I fucked up
Hi, everyone. Without going into huge amounts of detail about the situation, out of respect for the person who was hurt, something that I said privately was passed along in a massive game of Internet telephone until it had been twisted into something that didn't come close to resembling my initial private (salty) comment. The thing I initially said was petty, and stupid, and bound up in my own nasty little insecurities. What's worse is that I said it knowing that the friend would likely never see it, so I was free to be petty and salty because hey, it's private. This thing I said privately, to a friend, in confidence was exaggerated and passed along in that exaggerated form to a larger group, some of whom continued twisting the initial bitter pill. In so doing, things got back to the person I had been unkind about.
I can't take back what those people said, because it's out there in the world, and whether I meant to be or not: I am responsible for lighting the match that started the fire.
So, to Jae, I am so sorry. I know I have broken the trust you had in me, as well as broken our friendship. I apologize unreservedly and wholeheartedly because the situation started with me, and must end with me. You absolutely didn't deserve what happened, and while I know this doesn't even begin to mitigate the damage, please know that I will do everything I can to limit the fallout. You did nothing wrong, I fucked up beyond the telling of it, and I’m going to do whatever I can to make things right.