this took me far too long to learn, so I’m going to tell you something that you need to internalise.
you don’t have to tell people anything you don’t want to tell them. it’s not rude or disrespectful to be private about things. you don’t owe anyone that information, so how could it be wrong to withhold it?
queer but don’t want to come out? don’t!
have a trauma disorder but don’t want to tell people what your trauma was? don’t!
disabled but don’t want to talk about it? that’s right, simply do not!
practice telling people to go away when they ask invasive questions.
the responses I’ve been using in particular are “that’s between me and my therapist/doctor”, and “why does it matter to you?”
you don’t need a “reason” to want to keep things to yourself. you don’t need to tell someone your entire history so that they can label you as “valid”.
don’t tell people information you don’t want to share.