Anastasia Trusova (Russian,b. 1988)

river icing, 2023

acrylic on canvas

all eldest children are obligated to leave their hometowns as early as possible lest they succumb to the various generational curses

My mother grew up within biking distance of Bill Watterson in Ohio and would like everyone to know:

You ever think about how california condors evolved to eat megafauna like mammoths and giant land sloths, and now they're just entirely gone from North America so these condors are just being born into this foodless barren world? That's how I feel about Altoids sours.

Everybody shut the HECK up and look at this

S H O R K

A lot of people around me are having kids and every day it becomes more apparent that hitting your children to punish them is insane because literally everything can be a horrible punishment in their eyes if you frame it as such.

Like, one family makes their toddler sit on the stairs for three minutes when he hits his brother or whatever. The stairs are well lit and he can see his family the whole time, he’s just not allowed to get up and leave the stairs or the timer starts over. He fucking hates it just because it’s framed as a punishment.

Another family use a baseball cap. It’s just a plain blue cap with nothing on it. When their toddler needs discipline he gets a timeout on a chair and has to put the cap on. When they’re out and about he just has to wear the cap but it gets the same reaction. Nobody around them can tell he’s being punished because it’s in no way an embarrassing cap, but HE knows and just the threat of having to wear it is enough.

And there isn’t the same contempt afterwards I’ve seen with kids whose parents hit them. One time the kid swung a stick at my dog, his mother immediately made him sit on the stairs, he screamed but stayed put, then he came over to my dog and gently said “Sorry Ellie” and went back to playing like nothing happened, but this time without swinging sticks at the nearby animals.

The psych nerds found out ages ago that punishments that make the child think for a few minutes (about one minute or year of age until they're tweens) is much more helpful to develope social intelligence and understanding than punishments which prevents thinking, like the ones that involve pain. In fact, corporal punishment encouraged lying, extreme reactions, violent outbursts, go figure, they don't trust you.

This is all really fucking serious and important and I'm mainly reblogging for that, because this correct mentality needs to be spread around more, but I'm also reblogging because I absolutely lost it at the child who dreads having to wear the normal blue hat of shame.

A lot of people around me are having kids and every day it becomes more apparent that hitting your children to punish them is insane because literally everything can be a horrible punishment in their eyes if you frame it as such.

Like, one family makes their toddler sit on the stairs for three minutes when he hits his brother or whatever. The stairs are well lit and he can see his family the whole time, he’s just not allowed to get up and leave the stairs or the timer starts over. He fucking hates it just because it’s framed as a punishment.

Another family use a baseball cap. It’s just a plain blue cap with nothing on it. When their toddler needs discipline he gets a timeout on a chair and has to put the cap on. When they’re out and about he just has to wear the cap but it gets the same reaction. Nobody around them can tell he’s being punished because it’s in no way an embarrassing cap, but HE knows and just the threat of having to wear it is enough.

And there isn’t the same contempt afterwards I’ve seen with kids whose parents hit them. One time the kid swung a stick at my dog, his mother immediately made him sit on the stairs, he screamed but stayed put, then he came over to my dog and gently said “Sorry Ellie” and went back to playing like nothing happened, but this time without swinging sticks at the nearby animals.

The psych nerds found out ages ago that punishments that make the child think for a few minutes (about one minute or year of age until they're tweens) is much more helpful to develope social intelligence and understanding than punishments which prevents thinking, like the ones that involve pain. In fact, corporal punishment encouraged lying, extreme reactions, violent outbursts, go figure, they don't trust you.

This is all really fucking serious and important and I'm mainly reblogging for that, because this correct mentality needs to be spread around more, but I'm also reblogging because I absolutely lost it at the child who dreads having to wear the normal blue hat of shame.

IT

FUCKEN

WIMDY

Girl you cannot “reclaim phrenology”

Not to be a drooling socialist cuck, but if a full day's labour can't purchase three square meals, 24 hour's worth of rent and utilities, a fraction of a month's clothing budget, and a reasonable portion to be saved for when you can no longer comfortably work, what the fuck are we doing shit for

I know I sound like your mom but you kids need to stop fucking vaping

ok sometimes posts like this are frustrating even tho they’re well meaning! it is REALLY HARD to kick a nicotine addiction, and saying “just stop bc it’s bad for you” is sometimes not helpful. here are some strategies that have worked for me and my friends to help you get started:

Remember! shame doesn’t help people quit physical addictions and if you make a mistake you can always keep trying. quitting is a process and takes time, but it’s SO worth it in the long run <3

leans in to mic. I was already on 3% when I quit but I swapped to 0% nicotine juice instead. vape shops have a small selection but they Do have some. I bought a couple bottles that lasted me a few months and told myself I simply would not buy more once they were gone.

i knew the ritual of vaping is what i was most addicted to habitually, so vaping 0% for a bit actually helped disassociate the Drug from the Habit. because after a couple months i actually would just start to forget my vape was even on my desk. when i ran out of 0% juice i swapped my vape for a water thermos so now when i have the urge to reach for a Thing to put to my Mouth i am just hydrating babey.

a couple months ago nicotine cravings kicked in bad so i just bought a vape and 0% juice and then like after a month i forgot about the vape again and was chill. its cool dude just trick your brain