TOUCH 👏 MY 👏 MUSE 👏

YOU DO NOT NEED MY PERMISSION

IT MAKES IT UNPREDICTABLE AND IMMERSIVE

I APPROVE, 10/10, GO AHEAD AND SHOVE THEM AROUND OR SURPRISE THEM WITH A CUDDLE, YOU DO NOT NEED TO ASK (just don't kill them but we all know this)

This is not like a fully completed thought but yk

So I've done my first aid + CPR a few times. And every single time I try and bring up scenarios for fat folks

Specifically like 'what if someone is too large for me to wrap my arms around then to do the heimleich'

And its incredibly rare I get a decent answer.

How absolutely insane is it that me, as a fat person, is asking how to have MY life saved or to save ANOTHER life, is an impossible feat if someone is fat.

Most of the time they tell me to 'just try anyways uwu'

There has got to be a better option.

From a first aid and CPR trainer, who is also fat.

The heimleich is scientifically as effective as slapping someone VERY hard on the back. The only reason it's so well taught is the man that invented it did a lot of great PR for himself. It's also a bit easier for smaller framed people to get the necessary force in, because people are often extremely scared to hurt people, even in life threatening situations.

With larger bodied people, whether they be fat, tall, muscular, etc. If you cannot get your arms around them, literally just slap the shit out of their shoulders. You want hard, open palmed slaps right in the center of the shoulders or slightly below.

If they are too tall for you to reach that high, guide them to lean over the back of a chair, and then slap slap slap slap slap.

It's been proven to be just as effective through many studies. It just doesn't have a trademarked name and a dramatic effect in film.

If you have to do CPR on a larger bodied person, again, fat, body builder, tall and broad, whoever, the trick to finding where you want to put your hands if going to be to take your hand and shove it in their armpit. No seriously. Put your hand in their armpit, then drag it in a straight line towards yourself until you're in the center of the chest, then put your other hand beneath that one. This is where you push. Then you are going to move the arm closest to you out of the way so you can get closer to them, and get the leverage you need to press down for compressions. The more of your body weight that is over your hands, the better the compression will be. Act like you are trying desperately to pack the last of your clothes in a suitcase, and just slam down hard on their chest.

They will make *horrible* noises. You might even break ribs.

But a broken rib is better than being dead.

One day, perhaps, other CPR and First Aid instructors will actually know and teach this shit. But the medical field is filled with people who don't know, don't care, or just outright hate fat people. So while this information won't fix your complaint, I do hope it helps someone out there with saving their loved ones, should it ever be needed.

I have to redo my basic lifesaving course each year, and we are taught to do the back slapping method first before you try the heimleich manover. We are also taught how to do CPR on all body types, from new born babies to adults of all sizes. We have chest kits for practicing the heimleich manover, and since we all have a variety of body shapes, we have learned how to clear the airway of a variety of body shapes. I'm noticeably taller, older and fatter than many of my peers, so they like to practice with me for the bigger body type.

We are also taught how to spot signs of cardiac distress, heart attack and stroke, and how they differ with age and between men and women, and how race and skin colour might affect them (cyanosis looks different on different shades of skin after all, amongst other things).

This is all through a student led BLS course that all students at the medical school must take each year, and honestly I just thought that was how all first aid courses went. It's wild to me that some of them aren't being taught that way.

// PSA.

I will always LOVE writing with all of you!! just because I do the above things =/= me having lesser interest in our interactions. this has been a PSA.

send me ❤ and I will bold all that applies to your muse

I would kill for you. • I would make love to you. • I would fuck you. • I would protect you. • I would hurt you for a selfish cause. • I wish we had more in common. • I want nothing to do with you. • I want to see you cry. • I want a future with you. • I want to destroy your future. • I do not care what you do. • I am indifferent towards you. • I want children with you. • I love you ( platonically ) • I love you ( romantically ) • I love you life family. • You are my family. • I could fall in love with you. • I would lie for you. • I would fight by your side. • I will never let you go. • I would hold you while you cried. • I would hug you. • I want to kiss you. • I would stay by your bedside if you were ill. • I want to fall asleep with you in my arms. • I want to forget you. • I will never forget you. • I only want to make you proud. • I wish I could make you happy. • You deserve nothing. • I will never forgive you. • You confuse me.

never be embarrassed for being proud of your OC.  never listen to the voices telling you they’re too powerful or too weak,  too angry or too happy,  too hard or too vulnerable,  too strong or not strong enough.  if they are exactly how you intended to create them,  or if they’ve grown beyond what you imagined in a way that makes you happy,  then that’s all that matters.  every published and produced ‘canon’ character is someone’s OC.  you don’t bat an eye at these characters being proclaimed to be powerful.  you don’t bat an eye at them being praised within the text or loved by the writers and fans.  your OC is no different.  there is not any real,  important difference between what you’ve created and what you see on the pages of a book or on a screen.  it’s all of equal value.  it’s all just people telling stories and enjoyment is the only real value. 

sad headcanon q’s… 

“In 2004 I worked as an intern in Newsweek and had to go through the wires coming in from the Middle East.

The Iraq war was raging. Israel was committing its routine violations and killings.

The images were devastating and unequivocally condemning of both the USA and Israel, but I remember the editors would reject all my picks and demand images of burnt cars or vague images of destruction.

So I brought a hard drive and collected everything they didn't publish.

It was my first live glimpse of the lack of ethics or integrity in most US media.

Not the journalists on the ground, but of the senior editors making the calls - in their self important glass cubicles.

And no, to the cynics out there..it's not all too complicated to discuss on social media.

Social media is the only reason we know what's happening in Palestine.

And the only reason mainstream news has to keep up and sprinkle some actual news now and then.

Meanwhile we are seeing much less footage coming out of Gaza - Israel has been killing off all the journalists.

This is terrifying.”

ID: [Black screen with text over it. Text reads: “NEVER FORGET. The largest WW2 Nazi ghetto housed half a million Jews. They were forced to leave their homes with what they could carry. They were then slowly starved and finally exterminated. Almost a perfect description of the hell in Rafah today except it's 1.5 million people. And they said "Never Again"”] END ID.

reminder that a bad experience you've had with one person in the rpc doesn't mean you're going to have that same experience with everyone else in the community.  just bc someone dropped you as a partner for whatever reason,  for not doing what  they  wanted you to do,  for not matching  their  writing standards or style,  it doesn't mean that applies to everyone else.  keep giving new people a chance and approach them with a fresh perspective.  don't change who you are and how you want to run 'your' blog so it is comfortable for  'others'  around you.  ♡♡

send ‘i licked you so you’re mine now’ for my muse’s reaction.

Dialogue Responses Masterlist

"Where do we go from here?" (x)

"I miss you." (x)

"It doesn't matter." (x)

“How are you?” (x)

"I need your help." (x)

“What do you need?” (x)

“I have a plan.” (x)

“There is something I wanted to tell you…” (x)

“What is wrong with you?” (x)

“Do you feel better now?” (x)

“I feel like I’m losing you.” (x)

“What are we?” (x)

“Jealousy doesn’t look good on you.” (x)

“I think you are in love.” (x)

“Can we talk?” (x)

“Are you afraid of me?” (x)

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