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Nightly adventures

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Sara, 29, bi/aro. For fan stuff and personal use. May contain gratuitous amounts of werewolves. Not safe for bigots of any kind (that includes any kind of queerphobe, for example terfs and aphobes, racists, antisemites and so on). Not safe on full moons. Welcome!
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Anonymous asked:

I feel conflicted. A friend came to me telling me how their boyfriend had done something deeply inconsiderate and emotionally immature, and that it was a pattern. As she told me this, it just became clear to me what advice I should give, and I suggested that she may have outgrown him. She agreed, and said she was going to end things with him. I feel like I only told her what she already knew, but it still feels uneasy, helping to end a 3 year relationship. Should I feel guilt?

No, not at all.

The sunk cost fallacy keeps people in so many unhealthy relationships. Like, "I can't just throw away this relationship, it's been 3 years!" is a common justification for staying in an unhappy relationship.

We need to normalise and encourage leaving. If the people within a relationship are not making each other happy and fulfilling their needs then why should they be together? For the sake of not being single?

Relationships take work, this is true, but if you're the only one putting it in or if there is more work than play just to keri it stable then it is just unpaid labour.

You did your friend a solid by being honest with your views and giving them the space to decide for themselves. You sound like a good friend.

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inqorporeal

This ^^^

A lot of the time when people in that situation present information this way, what they’re really saying is, “I think this is a bad situation and I need to get out. Can I rely on you for support?” They’re testing the water to see whether you’re on their side, or their soon-to-be ex’s. Being told to keep trying in what they already know to be a lost cause is the last thing they want to hear at that point.

Anon isn’t helping to end a relationship -- the relationship is already essentially over. What they’re doing is helping their friend feel safe whilst doing what they have to.

Also what these lovely humans above said.

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jus-tea

Daddy’s at the food store, Mummy’s out of town,

She’s working at the hospital since Rhona came to town,

Hide away, hide away, Miss Rhona’s come to town,

Hide away, hide away, she’s come to take us down.

Miss Rhona’s at the doorstep, I’ll keep 6 feet away,

But Grandma needs the paper, I’ll take her some today,

Hide away, hide away, Miss Rhona’s come to stay,

Hide away, hide away, we can’t come out to play.

But Grandma needs the paper, I’ll take her some today,

And here’s a note from Rhona, she wanted me to say,

Hide away, hide away, keep 6 feet away,

Hide away, hide away, she took us down today.

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roseverdict

[Image ID: Tumblr user @neanderthyall says in the notes, “I thought that 6 feet was kind of a double meaning. Like six feet away to stop the spread, but when people die they’re six feet underground, and its six feet of the dirt that keeps you apart. Like ‘Hide away, hide away, even though it hurts Hide away, hide away, or the six feet will be dirt’.” End ID.]

HI DON’T LEAVE THIS IN THE NOTES THAT’S ACTUALLY BRILLIANT

I’ve taken the liberty of expanding the lyrics slightly and coming up with a tune:

Daddy’s at the food store, Mummy’s out of town, She’s working at the hospital since Rhona came to town, Hide away, hide away, Miss Rhona’s come to town, Hide away, hide away, she’s come to take us down.

Miss Rhona’s at the doorstep, I’ll keep 6 feet away, But Grandma needs the paper, I’ll take her some today, Hide away, hide away, Miss Rhona’s come to stay, Hide away, hide away, we can’t come out to play.

I need to see the sunlight, I’ve not been out in days And here’s a note from Rhona, she wanted me to say, Hide away, hide away, keep 6 feet away, Hide away, hide away, she took us down today

The days all run together, I haven’t changed my shirt We may be getting restless, but keep on the alert Hide away, hide away, even though it hurts Hide away, hide away, or the six feet will be dirt

@billpottsismygf’s extended version. A beautiful singing voice 🎶☺️

As planned I’ve extended this even further and re-recorded it with the new lyrics and a guitar part; it’s also a bit better quality. It’s so cool that so many different versions of this song have sprung up already! I recommend having a scroll through them all on @jus-tea​​‘s tumblr.

(Em)Daddy’s at the (B7)food store, (Em)Mummy’s out of (B7)town, She’s (Em)working at the (B7)hospital since (Em)Rhona (B7)came to (Em)town, (Am)Hide away, hide away, Miss (Em)Rhona’s come to town, (Am)Hide away, (Em)hide away, she’s come to (B7)take us (Em)down.

Miss Rhona’s at the doorstep, I’ll keep six feet away, But Grandma needs the paper, I’ll take her one today, Hide away, hide away, Miss Rhona’s come to stay, Hide away, hide away, we can’t come out to play.

I’m missing all my friends, though we keep in touch by phone, I’m learning what it is to truly be alone, Hide away, hide away, even though you moan, Hide away, hide away, or we’ll be lying prone.

My love she says she misses the twinkle of my eyes, But Rhona stalks the streets and to meet would be unwise, Hide away, hide away, we hear the desperate cries, Hide away, hide away, or see the bodies rise.

I feel myself a-coughin’, I haven’t got a mask, It’s work or die for me, though, so who am I to ask, Hide away, hide away, Miss Rhona’s on the task, Hide away, hide away, she’s come for me at last.

I need to see the sunlight, I’ve not been out in days, And here’s a note from Rhona, she wanted me to say, Hide away, hide away, keep 6 feet away, Hide away, hide away, she took us down today.

The days all run together, I haven’t changed my shirt, We may be getting restless, but keep on the alert, Hide away, hide away, Miss Rhona’s quite the flirt, Hide away, hide away, her touch is not inert.

Hide away, hide away, even though it hurts, Hide away, hide away, or six feet will be dirt.

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I get a lot of questions from  people who want to teach their kids environmental stewardship and my advice is to get them passionate about the nature around them. Distant wildlife is exciting and cool! It can teach them to appreciate, but I find it rarely teaches them to value.

Value and respect come from recognizing your place in nature and your ability to both help and hurt.

Go outside and just move some rocks and let them hold some worms. Let them get muddy. If they squash a bug, ask them why. Tell them the bugs live here too.

This sounds silly, but it’s tried and true. Each time I’ve seen a kid smash a bug, I say “why did you feel that bug wasn’t allowed to be alive?” Never in an accusing tone, never judgmental. Ask them gently, honestly. They might be dismissive and bashful at first, but if you ask them again, if you say “I like bugs, and I think it’s good that they are alive,” they start to think. You can see it happen. You can see them begin to consider life they’ve probably been told before doesn’t mater.

Tell them what you like about bugs. If you’re afraid of bugs, tell them that too. tell them “I find them a little scary, but this is why they’re still good.” Tell them they don’t have to like something for it to have value. Tell them even the things they don’t like have value.

Every time a child says they’re afraid of bugs, or dirt, we go outside, and I find a worm (most people react best to them because they don’t have a bunch of little legs), and I hold it and tell them some simple little facts. I ask them if they want to hold it. They almost always do. It’s okay if they don’t want to. Never force the interaction. It’s vital to form positive experiences and associations.

I wipe some mud on my hands. I ask them if they want some mud on their hands. If they do, I give them some mud. I tell them what worms are doing down their in the ground, which anyone can learn on google to share.

We move rocks and find beetles and spiders. They’re delicate, so we don’t pick them up. We watch them. I ask them what they imagine beetles think about all day, and they always make me laugh with their ideas. I tell them “maybe, maybe that’s what beetles think about.” Let them imagine.

Look up the birds where you live. Yes, even the “boring” ones like pigeons and sparrows. Talk about what the eat, where they go at night to sleep. Ask them where they think birds sleep. In beds like us? They’ll usually tell you no, in trees! Kids want to teach as much as they want to learn.

We talk about grass and trees. We talk about what makes the world alive. Their young minds change and make new decisions about how they want to exist in the world.

One day, if all goes well, value and respect grow into a sense of responsibility and obligation.

Do this again and again.

A final thought:

If a child asks, and you don’t know, tell them “let’s find out together.” Search on your phone. 

You don’t have to know much yourself to teach stewardship. You only have to know and teach that it’s important to be curious, and above all, to root your curiosity in kindness.

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PBS Eons: A Short Tale About Diplodocus’ Long Neck

Long necks gave sauropods a huge advantage when it came to food, but not in the way you think. And this benefit would allow them to become the biggest terrestrial animals of all time!

Source: youtu.be
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You know when you go into something knowing a situation is horrible and then realize you had no fucking clue? Read this

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spiteswallow

Sort of a tangent, but climate change discussions are a prime example of just how insidious accelerationist rhetoric can be. I've lost count of how many times I've seen blackpill talking points come out of the mouths of oblivious liberals. Usually white. Overpopulation, austerity policies, conspiracies about crisis response. Even the wannabe Rambo ass apocalypse fantasies are, at their core, reactionary.

But something like "overpopulation is the problem" sounds right to someone who doesn't know how reactionary politics function. It seems like an obvious, indisputable fact when one doesn't learn how to untangle the deeper implications behind political statements. So a lot of (white) liberals are especially susceptible to the type of recruiting that cryptofascists prefer to employ.

My brother, who would be horrified to know the origins of his belief, thoroughly believes the overpopulation lie. He's a Terminally Online Zoomer opinionated white guy who is a perfect target for accelerationists: not at all likely to participate in their horrendous violence, but very likely to absorb the rhetoric that makes him feel paralyzed, apathetic, and misanthropic while they detonate the world around him.

If we care about stopping this tide of fascism, we are obligated to learn the ways in which they've camouflaged themselves. The term "dogwhistle" gets bandied about a lot, and applied to things like the (((three parentheses))), which has quickly moved from dog whistle to open, unabashed antisemitism. The actual dog whistles, the ones we need to be aware of and ready to critique, often sound on the surface like normal conversations.

If, like the previous commenter, you feel horrified by the scope of the problem, the quickest way to start getting active is to get intimately familiar with their rhetoric, their codes, the underpinnings of their politics, and the machinery that makes fascism run.

really good thank you for writing this

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closet-keys

“Like neoreaction, neo-Nazi accelerationism holds that the liberal-democratic order is a failure — that we should move beyond it  toward a better future, and that the task of political action should be to accelerate the speed of that transformation. Only in their view, that  “better future” is not capitalist authoritarianism, but the total collapse of a degenerate and corrupt Western society — and the rebirth,  out of its ashes, of a new political order more hospitable to white   domination.”

________________________ This is what I’ve been talking about on here with regards to the anti-capitalist right.

Leftists (especially those who are not strongly involved in antifascist work) need to be very careful in anti-capitalist spaces, because there are multiple strands of fascist anti-capitalist movements that seek to destroy Western governments as a goal. There is a ‘revolutionary right’ and they absolutely will use Leftist action to their own benefit to take power and implement their own vision of society based in white cis male supremacy and eugenics.

Not everyone who is anti-US government or anti-capitalist or anti-centralized government is a comrade. Leftists need to forefront our fight against racism (esp anti-blackness), antisemitism, misogyny (esp transmisogyny), and eugenics. Our primary goal as leftists needs to be based in liberation movements and the inherent value of individuals’ life, freedom, and bodily autonomy.

And imo, we need to focus much more on building mutual aid networks and laying the framework for the societies we want and need in a post-revolution world, because if all our energy is poured into toppling the current capitalist structure without having a robust plan in place for what follows, then our world will quickly fall to fascists who are already planning out how they want society structured.

It's not just the anticapitalist right that the left needs to worry about here though. There's been a real problem in spaces that outright call themselves leftist with the idea that climate change can be solved by literally encouraging human extinction.

These kinds of eco-fascists (though they'd never call themselves that, they're more likely to claim they're anarcho-primitivists) might seem like the polar opposite of the people in the first article but they're really not, they too are obsessed with "purification" and while they claim it's not based in any kind of right-wing race fantasy, as opposed to a general disdain for humanity, the kinds of victims they choose tell a different story.

This is the logical final stage of both leftism that thinks "civilization is evil" and liberalism that thinks "humans need to die off for the sake of the earth." Mass slaughter of the most vulnerable.

fucking hell thank you for these additions

Y'all: Read this.

All those times I said "You are not nearly afraid enough," this is what I been saying.

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Callout post for Nestle

That’s right, in 2020 we’re calling out corporations instead of people. For anyone who doesn’t follow me, I have a tag ‘corporate crime highlight reel’ for all the best capitalism has to offer regarding profit-motivated crimes against humanity. There are some articles about Nestle in the tag, but I have yet to make a full post on it.

WHY NESTLE IS PROBLEMATIC 

1. Has not yet stated an opinion on Steven’s University and 2. is perhaps the personification of everything wrong with capitalism and corporate greed. Let’s go!

1. Nestle’s infant formula scandal (SOURCE, SOURCE)

How does an industry go about creating consumers? There are clear rules:
• create a need where none existed • convince consumers that your products are indispensable for the ‘good life’ • link products with the most desirable and unattainable concepts; and then give a sample… free.
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Knowing that fear and anxiety can actually stop lactation, companies consciously design marketing strategies that aggravate in-built worries and interfere with the pyschophysiology of the human body in order to sell more of their products. In Africa, Nestle’s Lactogen was advertised for use ‘when breast milk fails’. And in the 1950’s a radio jingle for Borden KLIM in the Belgian Congo went like this:
The child is going to die Because the mother’s breast has given out Mama o Mama the child cries If you want your child to get well Give it KLIM milk

This is perhaps one of Nestle’s most infamous scandals, in which the company used manipulative marketing and exploited the conditions of third world mothers to sell addictive infant formula that leads to, according to the World Health Organization, “underfeeding, malnutrition, and vulnerability to infection”. It was also sometimes lethal. Large outrage surrounding Nestle’s role in the issue started in the 1970s, but as mentioned above, Nestle had been doing this decades earlier. 

Here, one mother recounts a Nestlé “milk nurse's” sales pitch:
“The nurse began by saying … breastfeeding was best. She then went on detail the supplementary foods that the breastfed baby would need … The nurse was implying that it was possible to start with a proprietary baby milk from birth, which would avoid these unnecessary problems.”
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In the Times, United States Agency for International Development official, Dr. Stephen Joseph, blamed reliance on baby formula for a million infant deaths every year through malnutrition and diarrheal diseases. It also hindered infant growth in general, said War on Want. Citing “complex links emerging between breast feeding and emotional and physical development,” the group said breastfed children walked “significantly better than bottle-fed” kids, and were more emotionally advanced.

Boycotts against Nestle spread from the U.S. to the world, with many mothers refusing to buy Nestle products as a result of the deaths caused by the company. 

2. Nestle makes billions bottling water it pays nearly nothing for (SOURCE)

I’ve long been critical of bottled water in general, mainly because it is a terrible result of capitalism’s tendency to commodify and profit from natural resources at the expense of people’s health and lives, and Nestle is no stranger to the problem as a massive manufacturer of bottled water.

Nestle has come to dominate a controversial industry, spring by spring, often going into economically depressed municipalities with the promise of jobs and new infrastructure in exchange for tax breaks and access to a resource that’s scarce for millions. Where Nestlé encounters grass-roots resistance against its industrial-strength guzzling, it deploys lawyers; where it’s welcome, it can push the limits of that hospitality, sometimes with the acquiescence of state and local governments that are too cash-strapped or inept to say no.
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There’s also the issue of scarcity. The United Nations expects that 1.8 billion people will live in places with dire water shortages by 2025, and two-thirds of the world’s population could be living under stressed water conditions.
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Failing infrastructure has already led to a near-total reliance on bottled water in parts of the world. Nestlé started selling Pure Life in Lahore, Pakistan, in 1998 to “provide a safe, quality water solution,” the company says. But locals wonder if the Swiss multinational is exacerbating the problem. “Twenty years ago, you could go anywhere in Lahore and get a glass of clean tap water for free,” says Ahmad Rafay Alam, an environmental lawyer in the country. “Now, everyone drinks bottled water.” He adds that this change has taken the pressure off the government to fix its utilities, degrading the quality of Lahore’s supply: “What Nestlé did is use a good marketing scheme to make tap water uncool and dangerous. It’s ubiquitous, like Kleenex. People will say, ‘Give me a bottle of Nestlé.’ ”

Nestle’s former CEO, Peter Brabeck-Letmathe, caused outrage in his argument for the commodification of water; “One perspective held by various NGOs—which I would call extreme—is that water should be declared a human right. … The other view is that water is a grocery product. And just as every other product, it should have a market value.” This statement, seemingly coming from a super-villain, is unfortunately just the logical conclusion of capitalism, and Nestle made the mistake of saying it out loud. Dodging regulations and lobbying governments, Nestle’s commodification of this natural resource necessary for survival has been a growing and seemingly unstoppable success.

In the U.S., Nestlé tends to set up shop in areas with weak water regulations or lobbies to enfeeble laws.

3. Nestle’s pollution (SOURCE)

Yes, the company supposedly saving the world with clean water is responsible for a lot of pollution. 

As with any “respectable” large company, Nestle has been involved in several incidents regarding pollution. A 1997 report found that in the UK, over a 12 month period, water pollution limits were breached 2,152 times in 830 locations by companies that included Cabdury and Nestle. But again, the situation in China was much worse.
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Nestle Sources Shanghai Ltd’s bottled water manufacturing plant also made the list for starting operation before its wastewater treatment facilities had passed an environmental impact assessment.
“These are only some of the water pollution violations committed by multinational companies in China, since our website has yet to cover information about air and solid waste pollution,” said Ma Jun, director of the Institute of Public & Environmental Affairs. “The parent companies in their home countries are models for environmental protection. But they have slackened their efforts in China.”

This is yet another example of Nestle evading regulations and exploiting resources for profit. In fact, this particular example ties into pollution outsourcing, which is a result of economic imperialism under capitalism.

4. Use of child slave labor and human trafficking (SOURCE)

Like many other similar corporations, Nestle knowingly makes use of child slave labor in its supply chains in Africa. For decades, ex-slaves have been speaking out against the company’s practices.

“The allegations paint a picture of overseas slave labor that defendants perpetuated from headquarters in the United States,” the San Francisco-based appeals court said. The case, filed by six former slaves who were kidnapped from their native Mali, has been moving up and down the federal court system since 2005. The companies are accused of aiding and abetting slave labor by giving Ivory Coast farmers financial assistance in the expectation that cocoa prices would stay low. The suit alleges the companies were fully aware that child slavery was being used.
The ex-slaves say children were forced to work as much as 14 hours a day, given only scraps to eat, and were severely beaten or tortured if they tried to escape.
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Combined, Ivory Coast and Ghana produce almost 60% of the world’s cocoa, according to the U.S. Labor Department’s Bureau of International Affairs. “Latest estimates found 2 million children engaged in hazardous work on cocoa farms in these two countries,” the bureau says on its website.

FUN BONUS: Nestle’s PR contacted me on twitter regarding the company’s use of child labor and dismissal of lawsuits.

My response:

CHEERS EVERYONE!

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We’ve got some Ocean Sweethearts for your Valentine’s Day!

ur my cuddlefish

u give me the warm fuzzies

my three hearts are yours

our love for the pengWIN

anchovy mine

u turn me to jelly

ur my littoral crush

i think ur jawesome

thx for the kelp but

im a hermaphroditic Mnemiopsis comb jelly that can self fertilize sooo

Including an asexual option?? @montereybayaquarium you had my respect but now you have my admiration as well!

@salooverall  fishies! also aro and ace inclusive!

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Forgot to upload this here, a full moon calendar for 2020 for the northern hemisphere, I’m making the one for the southern hemisphere too <3

Full moons are perfect for charging your crystals or utensyls, to make moon water and to focus on your special intentions.

The Wolf Moon already lurks in the sky, do you have anything planned for it?

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copperbadge

I say this as a former smoker who bears smokers no bad will, but:

Smoking inside the bus shelter: rude

Smoking inside the bus shelter when it's snowing: SUPER RUDE

Smoking inside the bus shelter when it's snowing and you're not even catching a bus, just on a work break: FUCKING UNFORGIVABLE.

Your payment for the joy of having a quiet smoke is that you have to stand outside to do it! Your dues for the delights of tobacco are that you can't stink up the place for everyone else!

I mean, that and cancer, but that part's pretty well known.

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