if you like a piece of media that is good eventually youll more or less run out of things to say about how good it is but if you like a piece of media that is objectively pretty mediocre but also somehow deeply compelling thats how the demons get you

online communities are so strange because people slip away so easily. you can be on here for years, folding people you've never met into the fabric of your daily life, and then they disappear, leaving only ghost posts scattered across tumblr behind. or their blog stays dormant, for weeks, months, years, until you're only still following them because you remember that they love sunflowers or they were kind to you when they didn't have to be or the last thing they posted was sad and raw and you still worry about them sometimes.

and sometimes they come back when you least expect it, years later, even, and there's this sudden rush of relief like there you are, there you are, even though you barely knew each other.

there's a strange kind of love to it. i don't know you and i want to hold your hand across miles and time zones and oceans. i can still see the imprint of you in this community you left. you don't anyone will notice or care when you're gone, but we notice and we care and we wish you well.

i hope you're all okay out there. i hope the sun is shining on your face and you are breathing deeply. i miss you.

Btw when someone says "don't talk to me like that, I don't know you" the normal thing to do is apologize for the perceived overfamiliarity and correct the behavior. Just in case anyone was wondering

If someone said that to me I would unironically dig an underground bunker by hand and only ever leave to pick up doordash orders and nobody would ever see me again ever holy shit

Alternatively I would just jump off a bridge immediately god damn even just reading that makes my soul want to fucking die

hey dude this is a really weird thing to say to a stranger!

Buddy you don't get it I would fucking perish

Hey dude i know rejection sensitive dysphoria is a thing but if you react this strongly to people setting simple boundaries you need to figure out how to work through that

Oh I deal with it. By being incredibly careful about anything I say to anyone in person ever

Although I once asked my cousin if I could join her dnd group (I have noclue how it works) and she went "Uh... No" and basically was like "you'd fuck it up" (she was very nice about it but damn I felt like the dumbest bitch alive ever)

And I haven't recovered since! So yeah that's why I'm a freak online because real life is impossible lmao! Hope this explains it!

That's not dealing with it but good luck I guess

Fyi, this is not only a bad way to deal with it bc it's straight up leaning into your own disordered thinking, but it's also EVEN MORE inconsiderate than the original offense of being overly familiar.

Y'all may not realize the things you do are manipulative, but responding to a fair boundary (that isn't even stated in a rude way) with "If anyone ever set this reasonable boundary with me I would run away into the woods" is manipulation. You are making it more difficult for people to feel safe telling you when you've made them uncomfortable or crossed a boundary, which means they'll likely respond by either cutting you off or allowing you to walk over their boundaries for fear of setting you off.

That's manipulative. You might genuinely be mortified, but that is something you NEED to work on, because the alternative is forcing everyone to walk on eggshells around you at the risk that politely setting any boundaries will set you off.

If you'd be fucked up if someone said that to you, that's understandable. I would be. So apologize politely, then deal with your own shit on your own time.

Here are some easy scripts for when you have overstepped that boundary:

"Oh, sorry! My bad, I'll back off."

"I'm sorry- I'll keep that in mind for the future."

"Whoops! Sorry about that, I'll keep an eye on my tone."

"Ah, sorry! I didn't mean to overstep or be so familiar. I won't do it again- have a good one!"

These:

-Deflect with a casual tone. You overstepped a boundary, you didn't murder their cat. Unless you did something super egregious, they probably don't hate you, they just want you to back off a little.

-Apologize for the behavior without making it too emotional. You don't need to castigate yourself- that makes things feel worse for everybody. Just say you're sorry.

-Indicate that you will not do the action again and provide a way to move on. Overstepping a boundary is NORMAL. It isn't great, but it happens to literally everybody at some point. Just say you're sorry and move on. Unless they express otherwise, future communications are probably still an option- just in a way that respects the other person's boundaries.

Scripts are great for social anxiety and RSD. Everybody screws up eventually, so don't make it worse for yourself and let the anxiety win. RSD loves to trick you into devaluing yourself and other people, so practicing healthy social interactions is a good way to learn how to live with it.

Minecraft sea turtles, when bred, will always try to travel back to the beach where they themselves spawned in to lay their eggs. You can place turtle eggs in a chosen location and when they hatch they will consider that their home point to return to. With this, you could theoretically do messenger turtles with your friends by having turtles hatch at each of your home bases and then swapping turtles. If they want to get a message to you, they can breed your turtle and it will return to your base. The only thing is that you can’t actually attach anything to a turtle so the only thing you can actually message your friends would be turtle eggs on their lawn. Unless you changed the name of the turtle to reflect your message so a “CHECK YOUR DMS” could appear on your front yard which would be medieval considering there’s a chat feature in the game already. Plus the whole process would be so stupid in general and you would have to keep swapping turtles. I think people should do this however

in minecraft your options of communication include divine psychic messages, a landline, mail delivered by train, quantum mechanics enables wi-fi, and this.

Keep seeing pronoun positivity posts is about he/they and she/theys. That's cool and all but this one's for the she/hes. If you're a she/he I love you and you can take as much mint as you want from our garden

Is this a positivity post or a secret cry for help? OP, how bad is the mint situation?

It's both the mint situation is fucking severe

no tumblr i'm not gonna spam those so the left counter overflows and turns into "TUM" or something equally corny

I have found the best ally

Straight and cis people will say that they are allies, but you will NEVER measure up to my dentist.

Me: "Hey, is it ok if I can change my name on my info from [DEADNAME] to Sai?"

Random woman that I wasn't even talking to in the chair next to me: "Honey, if that's the name you had at birth, [DEADNAME] is your only name."

My dentist, very slowly turning her rolley chair towards the woman: "Shush."

Random woman: "Excuse me?"

Destist: *closes privacy curtain while staring bullets at the lady*

Me: *pissing myself laughing*

My dentist while changing my name in my info (reminder that English is not her first language, she immigrated from Russia): "There, Sai, you have pretty boy teeth. Smile and make all girls swoon."

Me not having the heart to tell her I'm not transmasc but I'm Agender, and still pissing myself laughing: "Thank you [DENTIST NAME]."

Rb to have pretty chosen gender teeth. Smile and make all girls swoon.

transcendental hygienist

It is literally crazy how often people will, without a hint of irony, say shit like "if you are into cnc/intox/somno/incest/etc I'll fucking kill you/kill yourself/you should fucking die" all in a million variations and it's like damn, looks like someone is really thinking about inflicting violence, you could even say perhaps fantasizing about it, quite a lot. But don't worry you're wayyy better than those filthy degenerates because unlike them, you don't ask for consent before telling them to kill themselves, negotiate boundaries prior, keep channels of communication open, and care for them afterwards and strengthen the relationship. No you're sooo much more moral than them cause you actually just want them to die. No further reflection needed 👍

Anyone ever put off starting a series or getting into a new craft or activity because you're current stimuli are doing you quite nicely and you KNOW there's heaps of dopamine stored in that new thing so you're saving it for whenever your next major depressive episode hits like a pika hoarding grass for winter or do I just have severe ADHD?

Oh hang on a minute.

That's why so many of us have piles of books on our shelves we haven't read or to-read collections on Ao3. Those are future dopamine stores, for when the current interests start having diminishing returns.

Well fuck I feel way less guilty about keeping all that shit now. Because I *will* get into it at some point. I get into all my art supplies within five years and I get into books within seven. I even get back into stuff I was previously engaged with and fell out with. It's a dopamine store that needed to recharge.

Cool.

Oh, you think you're safe now?

Nothing can deliver you from these paws!

I've been using my instagram stories as a doodle zone lately. Here's some recent ones. Look at that big boy! Watch out for him.

Reading a book about slavery in the middle-ages, and as the author sorts through different source materials from different eras, I am starting to understand why so many completely fantastical accounts of "faraway lands" went without as much as a shrug. The world is such a weird place that you can either refuse to believe any of it or just go "yeah that might as well happen" and carry on with your day.

There was this 10th century arab traveller who wrote into an account that the fine trade furs come from a land where the night only lasts one hour in the summer and the sun doesn't rise at all in the winter, people use dogs to travel, and where children have white hair. I don't think I'd believe something like that either if I didn't live here.

So I started working again today, and me and my coworker had to squeeze lemons which usually is a really un fun job but TODAY. We had the mostly lovely batch of lemons to work with. So we rated how smoothly they cut and how nice the insides of them looked for about an hour. An absolutely marvelous time I gotta say

And in case anyone was wondering

Here she is. The most lovely lemon I’ve ever laid eyes upon

Just thinking about her. I can’t believe we had to turn her into lemon juice