Begging mogai blogs to not delete their accounts when they no longer feel like posting and want to abadon it

I know I can speak for a lot of term hoarders when I say:

Please, just leave your blog up and use it as an archive

Mute notifications if you need to

A lot of those terms are very helpful towards me and many others and when they get deleted they're just

Gone, pretty much forever unless some people reblogged it

Even then it makes them harder to find cuz most of the time they don't pop up in reblogs when you search for them

So pretty please with sprinkles on top don't delete your blogs 🙏🙏

if you don’t want to have access to the account anymore, make a throwaway email address, add it as a mod of the blog, then leave the blog from your original account. then you’ll never see a notification again and you can move on without deleting all the stuff you posted!

thanks for 1k everyone!!!

ID/ A doodle of me! I have long-ish black hair, light skin, a brown hoodie with a yellow star in the center, dark green pants, chunky white shoes, and am holding a flag that says "thank you" followed by three hearts. The background is light grey-brown. /ID end

Tagging you guys who I'm glad to have met through this community, even if it's just through my notes and we've never talked lol:

@mogai-sunflowers @transolar @radiomogai @violetbunkuromi @buntress @interstellarr-void @its-me-renmimi @liomangel @local-yurei @revenant-coining @leijonisms @cocajimmycola @kiruliom

Ayyyyy big congratulations!!! You more than deserve all the followers, you do great work & I'm always happy to see you on my dash ~!!

hey this is about the adjective you like! the nouns you want to use aren't part of this conversation unless it's a "i don't like either option" situation.

did you guys know that you can actually support aroallo people WITHOUT talking about asexuality and asexuals. did you guys know that you can actually do that. you can actually stand in solidarity with us without saying "and also asexuals"

anyways. neopronoun users are so so cool actually. like we are so cool and awesome :)

if you use nounself pronouns you're cool as hell

if you use pronouns that look like a keysmash you're valid as fuck

if you use emoji pronouns guess what. you're awesome

transphobes and exclusionists can fuck off :)

"We need more mental health acceptance and awareness!" Y'all still call ppl with cluster b disorders evil 💀

"We need more weird people!" Y'all COMBUST when someone is xenic 💀

"Healthy coping mechanisms are important!" When someone age regresses, you call them creepy 😭

"More people need to be proud of who they are!" When you see a furry, you cry 😭

(U should totes follow me if ur a supporter of these so I can b on the good side of tumblr XD /nf!)

i just wanna say, as a feeding tube haver, that it's so much more possible to get used to invasive medical devices than you might fear.

i grew up horrified by even being reminded organs exist. i was just so severely grossed out by human anatomy. i got a lot better about it through years of chronic illness, since you just have to get used to it. but that's the baseline i started from originally, in case you are also squeamish and wonder if it's possible for that to change.

so when i needed a feeding tube, i was pretty distressed by the idea. having a tube sticking through a new hole in my abdomen was a seriously horrifying concept, and i couldn't imagine coping with having a stoma (the hole) and caring for it etc. i did it because i needed it to survive but thought i might never get used to it.

and yeah, it freaked me out at first. but eventually i did just get used to it. it just feels normal now. i even feel affection towards it, because it is keeping me alive.

this is critically, life or death important, because some people find the idea of medical devices like this so distressing that they believe they would rather die than get one. some people follow through with that. the stigma and ableism around medical devices can very much be fatal.

and it's baked into our institutions. when you are filling out an advanced healthcare directive, which is a document that details your wishes as to what type of care you do or don't want if you are incapacitated and unable to communicate your preferences, it asks if you would want a feeding tube, artificial hydration etc. the implication of this question is that dying instead is a perfectly legitimate and understandable option.

and it's certainly an option people should be allowed, because i believe in body autonomy including life and death decisions. but in our current society, it is a decision people make not freely, but under the duress of ableism in a society that thinks disabled people and people with medical devices are better off dead. it haunts me to think of all the people who could have had perfectly decent lives for however much longer but chose death instead out of fear of these interventions.

So much of the arophobia directed towards aromantic heterosexual men seems to be rooted in willful ignorance about what aromanticism actually is and how allosexual aromanticism differs from sexual objectification. Aromanticism is experiencing little to no romantic attraction towards others. That’s it. It isn’t the same as sending unsolicited dick picks to strangers or reducing women to their bodies. When a misogynistic man disregards a woman’s personhood in favor of treating her as a sexual object, it isn’t because he doesn’t experience romantic attraction to women. It’s because he chooses not to value women as people.

That has nothing to do with whether or not the man in question experiences romantic attraction. You can respect someone’s personhood without being romantically attracted to them. In fact, if you can’t respect a woman’s personhood without being attracted to her, then that is misogynistic. However, there is nothing inherently misogynistic about finding a woman sexy (even if you aren’t romantically interested in her!), nor is there anything inherently misogynistic about having casual sex with a woman who has enthusiastically consented to having casual sex. (Because, yes. Women CAN consent to having casual sex without being tricked into it via false promises of romance. Women are fully capable of deciding for themselves what they want to do with their bodies. Just because a woman does something with her body that makes you uncomfortable—like casual sex—doesn’t mean she’s a helpless victim who needs you to rescue her from her own autonomy.)

It also just seems so bizarre to me to claim that aromantic heterosexual men don’t face any stigma related to their aromanticism. Do you really think a man who has never had a crush on a woman won’t face any stigma for that? If a heterosexual man says that he has never gone on a date or has never had his first kiss, how do people react to that? Social norms for how men engage with romance are different from how women are expected to engage with romance; that doesn’t change the fact that men are still expected to engage with romance in certain normative ways.

Of course, aromanticism is not the same as just not going on dates or not kissing people. That is just one of many ways that aromanticism can look. But aromantic experiences are diverse, so it’s difficult to give a one-size-fits-all example of how aromantic heterosexual people are affected by arophobia. What I’m trying to express here is that aromantic people often don’t engage with romance in the way that society expects us to (if we engage with romance at all) and that, furthermore, men are often perceived differently when they do not conform to those expectations.

Something I love about xenogenders is that they can be anywhere on the gender spectrum because they're more so descriptions of gender rather than declarations of gender. If I were to say I'm a boy, then sure, I'm a boy. That's my gender, as I've just declared. Furthermore, that's the placement of my gender in relation to the gender binary and the wider gender spectrum. But if I were to say I'm vanillaromic, then that's a short way of saying my gender is or is like the smell of vanilla. While most describing themselves with xenogenders are nonbinary, you can be a binary man or woman who chooses to describe your particular manhood or womanhood with xenogenders. You can be a boy whose gender (which is "boy") is described best by the smell of vanilla. You can be a girl whose gender (which is "girl") is best described by a comparison to calico cats. We've fooled ourselves into thinking that "man" and "woman" have to be something specific (in comparison with nonbinary, which is an umbrella term of many different experiences), but in truth, what being a man or woman feels like or means will vary from person to person. Sometimes a man's gender is best described with a metaphor. Sometimes a woman's gender is best described with a simile. Haven't we been doing this for ages with poetry? I find the equal opportunity for specific descriptions of one's personal experience with gender – regardless of what or where it is – that xenogenders allow to be absolutely beautiful

I'm just gonna say this since I'm seeing a bunch of aro and ace discourse on my feed

anybody on the aromantic spectrum is valid.

anybody on the asexual spectrum is valid.

anybody on the aplatonic spectrum is valid.

anybody on the agender spectrum is valid.

anybody who says they don't experience any sort of attraction to the same intensity as an allo person would, is valid.

if you're allo, you have no say in any of this.

sincerely, somebody who is (probably?) grayromantic/graysexual

Okay to reblog/like even if you're on my DNI. I'm putting this on my disability blog because it relates to accessibility.

Let's talk about inaccessibility in the MOGAI/LIOM/Queer/LGBTQIA+ community online. Especially if you're a coiner, flag maker, or whatever.

Do you know how privileged it is to be able to not make any, and I mean ANY, of your posts accessible because you are arrogant about people being forced out of the community because of you? Specifically people who are visually impaired in any way which are forced out of the community because you're lack of willingness to be accessible?

There are many, MANY resources available to you to make your posts accessible. You absolutely can make your posts accessible. YOU, yes YOU, can absolutely fucking make YOUR POSTS accessible. Just fucking ask. Reach out.

You can draft your posts, you can look further into communities to make your post accessible before posting, you can save spoons to make your post accessible or wait until you have spoons to make them accessible, and you can look for others to create descriptions/plain text FOR YOUR POSTS.

At this point, there is no excuse to have none of your posts be accessible. "I don't have spoons," but making flags and counting terms also requires spoons. You aren't sneaky with not wanting to be accessible and putting in the work to do so. Oh, and we shouldn't have to be fucking BEGGING and ASKING for accessibility. BEING ACCESSIBLE SHOULD BE STANDARD.

[PT: Being accessible should be standard. End]

So you know what? Start calling people out on this ableist, arrogant behavior. And you know what else? It is ableist if you do not make no attempt to be accessible. Simply because, you have no reason to not be. If your blog shows absolutely NO ATTEMPT at being accessible, YOU need to change. Doesn't matter if it, 'ruins your aesthetic,' neither.

Start being accessible, or continue to have no care whatsoever for people who require that accessibility on your posts. Show no care and sympathy for people who are forced out of the community because of you.

Tags, asked to be removed

@chronicallycouchbound @epikulupu @xdle-coxns @galaxy-starshine @potato-head-kids @blindcultureis

Blorbo guessing time! Well, now that's it's day number 11+ of the event it is time to play 'Guess that blorbo!'

Since I did the event a little differently than other might have, when sending in guesses you'll need to specify if you're guessing for Blorbos D (2 characters) or Blorbos E (a group of characters).

Each term I made was tagged with 1 of the two for easy categorisation. Guesses made / answered will be tagged with 'blorbosquared guess.'

Best of luck and hope you have fun guessing!

For ease of guessing, here's a shortcut to the masterlist of all my terms from this event [ masterlist ]

Last day for guesses ~!!

Blorbo guessing time! Well, now that's it's day number 11+ of the event it is time to play 'Guess that blorbo!'

Since I did the event a little differently than other might have, when sending in guesses you'll need to specify if you're guessing for Blorbos D (2 characters) or Blorbos E (a group of characters).

Each term I made was tagged with 1 of the two for easy categorisation. Guesses made / answered will be tagged with 'blorbosquared guess.'

Best of luck and hope you have fun guessing!

For ease of guessing, here's a shortcut to the masterlist of all my terms from this event [ masterlist ]

Blorbo guessing time! Well, now that's it's day number 11+ of the event it is time to play 'Guess that blorbo!'

Since I did the event a little differently than other might have, when sending in guesses you'll need to specify if you're guessing for Blorbos D (2 characters) or Blorbos E (a group of characters).

Each term I made was tagged with 1 of the two for easy categorisation. Guesses made / answered will be tagged with 'blorbosquared guess.'

Best of luck and hope you have fun guessing!

For ease of guessing, here's a shortcut to the masterlist of all my terms from this event [ masterlist ]