Ways to Say “No” to Things.

Without saying “I’m sorry.” 1. “I wish I could help but my plate is pretty full right now.” 2. “I have said yes to too many things lately and I’m honestly overwhelmed at the moment.” 3. “I am not accepting any new tasks right now.” (I use this a lot and even though it is firm, I get positive responses because it’s relatable). 4. “I am over-committed right now, but I hope you find the help you need.” 5. “That’s my night to spend time with my family but thank you for asking me.” 6. “I’d love to but my schedule is packed right now.” 7. “That’s not a good day/time for me.” 8. “That’s not really my area, but thank you for thinking of me.” 9. “I’m honored but I can’t this time.” 10. “Thank you but this isn’t something I’m able to take on right now.” 11. “I am needed somewhere else that day, but thank you.” 12. “I am limiting my commitments right now.” 13. “I am honestly not able to dedicate the time right now.” 14. If you are disabled: “Spoons are low, so today is not a good day for this.” (try using “bandwidth” instead of “spoons” if you are not disabled so we can preserve the meaning of “spoons.”) 15. “That’s not a good fit for me, but (offer a genuine alternative).”

I absolutely hate to be that person but I’m really struggling and it’s so overwhelming

They mean well but it's still annoying

Fun colitis thing #85

Being in the loo so long the sensor lights turn off….. 👻

My bowel hates me and hates food 💔

Life problems of a crohnie/UC/ostomate

The amount of time, money, and sacrifices it takes to manage and live with chronic illnesses is overwhelming to say the least.

I wish I could temporarily transfer my illness related pain to another human, just to see if I’m over reacting or if I really have just muted out most of the common pain.

"yeah don't worry tho I'm doing fine"

People need to humble up and understand why us spoonies are pissed off. I am living here with just one roll as someone with Crohn’s, while they have six batches with like 24 rolls in them.

This is what freaked me out too. I was luckily able to get some but it did cross my mind as a worry that we might run out.

chronic illness skills:

-really good at getting blood drawn -sleeping -tv marathoning -doing everything in pain -know the best heating pads -will sit on the floor if there are no chairs -smarter than doctors sometimes tbh

being sick is not just lonely, it’s isolating, there’s a huge difference