from him: ‘Nature loves diversity, society hates it’

I know this has been said before, and y'all aren't gonna listen to me when I say it, but you can't be bigoted to bad people. Like you don't get to call Marjorie Taylor Green an NRA whore, or misgender Caitlyn Jenner, or be antisemitic to Ben Shapiro. It doesn't work like that. Not being called slurs is not something people earn by being a good person, it's something you do because YOU are a good person. And if I'm being honest, it shouldn't be that hard for you to do. You shouldn't want to say these things to ANYBODY, even if they are the devil incarnate.

When people use slurs against people they don't like, that tells me that marginalized people are only conditionally acceptable to them, and the second they don't like them they'll use their identity against them.

white gays reasoning with themselves about why it's okay to endorse a man killing children overseas as we speak because maybe Next time he will protect our rights even tho he hasn't done that while currently being the president: um but if i don't vote for joe biden i will literally die. can you imagine that.. dying because of the ameircan goverment! um but that's totally different to all those brown people being violently murdered every single day while Joe Biden is the president funding and endorsing their genocide.. because um because. um. well how do I say this without sounding super tone deaf and racist... that just doesn't effect me Personally as an american so it won't change how i vote :)