Chen Chen

already more interesting drama than the movie itself

Me whenever someone like Jenny Nicholson or Lindsay Ellis or whatever posts an uncomplimentary review of something: eh whatever

Me whenever someone drags in the lawyers to try to silence them: actually I suddenly care about this more than anything

Designer Joe Doucet invented a flat wind turbine that can be incorporated into walls, rather than harnessing the wind with huge blades suspended on tall towers. The turbine wall is made up of a grid of square panes that spin along 25 axes | source

Its hypnotic

heart shaped necklaces that say “find me in the future” “there you are sweetheart sorry i’m late i was looking everywhere for you”

Magic

Wilting Flowers Elegantly Sculpted in Glass by Lilla Tabasso Are Suspended in States of Decay

throwing a grenade and then immediately throwing myself on top of it to save everyone

i completely miss the grenade and everyone in the room dies including me

Democrat political strategy

I’d divorce him too lmao

It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.

Basically!

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

underrated trope: “i’ve lost my memory and idk who you are but i just have this feeling that i’m supposed to trust you”

This - but the feeling is absolutely, completely, 100% wrong.

Person 1: “I don’t know what it is about you…I just know that I can trust you.”

Person 2, their actual, literal worst enemy: “Excuse me, what?”

Cue enemies to friends to lovers speedrun.

love this

I love desire paths. There's something so wonderous about seeing an echo of humanity. Depending on it's location, a desire path can mean so many different things.

In a city, like the pic above, they represent rebellion, and efficiency. The messiness of humanity. We like to imagine we're oh so logical and neat so we design our cities to be logical and neat an then real humans literally trample on that idea. The ego required to think you can design something perfect that checks every box. Life is all about compromise and patching stuff when some new problem arises. Though people have certainly tried! Ohio state univeristy let students carve their desire paths, and then paved them over. It looks pretty artsy.

Some people will try to discourage desire paths, but this is almost always going to fail.

Eventually, people just have to accept them. Humans are too dang stubborn.

Certain desire paths are just adorable. A 0.5 second time saver. You just can't design for maximum efficiency, humans will always find shortcuts!

Though on occasion a desire path can actually be the least efficient way...especially if you're superstitious.

In a wilder area, such as below, they show us the curiosity of humans. A desire path somewhere natural often tells you there's something interesting just ahead. (Though remember some ecosystems are fragile and will suffer if trampled! Stick to paths in these sorts of areas)

And how about desire stairs? I always think these look so cool. We get see humans determination to climb, to traverse every kind of terrain.

And for something really crazy...a desire path used for centuries will create a 'holloway'

All of these pics are off the Desirepath subreddit, check them out for more examples! And many thanks to the users who submitted these photos.

I love being home, cooking, taking long showers and just existing in my own time warp.

someone give him a grammy

absolutely maddening that the conversation about 2021 underemployment ("i have so many openings at my business!! why is no one applying?!?") is all about low wages.

yes of course you ought to offer a living wage. but unpredictable schedules, no sick leave or vacation, no health insurance, all of that matters too. a lot more than people realize.

raising salaries is necessary but not sufficient

Thiiiiissss. I loved my job at Home Depot and while the pay wasn’t GREAT it was manageable. The biggest reason I left was the lack of regular schedule and the fact that I wasn’t allowed to sit.

Please take me to the gourd world....

Man I love that funky bard gourd

Really just expecting to see a bunch of Totoros any second

what if we kissed in the ballsack garden