the athiesm of women/people of color/lgbt people is absolutely different than the athiesm of cishet white men and i feel like people forget that a lot

how?

Don’t have spoons for long explanation - also this is only speaking for christianity - but religion has been a force of oppression for women, people of color, and lgbt+ people and the rejection of the religion is often coupled with the rejection of how religion treats them.

I’ll also say that abuse survivors are included in this because it is a reaction to and an attempt to reconcile how (christian) god would allow abuse to happen.

For straight white men atheism is usually rooted in intellectual and rational superiority complexes. It’s a “i am more rational and intelligent than you, how can you believe in something so obviously fake” thing as opposed to a reaction to a societal institution that upholds their oppression and abuse.

Women, PoC, Queer people, immigrants, trauma survivors, etc:  How can I believe in something that teaches you to be cruel?  How can I trust the books that tell me of peace and love, when you use your faith to hurt me?  How can a loving god allow [insert injustice of the day]?

White Men: I, as an Intellectual, eschew silly superstitions that say I might, someday, after my death, face one (1) single consequence.

kins are absolutely ridiculously and dumb and harmless except for danganronpa kinnies like one second you make fun of them and the next they doxx you and try to strangle you in your sleep. it feels like you’re following a rabid dog that can go wild any second i think they should be considered public health hazards

you can reblog this i want danganronpa kinnies to feel unsafe

Things only bullied kids will understand

-Beliving that none of your friends actually want to be your friend and they hate being near you -Hating normal things because they were used to mock you -Having to seek constant validation for your existance -Remembering particular insults you’ve been called for years and will probably never forget them -Beliving you’re too ugly for anyone to ever love -Not wanting to go to a new school/further education because you know the same thing will happen there -Having your parents tell you that you’re only being ‘teased’ -Having people wash their hands in disgust if they accidentally touch you.

Remember, you don’t have to feel all of these to understand

-Having people say you like someone as a way to gross that someone out -Never quite trusting anyone. -Having people ask you out as a dare -”They’re only making fun of you ‘cause they’re jealous!” -”He’s only mean to you ‘cause he’s got a crush on you!” -Having to deal with bullshit ‘zero tolerance’ policies

-being told you’ll be happy in college only to discover that people don’t change -believing that if you’re not way more successful and happier than everyone who ever bullied you then you’re worthless and they’ve won -constantly evaluating yourself looking for the thing that made the abuse happen and falling into a spiral of self-loathing -never quite being able to believe you didn’t deserve it somehow -constantly expecting it to happen again and so never properly relaxing into any situation

- being told that you’re imagining it, that those people are really nice - being expected to respect your bullies by everyone because of their social position - being invited to join a group only to be the target of their insults and mockery - having half-chewed food rubbed in your hair and juice poured into your bags - waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting for it all to happen again and inevitably driving people away because you are too paranoid and wary

-not being able to describe to new friends just how bad it was -being deathly afraid people just won’t believe you -seeing the people who bullied you grow to be Really Good People, but they’ve never apologized -seeing the people who bullied you grow to be Really Bad People and everybody says they always knew they were an ass, but never helped you out -not being able to talk about past experiences because you already feel like a burden to your friends with too much baggage -not being able to ask someone out for fear they’d say yes only out of pity -letting seemingly little things get to you because they throw you right back into the days where everything was really bad

-Being unable to relate to anyone without thinking they are secretly laughing behind your back -Not being able to take a compliment without thinking it’s a joke. -Not being able to take a joke. People think you are an irritable person, but in truth you are just tired for having been insulted so many times in your life, you just want people to stop rubbing that wound. -Becoming dependent on someone else to live your social life. Without this person you’d rather stay home alone, because you feel too defenceless and the others will surely devour you as if you were a deer between lions. -You’re a fully grown adult, but you’re still afraid of crossing that park when you’re alone. -It’s the last day of school, everyone is sad and crying because they will part ways. You just wait for it to be over and hope that the next period of your life will be better. Off without any of them. -Also, some of the above are painstakingly accurate. “Having people ask you out as a dare” Yeah, I remember that. -Realizing the few happy memories of your childhood that you can recall, are the very few moments when someone accidentally treated you like a normal person. This probably hurts more than it should.

just reading this made me burst into tears wow. talk about realizing you have wounds you weren’t even aware of

- feeling obligated to help, support, never question and bend over for your friends because you’re terrified of losing their friendship, even as an adult (which wouldn’t be necessary, actually, since the few friends i have are real, true friends and would never hurt me, but the need to never went away) - having to “buy” friendships with providing them snacks, letting them play with your stuff, doing stuff for them - doubting every. single. one. that’s treating you nicely and like an actual person and questioning their motives - crippling self-doubt because there has to be something wrong with you to make people treat you like that

- “just man up”

-Having every single student and Teacher ignoring you, only if you threw up in class would anyone notice you, only to think you’re disgusting.

-Getting letters telling you to go and kill yourself because no one wants to look at your ugly ass face.

-getting into a group of People, only to realize they use you to get close to that one and only true friend you had, and as soon as they’re friends, they forget about you.

-Always playing alone and talking to yourself, as no one else ever listened to you or cared about your feelings and/or opinions.

- Always assuming people laughing in public are laughing at you

- Automatically trying to get out of social situations out of habit then loathing myself for not making/spending time with friends and feeling lonely

- Always having to overachieve because if what I do isn’t perfect then I have nothing to base self esteem off 

I’m over forty and a Tumblr post just made me feel like I was breaking out into hives… this is way too relatable.

https://twitter.com/takeuchi_fgo/status/948875602211123200

Abuse by parents is so insidious, especially emotional abuse. Because parents can be fine and supportive and loving until something doesn’t go their way and then it’s guilt and appeals to authority that border on gaslighting.

Because I don’t know what else to call it when a parent says the way they remember it is the TRUTH, negating a child’s experience and memory and then saying that they are right because they are the parent.

Their version of what happened is the official story and a child gets manipulated into believing it or agreeing with it.

And sometimes these relationships don’t necessarily change when the child becomes an adult, sometimes that child standing up for themselves and holding their ground becomes evidence that they don’t “care” and that they are “unfeeling” or “unappreciative” of what the parent has given them.

And sure, maybe overall they are top tier parents worthy of awards, but so many can’t face that at best they have been using abusive tactics to emotionally manipulate their children.

And just because parents are the Authority, and just because society thinks certain things are socially acceptable, doesn’t make it not abuse.

@ y’all lgbt peeps; reblog and tag with that ship that makes you go “this is a gay ship for straight people”

LIKE if you agree with Medea!

REBLOG if you’d tell Medea she’s already a princess!

IGNORE if you are Jason

Unrecognized signs of abuse

This list includes signs I exhibited while being abused and afterwards, as well as signs I’ve seen other abused youth display, all of which are less commonly recognized for what they are: red flags in disguise. 

Feel free to add more to this list. If you or someone else has experienced at least half of these signs, it’s very likely you or them has been through some form of abuse.

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