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You know what's fucked up? Nearly 40 years of trauma that I'm just now coming to terms with.

Let's start with, I guess, step-uncle (Dad's step-brother), being a straight up abusive asshole. We're talking training me in Martial Arts in a Cobra Kai way, belittling me, actively tormenting me, basically shit, macho older brother shit, trying to make me into basically the guy with a goatee and sunglasses who would say "Covid is no joke, calling all prayer warriors."

Then the instability, so let's trace it 1 1/2-3 Boise (I only know for certain the latter half), ID; 3-6 Henderson, NV; 6 South Lake Tahoe,NV (2 months in Henderson); 6-7 North Lake Tahoe, CA; 7 Kuna,ID; 7-8 Boise; 8-9Nampa,ID; 9 technically homeless in N. Idaho; 10-21 North Bend-Snoqualmie, WA.

Oh and the fun of watching my paternal grandmother (who raised me), slowly die from Diabetes, and being practically the only family who'd visit.

Dad continually coming in, then exiting my life (usually doing hard time) until I was 13, then dropping me back off again ay 16 (because fucking hell I did not want to move to Kansas). So at least the last time was my choice.

Definitely self induced and perpetuated fasting all my life, because fuck it, keeps me sane controlling my weight, even if it's unhealthy. Sometimes seems like the only thing I can control.

Let's start with the specifics at age 1 year 6 months, left to my grandparents because dad is also dealing with his own shit from a bad childhood, and it's 1982 and mom doesn't seem to want to be a single mom.

Flash forward to 7 years old, go to visit dad and step-mom #1. Let's run downy step-siblings first. Horror Movie freak step-brother with massive mental problems, actually tried to lord over me that he was older, actively tried to punish me, usually for no reason all because he couldn't stay up late watching horror movies. Older step-sister #1, massive Marilyn Monroe Stan, didn't really acknowledge me except a few times to tease me. Older step-sister #2 (see TW tags) very inappropriate, like fuck she's the embodiment of red flags for CSA at 12 (porn, playing with dolls inappropriately, inappropriate flirting with me). Then step-mom #1. I could and still can tell I was not supposed to be around, at all. Wanted me to come visit, but had to sleep in a closet, regularly verbally abused, eventually my dad caught wind and actually did the right thing, twice (sent me back to get away because I was sleepwalking and he knew that was no Bueno, then after him and step-mom #1 moved to my grandparents for a short time caught her giving a very abusive, but not physical punishment and divorced her, before going back to prison soon after.)

Actually that was kinda the problem with my dad's relationships until step-mom #2, had older daughters who flirted with me.

The problem in Kuna between 7 & 8. So shortly after the above divorce moved to Idaho, supposedly because Grandmother's health was going downhill from the altitude later found out it was to keep me from becoming a ward because of my dad. Moved in for about 3 months with my great uncle. Great uncle had a friend or something since he was always there named Ken. Next door was a friend one year older than me. Friend was definitely being sexually abused by at least Ken, if not her family (her sisters, looking back now, also showed signs), literally pulled his dick out to rest it on her 8 year old ass. She was the definition of learned that sex=love, so her BFF definitely needed to do what Ken did... guess who that was. Yeah, abused by a kid 1 year older who didn't know better. Oh and aside from maybe my grandparents because he did that shit when they weren't around (both were actually trying to find a place), everybody, including his friends who were Birchers knew what was going on, including my great-uncle (he'd later cop an Alford for having sex with said friend when I was 16).

Then came the most stable time in my life. But oh, the Universe wasn't done. So going along fine until my dad met step-mom #2. Actually still my step-mom and frankly a better one than either of the others. She doesn't actually have anything here was the first to notice I was not doing well mentally.

Split time between the two homes (as unstable as it sounds was actually stable until...) fast forward to me 12, in 7th grade dad decides, you need to live with me and he's stable now, agree because he is. Unfortunately decides a few months later that I should only live with him (12ish years of not being there and just a year or so out of his thankfully last stint in prison). This causes massive problems in the Family. So torn from grandparents, friends, and school. Eventually changed back after a custody agreement was signed. Had to go into counseling a few more times over the next couple years, but it was stable.

Then I found the internet at 14 and by 15 was cybering, usually with people around my age who were, you know, uwu. First online boyfriend was 18. Didn't last long, second was 17 (note I was 15), third was 18, last was actually almost my age. So kinda groomed but not really. Did help me discover my sexuality though.

Then came 1999, probably the worst year of my life. First came Columbine, think on it a kid who liked Rammstein, Manson, KMFDM and loved trenchcoats (face it also in the area of Seattle so it was functional). Everybody avoiding me aside from friends for a month. Then go to Semenary (ex-Mormon) on a Friday, new friend (well old by this time since I'd known her since the 6th grade) and her sister have a fight. Last time I saw either alive. The next day, her stepfather killed in her, her mom, and that same sister, still don't know the reason. Then I moved to Kansas to be with my dad after school was over. Hell got a job doing cold calls because no diploma (technically needed one credit because of a snafu), it's going OK, until about a month in, my dad gets a call that my grandmother is in the hospital for the last time. I let work know and me and my family drive up to see her and attend the funeral. It was here I basically went no contact for almost a decade on my dad's side of the family, because the funeral was basically bashing on her Husband of 20-ish years who was there for her at the worst parts of her life all because she wanted my aunt back when I was 14 to take care of my cousins, instead of her who was in failing health, and nearly blind. After that moved back because Kansas is ass, and going through my senior year a second time for that one class met my first real boyfriend, we ended up breaking up, I said it was because I didn't know if I liked guys, but truthfully, it was because I was scared of other things (see above about ex-Mormon). Then met somebody else, we stayed together off and on until 2004, through a move back to Kansas, then coming back and being homeless for 3-ish months. But during that was...

So I had a friend throughout High School. We were thick as thieves, and he wanted to be a director, and musician and you know teen gonna be big shit. We also had a friend who was going to be pur editor. I wrote, he directed and she edited. It seemed great until I got a call from his mom. Shortly after his return from either Basic or A-school (he was a Marine for the money) and on his way back, she downed some pills and wine. Hit me hard, within the space of a year, I had lost a good friend, the woman who raised me, my first love and kiss, and another good friend.

So flash forward to September 11th, 2004, have a new girlfriend, we're all living at a friend's place. We get into a bit of a fight because of some stupid shit. She goes to the park nearby and me and one of our friends go over to make sure she's safe. The next 3 hours are such hell, being beaten, threatened to be killed, made to watch her rape, before being made to turn away so no witnesses. We're the cops not looking for these guys, it probably would have ended with me getting stomped and dumped. It destroyed our relationship. Soon after I met a guy, actually loved him, and fell out because neither of us were stable. Got stability when I moved back in with my grandfather for the next 3 years in 2006. Then he had a stroke and died, I was there for that death, but it still hurt and I was, in no way able to pay rent so got the first roomy I could afford.

Big mistake, it was 5 years of problems. Living with a schizoform bi-polar person does that. Even worse was his girlfriend. He might have been physical when he went manic, and hell even tried to kill me because he thought it'd bring her back. She however was verbal and mental, constantly doing the same kind of shit as my stepmother. I pretty much cut them out in 2016 when I came back to the stability I'm in now.

So if you wanna know why I say I'm fucked up, well go back to the beginning and reread.

Edit: Shit I almost forgot something. So shortly before that cutting out thing. Attempted and about the only time the roommate's girlfriend wasn't a piece of shit, she managed to get ahold of the crisis line to keep me from taking a kitchen knife down the road, or tossing myself out our second story window into a dive onto the ground.

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Anonymous asked:

The chuds keep trying to start Gamergate 2. It’s not happening freaks. Yes this is over a female character in Warhammer.

It’s definitely not happening cuz the actual players (not the fandom tourists trying to start culture wars) have uniformly been “Mmm big muscle mommies 🤤” from what I’ve seen

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sashibunbun

I mean for fucks sake, they really do think they had droves join GG1 over "five guys" and not "ethics in an industry that has a pay for rating scandal every couple years".

Like I can see an actual problem with GW price gat8ng muscle mommies, now that's a scandal.

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Y’all once again proving your transphobia by getting mad that trans men don’t like to be called fujoshis. Like if you want to talk about trans men who like yaoi the word fudanshi - meaning men who like yaoi - is right there. You don’t have to call trans men women.

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sashibunbun

The problem is that the loaned word fujoshi (or even just fujo) is undergoing argotizing/jargonizing and has been for quite a few years. Its going from a very specifoc translated definition to, in essence, become something people just use to say things about a particular set of people (in this case, it's been used for the gay equivalent of chaser, hell, I've even seen it used on cis gays to cis gays. It's also got another (but fading) definition of pushy matchmaker who wants two guys, to use an old phrase, "to be their yaois".

There is a stark difference to a guy who reads yaoi for the smut and cranks one out, and somebody who internalizes it or expects that from gay men.

Or to put it another way, they're using a term borrowed into fandom spaces and filtered through social media to refer to a certain kind of person, the kind we'd call a chaser, or incel, or creep as it's now morphing into. And a person (especially AFAB, but not always) who through word or action treats gay men less as people, but as their very own dolls.

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cyberatioum

I'm so tired of seeing transmasc's suffering downplayed

This could have been its own post about a transfem experience, there was zero need to bring in a shitty assumption of what transmascs deal with. Many parents of transmascs treat their “daughter’s” hair as part of their body and are horrified if they change it whatsoever. A haircut can get you kicked out. That “so much trouble” can be a beating too. Do not do this shit.

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doberbutts

I've seen way too many CIS girls pinned to the ground by their parents while their head is forcibly shaved as punishment for cutting their hair, too many videos of parents going on rampages and breaking all of their kid's stuff and completely destroying the house, heard too many stories of parents beating the shit out of or disowning kids that cut their hair short, too many people get caught in lesbiphobia and butchphobia and end up actually dying due to their short hair, schools and government bodies making mandates on minimum hair lengths, and kids who have every scrap of control or privacy removed from them the very first time they come home with hair "too short" to think that screenshot OP has any actual grounding in reality.

I'm not saying it doesn't happen to trans fems. I *am* saying it happens to us too, and the idea that it doesn't is... well, pretending the problem doesn't exist hasn't really gone well for us thus far now has it.

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aeondeug

I'm a transmasc whose mother is a hair stylist. One who has had his hair forcibly styled how his mom wanted. And when I did get it cut short? She cried. She threatened to throw out my clothing and buy me skirts and pink shirts. She got into shouting arguments with me and threw shit. One day she threw me down to the floor, held me there and started punching me. All over how I wanted my hair cut and what clothes I wanted to wear. In general my mother held a very strict hold on how I was allowed to look. But the hair in specific? The hair she got very fucking weird about. Like physically restraining me levels of very fucking weird.

My grandmother called me a dyke and threatened to throw me out of the house. She frequently waved around me being tossed out of the house if I turned out to be gay or trans. I had to constantly be hiding shit and saying things to try and mollify her lest I lose my housing. And I knew I could. Because she had thrown other family members out of the house in the past.

This, the assertion by the op that "only trans girls suffer physical violence as children for not conforming" is just so disconnected from reality to the point of being malicious

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transvarmint

It's also painfully obvious how white of a perspective OOP has.

Young Black kids of any gender will have their forcibly cut all the time, because their natural hair is seen as unruly and inappropriate.

The expectations for how Black girls in particular (and those perceived as girls, i.e. young transmascs) are meant to present their hair is absolutely insane. To imply they don't suffer from any sort of hair trauma connected to assigned gender roles is deeply misogynoir.

Not to mention young girls & transmascs raised in certain high control religious groups where hair is moralized. Hi, this includes me! I was forced to keep my hair long at threat of punishment. The length of my hair and other aspects of my "girlhood" were heavily involved in my sexual abuse.

Idk, this take is just so removed from reality it just boggles my mine.

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sashibunbun

It's this whole thing of, instead of realizing that, "you know this shared trauma of hair stuff is kinda something we have in common" is getting caught up on what could charitably be called trauma comparison (and uncharitably just straight up oppression olympics) makes me wonder where we've gone wrong.

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hacvek

reminder to worldbuilders: don't get caught up in things that aren't important to the story you're writing, like plot and characters! instead, try to focus on what readers actually care about: detailed plate tectonics

@dragonpyre any chance you could elaborate on this

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dragonpyre

I grew up learning about land formations. Seeing fictional maps that don’t follow the logic and science of them makes me upset

What are the most common sins you’ve seen relating to this? I wanna know

Mordor.

Why is the mountain range square. How did the mountain range form. Why is there one singular volcano in the center. Why does it act like a composite volcano but have magma that acts like it’s from a shield. If it’s hotspot based volcanic activity why is there only one volcano.

And then the misty mountains!!!! Why isn’t there a rain shadow!! And why is there a FOREST where the rain shadow should be!!!!!!!!

So what is a rain shadow?

Wind blows clouds in from the sea, but mountains are so tall the clouds can't get past 'em, so you get deserts on the windward side of mountain ranges because clouds can't get there to water the land, or do so only very rarely.

Oh yeah nothing is more annoying than fantasy maps that can't get mountains, rivers and rain shadows right.

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mindfulwrath

May I recommend my new favorite tool: Mapgen4. You start with a random seed and then add mountains, valleys, shallow water, or oceans as you like. You can adjust the wind direction to make wind shadows off the mountains fall where you want. You can adjust overall raininess to make the rivers larger or smaller, or have more or fewer tributaries. It works best for small, isolated landmasses (think islands more than continents) but as there’s no scale bar and it’s all slightly abstracted anyway you can do whatever you want with it. I’ve only just started playing with it but it’s SO FUN.

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jeanjauthor

I do think this could be useful for writers! ...Caveat, if you're going to use this for making a map for anything published (digital or paper, even if it's only in a fanfic archive or whatever), please, please credit the creator and their program as how you made that map! The more ways information like this gets out there, the more useful it'll be to other writers, roleplaying game DMs/GMs, creators, etc.

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oh-opossum

One of my favourites for mapping plates, biomes, etc is Tectonics.js. If you're familiar with how tectonics shape a planet, you can guess where the features go by toggling plates, crust thickness, etc. Between Mapgen4 and Tectonics.js, we've got some pretty sweet tools at our disposal.

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brehaaorgana

More stuff!:

Also I would recommend looking into Landscape Archaeology as well! That's because Landscape archeology is basically adding the social/cultural layer on top of all that geology and geography. Environments change when communities live in them, and communities likewise adapt to various environments.

This is a short free introduction to the concept: "Notes on Landscape Archaeology." To summarize, Landscape archaeology sort of like...studies the relation of people to places/spaces (that is, landscapes) in time.

Also this paper [An Archeology of Landscapes] breaks down/introduces the key concepts that I learned which is first that you can form the "construct paradigm" of a landscape from settlement ecology, ritual landscapes, and ethnic landscapes.

And then the highlights of their summary of what constitutes defining a landscape:

  1. Landscapes are not synonymous with natural environments. Landscapes are synthetic (Jackson, 1984, p. 156), with cultural systems structuring and organizing peoples’ interactions with their natural environments ...
  2. Landscapes are worlds of cultural product ... Through their daily activities, beliefs, and values, communities transform physical spaces into meaningful places. ...
  3. Landscapes are the arena for all of a community’s activities. Thus landscapes not only are constructs of human populations but they also are the milieu in which those populations survive and sustain themselves. A landscape’s domain involves patterning in both within-place and between-place contexts ...
  4. Landscapes are dynamic constructions, with each community and each generation imposing its own cognitive map on an anthropogenic world of interconnected morphology, arrangement, and coherent meaning ...

Basically a "landscape" is made by a community living in an environment. Once you have a geological environment that makes sense, landscape archaeology is like... Basically how I feel confident knowing where trade routes would be on a map, where there are areas of continual high conflict, what kinds of agriculture exists where, etc. once the geological stuff is hammered out, it's like...I know how that would influence the local cultures and vice versa. At that point, it's easy to start marking the natural borders, settlements, trade/port cities, and even strategic fortresses. If you have properly put rivers on a map, then marking your port cities is effortless, basically.

Also:

If you are like me and find it helpful to have video reference for a process/activity in addition to a written guide, Artifexian is a YouTube channel that does a LOT of world building stuff and specifically he's in the process of creating a world following a lot of Worldbuilding Pasta's methodology!

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ekjohnston

This is all definitely great and if you want to do it, that's fine, but I'll remind you that Middle Earth was sung into existence by a divine being, and is round or flat, depending on the state of your soul and your species, so...plate tectonics aren't really a concern here.

The important thing is consistency. If your world is scientific, then go for it. But nobody ever complains about Discworld in this situation FOR A REASON. Middle Earth is the same, as are most fantasy worlds. Their function is to the story, not to realism. And that's perfectly fine.

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sashibunbun

And like there are things on Earth that would give realism enjoyed a heart attack, Two Oceans Creek comes to mind.

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I have an announcement! I’ve decided that I’m done reviewing movies and villains, as those are SO 2023; now I’ll be reviewing songs in my new series, Ford Analyzes Tunes And Song Stuff!

Send me in songs and I will give you the stellar analysis I’m known for—but for music!

Wow, FATASS has been a resounding success so far! I’ve gotten to share some beautiful song analyses with you all, and it’s SO much better than talking about movies and psychos! Thank you all for the support ❤️ Keep the songs coming and maybe you could get a FATASS too!

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sashibunbun

Unironically the beat thing ever.

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By Linhadotrem

I hate this comic, but I understand where it comes from because the underlying metaphor of X-Men gets messy and means different things depending on the story and character.

If being a mutant is viewed exclusively as a metaphor for race, then yeah characters like Beast, Nightcrawler, and Beak aren't human-passing and will be victims of profiling and the like. This would be a good point if that weren't the only thing being a mutant could mean.

Jean Gray, Professor X, and Emma Frost are all telepaths and telepathy in X-Men is often shown as something akin to extra sense that you have to actively keep in check. Younger versions of Jean Gray especially has been overwhelmed when out in public and unable to get her telepathy in check.

If Cyclops is separating from his glasses opening his eyes risks killing someone. Rogue can't risk the possibility of touching someone without causing serious damage.

For these characters being a mutant is a lot like an invisible disability, where they need to maintain extreme levels of control in public or risk being overwhelmed and/or harming others. (For the record, Storm is also in this category of having to be careful about not losing control)

The artist could not have picked worse 'human-passing' mutants to make this point. Except Wolverine.

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sashibunbun

Even Wolverine, like people forget that he has subtler powers than his healing factor. Why is grandpa Logan cranky? "Too many smells, bub".

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Do you guys remember how kidnap fantasies were popular on wattpad because young girls and queer teens were both made to feel shame at the thought of their own sexualities, so the fantasy of being kidnapped totally against their will was a way for them to engage with a romantic or sexual fantasy without feeling morally in the wrong for doing so? Added bonus that the fantasy involved being whisked away from repressive environments like home or school, right?

Finding out that Bram Stoker was in a sexless marriage and that scholars believe that he very likely was closeted gay puts the entire book into perspective as to WHY it reads EXACTLY like a self insert wattpad Dracula kidnap fic:

"I TOTALLY love my wife and would never do anything that an upstanding Good Straight Working Man wouldn't do but oh nooo, big strong man with broad back and strong enough arms to carry me back to bed like a princess trapped me and claimed me as his, completely against my will 👉👈 But he protects me against the bad evil sexual women (who I assure you, I am TOTALLY sexually attracted to, as any straight man with a choice would be) but trust me, I do NOT want ANY of this. What's that? The Count is not capable of feeling love? Would be a shame if I had the special ability to change tha-"

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ardatli

This is also the fantasy behind all those old bodice-ripper romances that people today like to mock or call problematic, by the way.

"Oh, my next forty years are going to consist of nothing but washing dishes and keeping house and bearing children for the disdainful man I married right out of high school because my parents said college was for men and I had no other obvious life path open to me? What if a pirate captain thought I was worth stealing away from it all? [what if I ran away but no-one could blame me for leaving]?"

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They're objectively not furries, UNLESS someone who likes catboys obstinately denies being a furry or has some other weird complex about them, in which case catboys suddenly become furries in some Schrodinger-esque taxonomic transformation.

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sashibunbun

Nyah, they're furries, but, like just barely.

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I will spare the OP of that post on movies about stifling office life more of my ranting because I respect them, but I have more to say about Office Space.

Office Space does not depict a "9 to 5" job, this is a major plot point in the movie:

This is a white collar job where all the workers are constantly subjected to crunch time and seven day work weeks while, at the same time, they spend hours on utterly pointless tasks like changing the cover sheets on reports.

They are subjected to countless tiny indignities for more than half of their waking hours; Milton prefers a different brand of stapler to the one that the company uses and it gets repossessed by the boss.

I have more than one white collar, office job working mutual who has posted about how intolerable such jobs are and how they have worked to escape them.

Movies like Office Space are about the tyranny of the boss; the way that he can subject you to a million tiny little indignities while simultaneously demanding that you pretend that you are happy to work there and see yourself as part of the team that is really actually looking out for you:

What the movie is also about, (and you can definitely add Fight Club in here too, and even The Matrix to some extent) is the psychological effect of spending an enormous chunk of your life enduring these kinds of repeated small indignities and dissatisfactions because, logically and objectively, the pay you are receiving for them is more than enough compensation and the danger of attempting to respond to them and maintain your dignity is not worth it. That's objective fact, and to believe otherwise constitutes a kind of delusion.

The protagonists in both Fight Club and Office Space have simultaneously internalized this to the point where they hold themselves back from any kind of rebellion as impossible, and, at the same time, remain unable to actually believe it; the movies are about what happens when that internal contradiction can no longer be maintained and you reach a breaking point.

PS - I think it is a bit of a "theory of mind" failure to imagine that Hollywood people make movies about petty internal politics, backbiting and insincere friendliness because they like living in Hollywood so much and don't experience that kind of thing there.

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sashibunbun

No, really, Fight Club is based on a book that is pretty much this, combined with I and my friends were absolute fucking idiots.

And both of them get into how it really destroys you.

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