please fall before i fall

Accessibility takes too goddamn fucking long.

My brother was paralyzed in October 2023. We got him home from the hospital (in Texas, when we live in Iowa) in a clunky old hospital chair. He hated it. He was scared and angry and in pain and his life had just changed forever and he couldn’t do anything for himself in that wheelchair. His first goal (aside from learning how to transfer) was to get a wheelchair. My family was lucky enough to afford one so we thought it would be easy enough. Nope.

We couldn’t buy him a wheelchair. He needed a prescription. For a wheelchair. A doctor had to examine him and declare him in need of a wheelchair. It wasn’t good enough that he had scans and tests showing tumors cutting off his spinal cord. He needed his primary care doctor to examine him during a physical and write a prescription. He was making 2-4 transfers a day, tops. He had no energy to get to a doctor. Home health was in and out every day. He had no time to get to a doctor. He didn’t get a prescription for almost a month. Then it had to go through insurance.

We asked if we could skip insurance and just buy a wheelchair for him. Nope. They wouldn’t sell us one, not even at full sticker price. It needed to be approved by Medicare. We ordered a wheelchair, a nice one, a good shade of green, sporty, small. It would let him move around the house. He would be able to cook, to reach drawers and get stuff from the fridge and brush his teeth and put his contacts in at a sink. We were told it would take awhile, maybe two months. Silently we all hoped he would be around to see two more months.

He went on hospice care on a Saturday in March. On Monday, I was calling his friends to come see him before he died. I got a call on his phone. It was the wheelchair company. They were about to order his wheelchair, she said, but there was an issue with insurance— had he stopped being covered by Medicare? Well, yes. When he started hospice care, he got kicked off Medicare. The very nice woman I talked to told me to call her if he resumed Medicare coverage so she could order his wheelchair. He died less than 12 hours later.

We ordered that chair for him in early December. Medicare didn’t approve the order until March. He was dead before they got around to it. He wanted that fucking wheelchair so badly. The only reason he had any semblance of independence and any quality of life for the last five months of his life was because the wheelchair company lent him an old beater chair, a very used model of the chair he ordered. If I could go back and change one thing about his end-of-life, I would get him his dream wheelchair. He told me again and again he couldn’t wait to get it, so that he could feel like a person again. He made the best of what he had with that old beater chair, but it still makes me mad to this day. He was paralyzed. He needed a chair that afforded him dignity. We had the money for it. And yet, we were left waiting for five months, for a chair that wouldn’t even get ordered until the day he died.

Pour one out for a real one.

Not me explaining that here on Tumblr tits is a gender neutral term for big chests unless the person has said they don't like it

On a serious note people being unironically horny about cis men and referring to their chests as tits in their horny rantings has made me feel more comfortable as someone who is transmasc

Like I don't have huge dysphoria about my chest because I'm not very well endowed but I still have some and like thinking: "I'm a sexy dude with sexy tits" is actually a good feeling for me personally

my blog is a safe place for the gender neutral usage of tits

Gender neutral tits /pos

*me on my own blog*

this is the best blog i ever seent

Important ideas to consider when creating characters who are black and indigenous people of color. (x)

Check you privilege every day

Reminds me of this:

hey babe I’m giving you infinite pain forever but in a sexy way 🥰

Fuck you I'm ridding you of all pain for the rest of forever.

Have fun trying to know if something is wrong with you without pain.

.... Dunno if I should give Ms. Lilith 2 billion dollars cash or bite bite bite bite

If you give me 2 billion I can open a daycare for lost trans pets :3

Hey wait I need that pain for reasons!!

Soap:"why the fuck do people woobify me? I'm. Whole ass criminal."

Roach:

Roach:"did you just use a Tumblr term in real life?"

this might seem trivial and kinda funny, but i honestly can't get over the way buck leans in and kisses tommy back after the initial surprise of their lips meeting for the first time. there's something about the way he tilts his head towards tommy that makes me feel so many things i can't explain without sounding like a deranged person. it's like he felt tommy's lips on his and, for a brief moment, didn't know how to react, but it just felt so right and natural that he couldn't help but completely immerse himself in the experience. he's like all in by that point, and you can see it the moment he starts to move his head towards tommy. and when tommy pulls back and we see buck's lips kinda pop, looking so pronounced, pouty, and plump, you know they've been kissed so well. i'm losing all my marbles at this point. i have never seen such a perfect kiss before, istg.

Thinking about Eddie’s “WAIT, TOMMY’S GAY???” which could be interpreted in two ways:

- Eddie is saying he had clue Tommy’s gay (boring)

- Tommy asked a lot of questions about Buck, like a lot. He even asked Chris about Buck. Eddie was kinda confused but both him and Chris love talking about Buck so they didn’t really mind. So Eddie is saying “ohhhhh that’s what all that was about” (correct)

AU rambles. like a Lot of yapping

soap and ghost were childhood friends. they grew up some in the same small town, nestled between thick forests and far from much else.

like most towns similar to their own, talk of monsters is not uncommon—shouldn’t be, anyhow, with their prominence. such old forests constantly looking around them, supernatural creatures are bound to live within, and outside of their depths. and in small towns where people are sometimes attacked or go missing, it isn’t surprising, either, when there are individuals who take up a career as hunters.

rb to give a flower to the person you rb this from

ⓘ You can Bite your Friends.

ⓘ reblog to fuckign BITE your mutuals

Flower Montero | Ghosts

snoopy of the day

I simply think bucktommy should be making out on every available surface in front of the rest of firefam. is it rude and juvenile, yes. but also let buck have his delayed gay second puberty where his attraction to his boyfriend feels like the center of the world. and tommy would go along with it despite being way too old for that because he is, let's just say it, whipped.