Fierce, Gitaxian Librarian

This never ceases to confuse me.

You get there and all the pretty boys look up from drinking from the reservoir and gallop away like gazelle

"Split Myself Apart" by Redwolf Painter, from Persistence: All Ways Butch and Femme

Is this me being neurodivergent or just me being a moron?

A YouTube creator I follow made a post about a filter on TikTok that made skinny people look fat. She opened the video with “is this harmless fun or in poor taste?” And in my head I answered, “depends how people used it” and even “I might do that just to see whether it looks realistic. How’s it render wrists, I wonder?”

But the immediate response was “this is not just obviously mean spirited, it’s a cultural sign that body positivity is officially dead and it’s open season on making fun of bodies.”

I was not expecting that.

Am I weirdly naive or is it my neurodivergence talking again?

My brain read “altering a characteristic” and saw that as “neutral until people misuse it.”

I usually like her takes, is the thing. She used to be obese (her word), lost a lot of weight, and now makes videos, mostly about how whole weight loss isn’t impossible and she’s living proof, the food industry is extremely manipulative and that makes it very easy to end up eating ultra processed foods even if you “know better.” I like her stuff because she’s usually pretty balanced. Even if I don’t agree she usually has reasons I get.

That’s why her feeling sure this was designed to mock people took me aback. I would’ve expected that maybe from some of the fat positive influencers she dislikes but not from her.

Hence my question. Could well be that as I was never considered anything more then slightly overweight I didn’t see something.

But I dunno. I’m so used to seeing “all bodies are beautiful” that I didn’t even have the thought that the results were meant as ugly. There was no like, making people look unkempt or giving them weird expressions, which I would have clearly taken as “skinny people are normal, fat people are funny.” There weren’t even, like, realistic stretch marks or other things some people deem inherently ugly about fat bodies.

Looks like it’s not odd to take it as neutral though, which makes me feel a bit less confused.

The one that gets me is the “if you mention that your disability makes making art difficult but you do it anyway, then you’re making inspiration porn of yourself” one.

It never ceases to make me chuckle darkly that people say “sex work is work” and “people can choose to be in actual porn,” but the moment someone might want to inspire nondisabled people, or like that nondisabled people are inspired by something, you’re exploiting yourself.

The Maryland senator that traveled to El Salvador to see Kilmar Abrego Garcia was denied all access. This is breaking news. This is a clear violation of the 9-0 Supreme Court order, as well as a violation of an order passed by Maryland courts. The senator has mentioned that the US Embassy there has not received any further notice from the Trump admin - they’re virtually in the dark since Abrego Garcia’s kidnapping, and El Salvador’s govt has told the visiting US Senator that the Trump admin has PAID El Salvador to keep Abrego-Garcia there. This is expected to escalate.

grabbing all trans men by the fucking shoulders oh my god. you are allowed to be angry. you SHOULD be angry. you should not have to clarify your words to death, going "i know i dont have it as bad, but-", or put yourself down, "haha yeah, men suck dont we?", you are trans, and you are worthy, and you belong in this fucking community and you deserve to have your voice heard.

trans men get fucking angrier

If other people can’t handle you being angry over things it’s justified to be angry about, they are the problem, and THEY should be excusing themselves to go touch grass, because THEY are the ones with the triggers.

Actual thing a client said to me today:

“The senior manager of the shelter can’t tell me to follow the rules! I have a rage disorder, which means things trigger me! That means, since I told her about it, that if I had reacted by beating her up, it would be her fault!”

…I am sorry you struggle with your temper but if you hit someone that is never their fault

This by the way is why I both question prison AND why I can’t quite get to abolition.

Because this person has BEEN to prison, and while I don’t know what for exactly I would not be surprised given her self report of her rage issues and her past if it was something involving assault.

And she clearly didn’t learn not to be aggressive, and clearly didn’t learn that using violence is her choice and would not be something others forced her to do to them, so I guess that could be an argument that prison doesn’t work.

But if she DID punch the head of the shelter… what should happen then?

Im not sure it’s obvious to me that there is something clear other than arrest that would make sense.

She’s already IN a shelter. She’s already subject to rules that are fairly lax compared to, say, the rules of an apartment complex. Laxness doesn’t seem to be chilling her out.

I don’t know. Maybe I’m missing something, but I really do feel even stronger in my conviction that enabling is a thing at least some of the time, and some people, not everyone but SOME people, see “nothing is happening now” as “this is a place where this behavior is allowed.”

Well fucks? Get to it!

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There a thing I want to say about how ironic it is that both TERFs and the sort of trans women who got mad at me recently both hate men so much, but every time I try to phrase it I don’t think I have it quite right.

I suppose I should have seen this coming back decades ago, when the whole thing trans women were pushing so hard for was to be in the kind of “lesbian space” where there aren’t any men.

Yeah, that’s how it seems to me too. Like back in the day, I didn’t really focus on what it meant to want to go to Michfest, I just thought of it as “this trans woman is a lesbian, she cares a lot more about the gay scene than I do, the gay scene says everybody’s dream is to go to Michfest, so she wants them to let her in too. Reasonable.”

The more I found out about Michfest though the more confused I was by why people like it so much. Like, I’ll defend your right to do that with my last breath but you want to do WHAT NOW.

I dunno, I feel like some people have an idea of being gay that I don’t. Like I’ve dated and had sex with men and I enjoyed it but always felt a little off, and then I dated and had sex with women (which I had been putting off unfortunately because there’s a weird narrative that you’re insincere if you “experiment,” which to me meant I could never start until I found someone who was explicitly okay if I ended up “doing an experiment” and it failed, even as I wanted to “experiment” more than anything) and I just kind of went “oh, this is better.”

Where other people seem to have this idea that it’s not like… something internal to them? Or at least not entirely. It’s also like this cultural thing of avoiding men.

Which has never made sense to me. Even if I never have sex with a man again, why is that a reason to avoid them? That just seems so shallow. I don’t desire you, so you’re useless to me.

Which just… wow. Don’t yall have friends?!

I dunno. But I’ve found myself super uncomfortable in “lesbian spaces” because of it.

wtf did pastor larry do?!

LARRY NO