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yes babe your final form is so horrifying and uninterpretable by mortal eyes <3

*reads an online take about queer people*

Ah, so this person has never hung out with adult gay men irl. I see.

Idk who needs to hear this but queer men and bi women call themselves butch and femme all the time and most of the arguing about who “gets to use” these terms is conducted by terminally online white cisgender teenagers.

Also because I saw someone on tiktok claiming that she/her gay men don’t exist, let me tell you right now that yes they do. In abundance. Now go outside and find one and thank her for her service.

Plus, butch and femme are just as deep and nuanced gender performances when they’re done by mlm as they are when they’re done by wlw. Men do, in fact, get to have complicated relationships with gender!

The point of getting rid of the death penalty isn’t that there are some innocent people on it. The point of prison abolition isn’t that there are some innocent people in prison.

The point is that the state shouldn’t have the power to kill people. The point is that the prison system commits systemic abuses of human rights, doesn’t reduce crime, is deeply racist, and doesn’t take the desires of the victims into account. To argue about whether one individual on death row or with a life sentence is innocent or guilty is just a distraction from the central issues, which is that these institutions are unjust and should not exist

*thinks about my favourite character getting fucked over by canon* this is unacceptable *goes off to write fic where I fuck them over in my own, superior way*

Someone replied to one of our recent posts:

“Agree with most of this but would like to point out that a part of the push to make Pride less sexual is to make it a safe space for queer children and to help straights realize being queer isn’t just about fetishes.“

(The person is not tagged because I don’t want to send any hate to them, and the reply isn’t being responded to directly because Tumblr has made that near impossible)

When I came out, my mom told me I couldn’t tell my little sister because it was too sexual.

Later, I moved to the “Big City”, what I hoped to be a haven for queer people. I was with one of the first queer friends my wife and I had made in the city, we had just watched their wrestling debut, and had gone to their apartment afterwards with a group of strangers. Some this group our friend had told us behind the scenes were much more right wing causing our friend to keep parts of their queer identity under wraps.

Our friend suddenly turned to us and began scolding us, telling me and my wife that one of their coworkers at the city Pride Centre had approached them and told them that she had seen me and my wife kiss, and we needed to cut it out with the PDA.

I nodded in front of this group of strangers and when I could no longer hold my tears back I excused myself to the bathroom, cried and waited there until it was no longer obvious I had been crying. We hurried out.

The kiss in question was a goodbye kiss, as my wife went back to campus, and I don’t remember it. I have always been rather shy with PDA and don’t think it could have been much more than a peck. The coworker later told our friend that she was going through a bad breakup and our friend later explained that this was actually the reason for the complaint.

I have never felt safe in queer spaces since. Talking to the same friend later, they asked me and my wife to chaperone the Queer Prom and without thinking I assured them we would make sure not to hold hands or dance while we were there so it would stay “a safe space for children”.

When I was a child, I stumbled into a pride parade and was shocked and upset by the men in gold short shorts. My uncle apologized for letting me see something so sexual and awful.

Every single thing queer people do is “about fetishes” to people who hate queerness. Being less sexual is not going to change that.

I had seen short shorts before. I would see them again, and no one would apologize for that. The thing I was being kept “safe” from was not overly sexual behaviour, and considering there are already laws against indecent exposure, the same is true for children now.

Keeping theoretical children safe has been the justification for the continuing genocide against queer people all around the globe, so this rhetoric is not harmless. It has been used to put queer people in labour camps and slaughter them. 

I have nothing to prove to “straights” and I was the “queer child” who was horrified by the pride parades. As an adult, the discomfort I felt at seeing queer people existing happily and authentically in short shorts, is not something I needed to be kept safe from.

This nonsense is nothing more or less than the same moral panic that has killed queer people throughout history.

Things with no gay/queer rep can be progressive and groundbreaking actually and need to be part of the discussion of representation in media

Like,,,,

A show about an interracial disabled couple (that’s written well) is just as progressive as a show about two gay characters

A show with multiple well written POC characters, especially in leading roles, is progressive and should be part of the discussion

Representation has never only meant queer rep.

And I hate that so many of POC and disabled people see that shows and books that represent them, not get included or acknowledge in the discussion about representation.

Just because something doesn’t represent you, doesn’t mean it’s not representing someone else.

Yes queer rep is good, of course it is (I’m neither cis nor het) but I can not begin to understand how so many of you will just,,,ignore shows that represent POC and/or disabled people in a well written and positive way because it’s not what you are. Or tell us that when we mention them as good examples of rep that it’s not really representation.

The world exist outside of you and your experience.

“The world exists outside of you and your experience” is like literally half the point of representation! It's not just about seeing yourself. It’s about seeing people who are different than you, represented as whole characters with their own lives and stories. It’s about building compassion for people with experiences you might not be able to directly relate to.

Gaslighting is active manipulation to make someone question their sanity, memory, or perception of reality. It’s not lying, remembering something differently, or disagreeing with someone.

“ofc jackles is phobic hes from texas” WHAT DO YOU MEAN?????????????

society would progress so much if yall stopped viewing the american south as like some twisted hell dimension like what the fuck do you think gay and trans people don’t exist in texas what the fuck

:3 is a genuinely cute emote everyone just got too brainwashed by 2012 anti-scene cringe culture to appreciate it. if you disagree with this no you don't :3

Some Holier-Than-Thou Fuck: "Dont shoplift, it inconveniences minimum wage workers and could get them fired :(((("

Me, a grocery store employee that literally watched a guy stuff 10 steaks into a stolen reusable bag at the checkout counter and watched him leave without paying, and without anybody being fired or getting into trouble at all: "You sure?"

I once lost my entire paycheck to Loss Prevention when some clothes were stolen from a shop where I worked. I couldn't pay rent, I was in a huge situation over it, almost lost my fucking apartment / became homeless for a second time. Fuck all of you who think this way.

thats incredibly illegal you probably should have fought that

Absolutely hilarious that you think "fought that" doesn't directly translate to "get myself fired and then lose my paycheck anyway." Cute of you to still have that level pollyanna entitlement.

Friend, I say this as someone who has worked in hellscapes like that - it is 100% illegal for them to dock your pay, and unlike say, being fired for racial discrimination or sexism, you can prove it happened. There is a paper trail. And the wrongful dismissal case for them firing you over demanding your pay back would give you such an incredible case that you could make THOUSANDS through litigation. In my state, I know at least 10 firms that would do that pro bono. I know this shit is hard and employers are trash, but you absolutely DID and DO have recourse. Getting salty at fellow workers for pointing this out to you does not help anyone, including you. It's not "pollyanna entitlement" to tell you you have the right to fight for your wages. It is the store's job to account for and prevent shrinkage. Not the employees.

 Don’t blame shoplifters, blame your boss. And then take him to court.

*says ‘I’m so fucking sick of this pandemic shit’ in a distinctly vaccinated, pro mask, pro lockdown, pro taking all the necessary safety measures way*

“Mean girls all grow up to be nurses!”

“Mean girls all go into social work!”

“The mean girl to teacher pipeline!”

Y’all, these are just pink collar jobs. The reason you think there’s so many “mean girls” in these fields is because they’re all like 97% women. Of course some of them are gonna be assholes. There’s assholes everywhere.

We get it. Your job isn’t like other girls’ jobs. It’s a cool job.

it’s true that there are some incredibly cruel people in all of these professions.

it’s also true that they all suffer from chronic underpayment, overwork, lack of institutional support, and insane bureaucratic demands that would make them fail the people in their care all the time even if every single one was a saint.

That’s absolutely missing the point.

While those are all “helper” professions and they very much are pink collar (and are underpaid, that’s not an incompatible idea), they’re also ones that involve power over vulnerable people’s lives. (And I’ve only encountered it as a comparison to, say, male bullies becoming cops, it’s not like men aren’t being mentioned here.)

Secretaries/administrative assistants aren’t on that list for a reason. Flight attendants aren’t on that list. Housecleaners aren’t on that list. Receptionists. Customer service representatives. Dental hygienists. The people who style hair or do nails. That’s not a list of pink collar jobs. It’s specifically (pink collar) positions where if you want to abuse people you’re relatively likely to get away with it.

It can both be true that “nurses who care for disabled people need better pay” and “nurses who care for disabled people have a lot of opportunities to abuse their power and that’s something worth talking about.”

Women aren’t immune from treating people badly because they’re women, or because women are underpaid. They’re sure not immune from specifically seeking out jobs that will allow them to be cruel without any consequences to them, if they get personal satisfaction out of being cruel.

You are trying to shut down a conversation about abuse.