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“People Change”

So i’ve been thinking about the words “people change” a lot lately. Throughout my whole life I was bullied because of many things. My body, my sexuality, my clothing choices, and my personality for some examples. So when it came to my freshman year I decided to move schools. When I got to high school everyone kept telling me well people change so you can’t really say that they were mean to you and hold a grudge. But what is that really saying to someone who was bullied to the point of moving schools. That it’s okay that they bullied me then because now they can be different? Just because they can forget about calling me slurs, shoving me into lockers, pulling my hair, shoving push pins and pencils into my back, shooting “hornets” at me in class, and threatening me online and at school doesn’t mean I can forget about it. Anytime I walk into that middle school even now I get knots in my stomach because of the memories. Just because I say that they “were” mean to me then doesn’t mean I am saying that they still would be. I’m not holding a grudge against those kids in middle school and elementary school. We were all just kids trying to figure out how to go through it all. Middle school was crazy for everyone, you go through so many changes. I was an easy target. I was on the chubby side, different, and I wasn’t afraid to express myself. The only thing I wasn’t good at was protecting myself and standing up to people. So no, i’m not mad at those kids anymore because I get it. They all wanted to fit in and when the “popular” kids started messing with me it was just a chain reaction. So the whole point of this I guess is, what are we really teaching younger kids that haven’t had the luck I did by getting out of there. Are we teaching them that it’s okay to bully because “people change”? If you don’t remember doing it then it couldn’t have happened, right? I know for my situation I will never forget any of it and I will never forget the names of the people who did it. But are we really going to make it seem okay that they did it past by saying that they can change. Another thing, so people say that bullies can change but cheaters can’t. That’s kinda hypocritical don’t you think. A kid could be labeled a cheater in middle school for talking to a girl who is his friend and his “girlfriend” doesn’t like it. He will for the rest of this schooling career be known as a cheater or a girl could make a stupid mistake in middle school will be known as a slut for her schooling career. But a kid who can bully someone to the point of self harm or suicide in middle school can change in high school. I don’t have any grudges with those kids that bullied me because it helped me realize who I am and gave me the friends I have now. So thank you to those kids that helped me, I didn’t know it at the time but life gets better. I know someone won’t agree with me but that’s alright because this is my opinion with my experience.

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