hello! i know i’ve been inactive for like… a decade, and will probably continue to be pretty inactive, but just wanted to share that I have a new fic series out :) it’s not ryan-related unfortunately, but it’s an mcr tattoo parlor au that y’all should check out if you’re interested! much love, it’s been such a trip scrolling back through here today lmao
One time one of my coworkers was talking about his daughter (who was only 5-6 at the time) and how he was already worried about boys, etc. once she got older. He wasn’t one of those dads, who would quite literally hunt down a teenage boy with a shotgun over some backseat shenanigans. He was just a concerned dad.
He asked me what my dad used to do to scare all of the boys away from me, or to at least make sure they were good to me.
My answer?
Example.
My dad never once said, “Katie, if a boy hits you, make sure to bring him back here so I can make him pay.”
Instead, my kind, gentle-soul dad expressed anger and utter contempt for men who beat their wives (and vice versa), and has never in his life raised his hand against me or my mother.
My dad never once said, “Katie, don’t go out with a boy who’s rude to the waitress.”
Instead, my father has treated every single server we’ve had throughout my entire life (except the rare ones who were rude first) with respect and courtesy.
My dad never once told my brothers to get up and offer the pregnant lady their seat on the subway.
Instead he was the first one to stand up, and smiled proudly when his young sons copied him when 2 other women boarded.
My dad didn’t raise me to only make good decisions when he’s there looking over my shoulder. He showed me what to look for in a man, not by preaching at me or declaring that he was the perfect mold. But his treatment of others (esp women) is the foundation for my standards when it comes to men.
So, parents, you want to make sure all of those Bad Apples stay away? Step one is to demonstrate what a Good Apple looks like, up close and personal.
Because if you’ve taught your daughters to respect themselves enough to have high standards, there won’t be any need for you chase any Bad Apples away. Your daughter will take care of that for you.
This is important. It’s also important to teach little girls that self help is always an option.
When I was eight I went to my parents crying because a little boy was routinely jumping me from behind when he passed me in the hallways and pulling my hair and it hurt.
My parents didn’t tell me that the boy must have a crush on me, or that I should cut my hair, or even to go tell a teacher (though that last one wouldn’t have been bad advice).
Instead, my dad knelt down and soberly said the following:
“That’s not ok. It’s never ok for someone to touch you in a manner you don’t like. If someone does that too you once, you ask them politely to stop and tell them you don’t like it when they do that. If they do it a second time, you look them in the eye and tell them loudly, “I’m feeling threatened and if you do that again I will defend myself.’ If they do it a third time, you break their nose.”
He proceeded to teach me how to break someone’s nose.
I’m sure people will debate the appropriateness of this advice, but I’ve only ever had to move past yelling “I’m feeling threatened” once. My dad wanted me to know, from an early age, that I wasn’t weak or entirely dependent on others to defend myself, he wanted to teach me that I had power too, and I should use it when necessary.
if u remember being a young gay and watching music videos on youtube with hot women in them and not understanding why u were so into them hit like
the only people who understand literature are those who literally eat books. sorry. meaning does not exist until you devour it.
me watching monsters inc as a kid: how did it take so long for anyone to figure out that human child laughter not only produced energy like screams, but was more effective, and that children aren’t actually dangerous at all?
me watching monsters inc now: monsters incorporated, a multi-billion dollar corporate giant, stood to make extra profits off a scream shortage because low supply with high demand makes it possible to charge a fortune for a necessary commodity and everyone has no choice but to pay the high prices because they can’t go without electricity. Therefore Monsters Inc, as well as any other major powers that may have existed at the start of the era of using scream energy, fabricated the idea that only screams could generate sustainable energy sources in order to create artificial scarcity, because laugh energy was far easier to obtain and far more efficient, and therefore stood to lower the value of energy due to surplus. They also fabricated the idea that human children were toxic, in order to a) make other monsters too afraid to go near them to do research and possibly discover the secret of laugh energy, and b) to make monsters so afraid of going near them that there is a shortage of scarers, making it harder for rival companies to rise up and create competition. Even in the monster world, capitalism is based on lies, greed and cruelty, and even monster companies have no qualms about using and abusing children to maximize profits.
i’ll go first straight, bi, pan, demi, then lesbian
ok full offense but girls only “’‘don’t care about no homo”“ when they’re laboring under the assumption that whoever they’re sharing clothes with or snuggling or whatever the fuck is straight
like, some of the most insidious harassment i’ve ever endured because of my orientation has been from straight girls! boys and men have been sexually aggressive towards me for as long as i’ve been out but it’s straight girls and women who have outright shunned me and implied that i’m a predator solely because i’m attracted to women
like, please stop behaving as though straight women don’t perpetuate lesbophobia or homophobia because they’re capable of being ~soooo intimate~ with ~no issues~ it’s untrue and frankly kind of insulting lol
Were you listening to me, Neo? Or were you looking at the woman in the red dress?
oh fuck you
omg
tag urself I’m seb
Ok real talk. I really need these. Please.
I wanna get high and make out with you
hey if you have to lie about your gf or gender or sexual orientation these holidays, just know you aren’t a bad person!!!! you are valuing your safety over all else and you are right for doing so!!!
idk what to tell you I’m so…. why was THIS his first post after a billion years??? ryan what the fuck
