If ANYONE is upset of the news about Jongdae, mad that he kept his relationship a secret, is asking for Jongdae to be removed from EXO, or is going to stop being a fan of EXO then I’m gonna need to ask you to PLEASE UNFOLLOW ME.
The reason the man kept her a secret is because you guys would come for her and rip her to shreds if they were publicly dating!
For an example, look at how the general public treat celebrities when they publicly date another celebrity. The comments, the shade, they all come from a bad place. This is probably why Jongdae kept his private life private, to protect his love from all the malicious things.
Just because they’re celebrities doesn’t mean they’re monks who don’t commit to a relationship and start a family.
None of us own them.
If your first response to this kind of news is anger, disgust or anything negative then you need to rethink your relationship as a fan.