@zanythoughts, others, and myself used to host a discussion at various hypno-kink conventions called “Hypnoamory,” where we mulled over some of the emotional, interpersonal, and romantic issues that can arise when exploring a hypno kink or hypnosis fetish with play partners.

We keep saying we should start the discussion up again someday, but in the meantime, here’s our outline from those discussion classes. It doesn’t have concrete answers (Spoiler Alert: there probably aren’t any), but it may help identify some of the common questions and challenges that come up. (Though it’s a couple years old now – if we were to do it again, I’m sure there’s a lot more to add or amend.)

POSSIBLE DISCUSSION TOPICS:

 1) Does erotic hypnosis (EH) play change, intensify, or accelerate romantic feelings, attachments, and relationships? More so than a “vanilla” relationship?

       What if you factor in:

 ·       D/s play

·       Service-oriented relationship

·       The excitement of exploring a new kink

·       The excitement of finding a kink play partner

·       Emotional and/or erotic dependence

·       Differences between Eroticism / Sexual desire / Connection or Rapport / Platonic Love / Romantic Love

 2) What unique challenges arise when one, both, or more EH play partners have little or no previous experience in kink relationships? In polyamorous relationships?

 ·       Handling jealousy between multiple subjects and/or subs? Between multiple hypnotists and/or tops?

·       Dealing with imbalances in the nature or depth of the play partners’ feelings

 3) Any experience or advice on how to best approach new EH explorations when there is an existing significant other or partner involved who is not kinky or is not interested in EH?

 ·       Balancing long-term, established non-kink relationships with an individual’s desire to explore EH

·       Setting, respecting, and minding limits and boundaries

·       Can emotions be expected to stay within boundaries or follow rules?

 4) What special care or considerations should subjects and hypnotists take into account with EH play?

 ·       What is it about trancing that suggests longer-term obedience, attachment, exclusivity, or even addiction?

·       How does the dynamic shift if there is a financial element involved? For example, professional hypno dom(me)s or a fin-dom(me)?

 5) What different emotional dynamics are at work for the hypnotist?

 ·       Does the hypnotist have any unique or extra responsibilities?

·       Are there scenarios in which an erotic hypnotist should actively avoid emotional attachment to the subject?

·       Choice of language (addictive, dependent, exclusive)

·       Intentional or unintentional misuse of power exchange and how to respond

·       Responsibilities (removal of or time-limitations on suggestions, safeties if relationship ends)

 6) What different emotional dynamics are at work for the hypnotic subject?

 ·       Does the subject have any unique or extra responsibilities?

·       Are there scenarios in which the hypnotic subject should actively avoid emotional attachment to the hypnotist?

·       In communicating to the hypnotist crucial information about existing relationships and feelings?

·       Safeties if relationship ends

·       How the hypnotist’s language style affects them and communicating modifications

·       Aftercare required or desired (from either side of the watch)

 7) Are there differences if an EH romantic (or non-romantic) relationship occurs online, long-distance, or in person?

The formatting got weird here but- this was absolutely a class I could have very much used when I joined the community. I would love to hear further thoughts from either/both of you or anyone else! (Also shout out to Seb for only briefly using the soul-shattering, twisted-abortion-of-a word “hypno” once here. :p )

Anon- @linnybeenaughty found this old class outline from @sebsteerpike and @zanydanger that might clarify different questions that may come up with hypnoamory. I hope this is helpful! :) Write me back and let me know more about what’s going on! :)

“Call Me Maybe” with every other beat removed

YOU’RE STUBBORN, JEANS STOLEN, NIGHT ROWING

THINK YOU’RE BABY?

HEY AND YOU, AMAZING, BUT YOMBER, SO CLAYBE 

[Image IDs: Two gifs of people dancing]

Nothing left

the first special was perfection, i can’t wait to see the rest💙✨

He changed his mind.

It's Hypnovember!

I'm not doing any prompts, but can I ask if you've done your kink holiday shopping? We've still got some of these Hypnosis Event 1-Inch Flagging Enamel Pins.

There's a little arrow at the top - you can wear it up if you're a hypnotist, down if you're a subject, and to the sides if you're feeling switchy. You can buy it on Etsy!

We're not planning on any Black Friday deals, but if you want to buy a ton of them there may be deals to be made.

All amazing points and so important to take in. I think I have done a couple of these, but not habitually or intensely. But it’s good awareness for me.

Reblog if you’re a petticoated swashbuckler and would stab a man with a hairpin

honestly I love history that reminds us that the assholes of today are exactly like the assholes of yesteryear

PETTICOATED SWASHBUCKLERS UNITE

Have worn a hat pin. Would gladly stab an asshole with my tiny, beautiful sword

If I don’t reblog this every time, assume I’m sharpening my hatpin.

I give my wife weapons cause she takes the bus to and from work and she works late nights. I think all women should do the same. Some men are disgusting

While I empathise with the sentiment, @themoonmothwrites, Victorian hatpins where much bigger than you were probably imagining, and some self-defence classes gave fencing lessons with them. Here’s a quote:

That’s from:

Kikuji Kawada, from The Last Cosmology, 1988

@enscenic @zanydanger

i'd like you all to meet a very special guy

his name is clifford

Gosh! I made this class with this intention - so I super appreciate you saying so. I just wanted it to feel accessible. 🌻

my coffin shaped locket is the perfect size to fit one singular ibuprofen

this is surprisingly useful actually

stop wasting space and add another

tres ibuprofenitos

transmasc fall is coming up, you know what that means

i don't know what i was going for with this post

it was a prophecy and a warning.