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funraising fees are fucked up did you know gofundme takes up to 7.9% of everything people donate you + $0.30 per donation
that means that if 10 people help you raise $1000, you’re losing $82 bucks
if youre a kid in trouble trying to raise money dont make my mistakes and use youcaring which is apparently toally free, and not gofundme
quuer-r-beks
Gofundme just sucks in general. After a woman tried raising money for an abortion, they pulled her campaign and changed their terms of service so that starting a campaign for an abortion is basically against the rules, but anti-choice groups (some of which are known to be violent) are still able to use the site. source
But they let Darren Wilson have his campaign after he murdered Mike Brown
deannathespoonie
Guys spread this!! http://www.youcaring.com/ really is free!
thecharliecharmander
^YouCaring is great, in my experience. They can stay free because they ask everyone who donates to a cause whether they’d like to donate $1 to the website to keep it running.
It’s also not racist and anti-choice.
I did not know this
exohplanet
Just reblogging this bc it breaks my heart to see people who desperately need help get ripped off
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Anonymous asked:
it's gross how sexual you are about girls
ah yes, it’s gross, how me, a lesbian, is sexually attracted to girls in a sexual way like I want to have sex with them because I’m sexually attracted to girls sexually
Anonymous asked:
hello! 🌸 i'm super confused about my gender and i'm wondering if maybe i'm a boy. how do u know if you're trans?
Honestly it's a really personal experience and it's different for everyone. For me, being trans is how I deal with my dysphoria and discomfort with my body. It's the best I can do right now, like it's the only "treatment" option I have to deal with my dysphoria. Ask yourself if you'd want to transition if you lived removed from society, no one around except you? Ask yourself if you'd want to be a man or a woman when you're old and gray? Would you want to look in the mirror and see an old man or an old woman? If you don't know the answer, that's perfectly fine, take your time, you'll get there. Good luck!
Anonymous asked:
hello! do you know any sites that offer cheap/affordable binders which aren't low quality? i'm really broke right now and i'm not really able to afford a really pricey binder, thank you in advance!
I personally use online giveaways (there are a few in our faq which might be worth checking out). Unfortunately I don't know any cheap binders that are worth going near, they're all quite dangerous and pretty much the same as using bandages, I'd definitely not recommend them at all.If possible it would be worth saving up until you can get a good one. Safety is really important, even using a "proper" binder is not completely safe, binding decreases your lung capacity and can really mess you up if you do it for too long. There's also the option of sports bras if possible, or a DIY camisole binder.
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Goddammit!
Im thinking about picking another name but people already call me by a chosen name but i dont know if i like it but i dont want to confuse people and i dont want people thinking that I'm picking a name that is similar/the same to someone who is well known and i dont want to seem like a wannabe or a try hard. But I really like the name and i dont know if im ready to change what people call me because they are already used to it. I hope this isnt to much rambling and it makes sense.
I'd say start small, try it out on yourself for a while, and maybe ask a close friend or two to help you. if it works for you then move onto more people.as for judgement, at the end of the day this is your name and your life. if someone is going to judge you for a name then they aren't worth your time anyway. I know quite a few people who changed their name even years after going by another name, and it was completely fine. good luck!
Does taking testosterone change your metabolism at all? Both my brothers are really skinny? Would that happen?
no it doesn't, and I actually know a bunch of Trans guys who started T believing it could help them lose weight, when in fact most guys I know gained weight from T (fat + muscle). It will reshift your fat to a more masculine pattern, but unless you work out more it won't make you lose weight.
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transcrap
Healing your back pain from binding
When I messed up my back or ribs from binding this is what I would do to fix it. (I’m not going to mention safe binding practices, I hope you all know those by now):
1. Stop wearing your binder. Try to take a break for at least 24 hours if possible. For me, not binding meant not leaving my room. Sometimes you just can’t take a break for a full day, but have your binder off for every second you possibly can. 2. Stretch! Do some yoga, or some other back stretches. Google it, you’ll find a million results. 3. Lay down. Seriously, do it. And stay there. Stop sitting in your computer chair with that horrible posture, it’s going to make things worse. Combine this with the next step and you’ll feel great… 4. HEAT. Heating pads are your best friend. Go buy one right now, they’re between $15-$30. I used to sleep on one overnight when the pain got really bad or if I had a day of excessively long binding. Also, take a hot bath or shower before bed. 5. Sleep flat on your back. Most of the healing and repair to your back will happen at night. A good night of properly positioned sleep and a heating pad may be all you need to be pain free the next day. If the pain is so bad you can’t relax your back muscles enough to lay flat, or it hurts when you lay on your back (I had this problem a lot), put a small pillow or towel under your lower back. You can also prop your feet up, it might make you more comfortable, but it’s not necessary. If you really can’t sleep on your back, sleep on your side with a pillow between your knees and your back extended (not rounded) so your spine will be aligned properly. Don’t sleep on your stomach or in the fetal position, it will make things worse. Make sure your neck is properly supported and try to avoid having your head turned to one side all night. If your neck hurts, your back will hurt too.
If possible, get a massage. Also take some OTC anti-inflammatory medication. This list assumes that your pain is due to muscle strain or minor tearing. If your pain is being caused by improper binding (ace bandages, tsk tsk), this might not help. If it’s being caused by broken ribs, or severe muscle damage, go to the damn hospital. I hope you’ve found this helpful, and I hope your back feels better. :-)
theartoftransliness
We’ve had some questions about binding and back pain. This might help those experiencing back pain due to binding.
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Anonymous asked:
So right now, I'm almost all the way sure that I'm a Transgender man. But I've been worried that my feelings aren't valid and that I'll never be masculine enough to be trans. What if im not trans? Are these feelings normal?
Being masculine and being male are two completely different concepts. The idea that you have to be masculine to be a man, or that being masculine/liking masculinity means you are a man, is a large misunderstanding that comes from the conflation of gender and gender roles. Your gender is an internal sense of who you are whereas gender roles are about societal expectations. Gender roles dictate what activities/behaviors/appearances are considered socially acceptable for people of that gender and they can be extremely different depending on the culture you’re in. For example, the gender roles of one culture might say all men must have long hair while the gender roles of another culture might say long hair is feminine and only acceptable for women. Does that make someone a man in one culture and a woman in another? No, because gender roles are completely arbitrary and whether or not you follow them has absolutely no impact on your gender itself. A woman, trans or cis, can be masculine or feminine and that doesn’t change the fact that they’re a woman. A man, trans or cis, can be masculine or feminine and that doesn’t change the fact that they’re a man. Gender is a deeply personal understanding of yourself and you can’t base how you identify off of the validation of others that you are or aren’t meeting made up concepts of how a person of a certain gender “should” be.Transitioning isn’t something that should be taken lightly. It’s a decision that requires deep exploration and questioning yourself in that process is vital. Having doubts or fears is incredibly normal, I’ve felt that way before every milestone in my transition (medical, social, and legal), and I’d encourage you to sit with those thoughts. Our first instinct might be to push away any doubts or hesitation but I see those feelings as opportunities to internally check yourself and ensure you’re making the right decision. Use them as motivation and recognize that even if you come to the conclusion that transitioning is right for you the fears might still be there. Allow yourself to be uncomfortable, don’t push away the thoughts, sit with them and see where they take you. See what questions come up and what responses are there. Question what you feel, why you feel that way, what the source of those feelings might be, in what way transitioning would effect those feelings, how transitioning would effect your overall life. Think about it in both the short and long term. Question what your fears and hesitations are and where they stem from. Seriously ask yourself “what if this ends up being wrong for me” and consider what you would do if that happened. It’s not unheard of - people detransition more often than you might think. It’s helpful if you can do this work with a therapist, one that will actually participate in and encourage the exploration and not just validate everything you say, but you can also do it by yourself.There are times when validation is an appropriate response but, contrary to what I constantly see online and in person, it’s not the be all end all of answers. Over the last few years I’ve come to deeply despise the overuse of validation within these groups/spaces because it’s often used (intentionally or not) to dissuade people from going through that questioning process or considering alternatives. It also does a disservice to those who are seeking guidance and comes across in a dismissive way. I can’t count the number of times I’ve seen trans-related blogs receive messages from people seriously questioning if they’re trans and looking for a sense of direction and the only response they get is, “You are valid! If you think you’re x then you’re x. Cis people don’t question their gender” as if it’s impossible for people to mistake internalized misogyny, internalized homophobia, the impact of sexism, dissociation, trauma responses, not conforming to gender roles, etc. for being trans. The very idea of that is treated as a giant taboo and contributes to the demonization of people who detransition. In reality not everyone who questions their gender is trans, transitioning is not right for everyone, and understanding that is vital to your own exploration and finding the right path for yourself. I don’t know if transitioning is right for you and neither does anyone else - the only person who can answer that question is you.
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Books to read in 2016
Books for self-growth, spiritualism, intelligence, wisdom, and knowledge that will last a life time.
Quote Books: The Little Book of Confidence, The Little Book of Mindfulness, Life - selected quotations, Love - Selected Quotations, 365 TAO: Daily Meditations, Daily Peace, I Declare: 31 promises to speak over your life.
Self Help Books: You Can Heal Your Life, Change your life in 7 days, The Secret, Don’t Let Anything Dull Your Sparkle, Love from Heaven, The Chimp Paradox: Mind Management, The Road Less Traveled, The Deeper Secret.
Spiritual Books: The Power of Now, A New Earth, What I know for sure, The Four Agreements, Treasure Yourself, Stairways to Heaven, Big Magic, Light is the new black, The Book of Secrets,
Spiritual Novels: The Alchemist, The Celestine Prophecy (and the whole series), The Shack, Eve (by W.M Paul Young), The Monk Who sold his Ferrari, The Sekhmet Bed (the entire series).
Esoteric/Philosophy/Spiritual Books: Every time I find the meaning of life they change it, The Secrets of the world, The Kybalion, The Emerald Tablet, (Any Book by Carl Jung).
something too many people seem to forget
sontarangaming
You have no idea how many times people think I’m trans or nb because I can be feminine
legit, something that has always bothered me is the fact that we allow people to think that being gender nonconforming makes you another gender. gender roles don't define your gender.
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something too many people seem to forget