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im bout to say fuck it and start biting mosquitoes back
- ̗̀ 𝐥𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 ̖́-
i encounter this phrase somewhere -𝑙𝑎𝑧𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑑𝑜𝑒𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑒𝑥𝑖𝑠𝑡-. the author wrote, “if a person’s behavior doesn’t make sense to you, it is because you are missing a part of their context. it’s that simple.” and it hits me. i will start to look harder. at human behavior. this way. let’s give it a try. to make this world prettier. (◍•ᴗ•◍)❤
ig: ohaliensjournal
- ̗̀ 𝐚𝐭𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐜 𝐡𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐭𝐬 ̖́-
currently reading -Atomic Habits- by James Clear and it’s so worthy. working on improving my life by getting 1% better each day. (◍•ᴗ•◍)❤
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I finally finished my summer school so I’ll be making more creative contents for my blog. Here is a small guide on ways to relax after a tiring day. Is there any specific content you wanna see? Feel free to give suggestions!
Thank you so much for your support ❤️
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June 2020 Wallpapers
It’s June? Apparently? Although my sense of time is getting screwed by the minute, here are some wallpapers for y’all!
You can download them from the Google Drive folder linked below:
Hope you enjoy them and bring you at least a little joy in these uncertain times :)
P.S. A brief overview of the folders
- phone includes all phone versions
- plain includes calendars without any illustrations
- pngs contains the transparent png of the window in case you want to create your own wallpaper
- pride-<color> includes pride wallpapers with the background color <color>
- space contains wallpapers with the space theme
- sunset contains wallpapers with the sunset theme
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some things i’ve learned while studying in quarantine
- drink more water instead of more coffee.
- weekly goals are bullshit. set yourself 3-day goals. you’ll be less laid-back.
- don’t just mindlessly stare at words. before you start studying, know your approach to it. have a plan.
- summarizing the concept in your own words is the key part of taking notes. don’t just copy things down, convert them into your own way of talking, your own vocabulary, no matter how dumb and unprofessional it sounds.
- don’t let the “studyblr aesthetic” fool you. studying doesn’t have to be pretty. summaries and notes can be messy as long as they’re comprehensible. you can always rewrite and reorganize them later. (honestly, you better do. and you better keep them.)
- don’t throw away the papers you’ve solved your problems in. staple them to the fucking textbook. you need to see them constantly. cause you’ll need reminders of how far you’ve came, when you’re feeling discouraged.
- don’t be an armchair analyst for your issues. if you have an idea then act on it.
- remember: the exact point where it becomes difficult, is where your growth begins. take a deep breath, and try to focus on the paragraph in front of you.
- get off your high horse and understand that if you’re a zero, you won’t go to 100 in a couple of days. first, you’ll need to reach 30, then from 30 to 60, and then from 60 to 90. nobody is 100 everyday. that happens very rarely.
- you need to have fun everyday. you need to have peaceful time every single day. even on exam night. especially on exam night, actually. so make sure you’ve studied enough so you can have some time to yourself.
- once you’re on a roll and in need of some challenge to stay on track, start writing down your studying hours. tell yourself you’re not allowed to do less than 80% of what you did yesterday. whatever the hell it was, even just one hour. so if yesterday you really studied for like, say 8 hours, today your goal is to study for at least 6 and a half hours. if you can’t keep up with that, make it 70%, or 60%.
- be forgiving of yourself. be kind to yourself. even if you bounced back and lost your streak. start again. as slowly as you did before. take your time. it’s okay, you were there once you can get there again.
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Be teachable. You’re not always right.
“but some people CAN’T change” and “some people WON’T change”
I don’t care. The argument for being kind and charitable to other people is not for the sake of changing them, being kind and charitable is for the sake of preserving goodness in this world and within myself.
kindness isn’t a mythical personality trait blessed to only the good and beautiful and princesses in fairy tales!! Kindness is a choice and we have to keep choosing it
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Anonymous asked:
Senpai, do you got any tips on starting/running a studyblr/ bujo blog?:) I'm mostly confused about the tags, what are the most important ones so everyone might see my posts?
Haha, hi there! ✨ I’ll try to think of some tips, but I’ll mostly explain the tags and link you to other posts about starting a studyblr because these are really helpful!
STUDYBLR TAGS
✏️ #studyblr - studying + tumblr - used for basically everything connected to studying that you post on tumblr but also - an account that posts about studying is a studyblr
✏️ #studyspo & #studyinspo & #studyinspiration- studying + inspiration - used for everything that inspires you to study (basically every pretty photo of notes for me)
✏️ #studymotivation - basically the same as the previous one but with motivation
✏️ #lookstudyblr - used mostly for introductory posts of studyblr users, or for posts of new studyblrs
✏️ #babystudyblr - a baby studyblr has
✏️ #newstudyblr - see above
✏️ #handwriting #notes #studying #student - and basically everything connected to studying
✏️ #stationery #supplies - for the pics of stationery, pens, washi, notebooks, etc.
✏️ #flatlay - for the photos where everything is laid out flat on the surface and the pic is taken from above
✏️ studyblrs tracked tags - studyblrs each have their own tag that they track! If you tag them with their tracked tag they will check out the post you tagged them in and they might reblog/like it (and you’ll get more notes), I track #nerdastically and here’s the list of tracked tags of some bigger studyblr users
Here you have the tags. As for the tips:
📌 post original content - it doesn’t have to be pretty or aesthetic, but people will more likely notice you if you post something that’s yours other than just reblogging
📌 icon, theme & url - have them match, both topic-wise and color-wise; also they should somehow be connected to studying, like your favorite subject, or your favorite stationery item, something that will make people say “ok it’s a studyblr”
📌 make an introductory post - introduce yourself to the community! Tell us more about yourself - your personality type, your Hogwarts house, your favorite pet etc. More on that in the links below!
And there you have it! Hope that helps x
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How to learn a language when you don’t know where to start:
General Plan:
Weeks 1 and 2: Purpose:
- Learn the fundamentals sentence construction
- Learn how to spell and count
- Start building a phrase stockpile with basic greetings
- The Alphabet
- Numbers 1 - 100
- Subject Pronouns
- Common Greetings
- Conjugate the Two Most Important Verbs: to be and to have
- Basic Definite and Indefinite Articles
Weeks 3 and 4: Purpose:
- Learn essential vocabulary for the day-to-day
- Start conjugating regular verbs
- Days of the Week and Months of the Year
- How to tell the time
- How to talk about the weather
- Family Vocabulary
- Present Tense Conjugations Verbs
Weeks 5 and 6: Purpose:
- Warm up with the last of the day-to-day vocabulary
- Add more complex types of sentences to your grammar
- Colours
- House vocabulary
- How to ask questions
- Present Tense Conjugations Verbs
- Forming negatives
Weeks 7 and 8: Purpose:
- Learn how to navigate basic situations in a region of your target language country
- Finish memorising regular conjugation rules
- Food Vocabulary and Ordering at Restaurants
- Money and Shopping Phrases
- Present Tense Conjugations Verbs
Weeks 9 and 10: Purpose:
- Start constructing descriptive and more complex sentences
- Adjectives
- Reflective verbs
- Places vocabulary
Weeks 11 and 12: Purpose:
- Add more complex descriptions to your sentences with adverbs
- Wrap up vocabulary essentials
- Adverbs
- Parts of the body and medical vocabulary
Tips for Learning a Foreign Language:
Learning Vocabulary:
What vocabulary should I be learning?
- There are hundreds of thousands of words in every language, and the large majority of them won’t be immediately relevant to you when you’re starting out.Typically, the most frequent 3000 words make up 90% of the language that a native speaker uses on any given day. Instead try to learn the most useful words in a language, and then expand outwards from there according to your needs and interests.
- Choose the words you want/need to learn.
- Relate them to what you already know.
- Review them until they’ve reached your long-term memory.
- Record them so learning is never lost.
- Use them in meaningful human conversation and communication.
How should I record the vocabulary?
- Learners need to see and/or hear a new word of phrase 6 to 17 times before they really know a piece of vocabulary.
- Keep a careful record of new vocabulary.
- Record the vocabulary in a way that is helpful to you and will ensure that you will practice the vocabulary, e.g. flashcards.
- Vocabulary should be organised so that words are easier to find, e.g. alphabetically or according to topic.
- Ideally when noting vocabulary you should write down not only the meaning, but the grammatical class, and example in a sentence, and where needed information about structure.
How should I practice using the vocabulary?
- Look, Say, Cover, Write and Check - Use this method for learning and remembering vocabulary. This method is really good for learning spellings.
- Make flashcards. Write the vocabulary on the front with the definition and examples on the back.
- Draw mind maps or make visual representations of the new vocabulary groups.
- Stick labels or post it notes on corresponding objects, e.g when learning kitchen vocabulary you could label items in your house.
How often should I be practising vocabulary?
- A valuable technique is ‘the principle of expanding rehearsal’. This means reviewing vocabulary shortly after first learning them then at increasingly longer intervals.
- Ideally, words should be reviewed:
- 5-10 minutes later
- 24 hours later
- One week later
- 1-2 months later
- 6 months later
Knowing a vocabulary item well enough to use it productively means knowing:
- Its written and spoken forms (spelling and pronunciation).
- Its grammatical category and other grammatical information
- Related words and word families, e.g. adjective, adverb, verb, noun.
- Common collocations (Words that often come before or after it).
Receptive Skills: Listening and Reading
- Reading is probably one of the most effective ways of building vocabulary knowledge.
- Listening is also important because it occupies a big chunk of the time we spend communicating.
Tips for reading in a foreign language:
- Start basic and small. Children’s books are great practice for beginners. Don’t try to dive into a novel or newspaper too early, since it can be discouraging and time consuming if you have to look up every other word.
- Read things you’ve already read in your native language. The fact that you at least know the gist of the story will help you to pick up context clues, learn new vocabulary and grammatical constructions.
- Read books with their accompanying audio books. Reading a book while listening to the accompanying audio will improve your “ear training”. It will also help you to learn the pronunciation of words.
Tips for listening in a foreign language:
- Watch films in your target language.
- Read a book while also listening along to the audio book version.
- Listen to the radio in your target language.
- Watch videos online in your target language.
Activities to do to show that you’ve understood what you’ve been listening to:
- Try drawing a picture of what was said.
- Ask yourself some questions about it and try to answer them.
- Provide a summary of what was said.
- Suggest what might come next in the “story.”
- Translate what was said into another language.
- “Talk back” to the speaker to engage in imaginary conversation.
Productive Skills: Speaking and Writing
Tips for speaking in a foreign language:
- If you can, try to speak the language every day either out loud to yourself or chat to another native speaker whether it is a colleague, a friend, a tutor or a language exchange partner.
- Write a list of topics and think about what you could say about each one. First you could write out your thoughts and then read them out loud. Look up the words you don’t know. You could also come up with questions at the end to ask someone else.
- A really good way to improve your own speaking is to listen to how native speakers talk and imitate their accent, their rhythm of speech and tone of voice. Watch how their lips move and pay attention to the stressed sounds. You could watch interviews on YouTube or online news websites and pause every so often to copy what you have just heard. You could even sing along to songs sung in the target language.
- Walk around the house and describe what you say. Say what you like or dislike about the room or the furniture or the decor. Talk about what you want to change.This gets you to practise every day vocabulary.
Tips for writing in a foreign language:
- Practice writing in your target language. Keep it simple to start with. Beginner vocabulary and grammar concepts are generally very descriptive and concrete.
- Practice writing by hand. Here are some things you can write out by hand:
- Diary entries
- Shopping lists
- Reminders
What could I write about?
- Write about your day, an interesting event, how you’re feeling, or what you’re thinking.
- Make up a conversation between two people.
- Write a letter to a friend, yourself, or a celebrity. You don’t need to send it; just writing it will be helpful.
- Translate a text you’ve written in your native language into your foreign language.
- Write a review or a book you’ve recently read or a film you’ve recently watched.
- Write Facebook statuses, Tweets or Tumblr posts (whether you post them or not will be up to you).
- Write a short story or poem.
Writing is one of the hardest things to do well as a non-native speaker of a language, because there’s no room to hide.
There are lots of ways to improve your writing ability, but they can be essentially boiled down to three key components:
- Read a lot
- Write a lot
- Get your writing corrected
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can you talk about managing people + dealing with politics, especially in the workplace? i'm a software engineer hoping to segue into management - intj, but have been thrust into leadership roles for so long and earned others' respect b/c no one can do well as i can. but personally, doing well means micromanaging + worrying extensively etc etc, which is positively exhausting for my mental health. i would appreciate any advice you can give.
Sure.
On managing people
For INTJs (applicable to ISTJs), micromanagement is a common issue because you’re overachievers who tend to excel and fly up the ranks at the junior level until hitting a brick wall at the leadership level when you need to switch gears, learn to play nice, and rely on other people. The underlying logic behind this behavior is straightforward:
“I’m amazing at what I do, I don’t trust you to be as good as me, but I can’t do everything myself so to ensure the absolute best outcome I need to keep a tight grip on everything and everyone so no one screws up.”
Hitting objective goals and managing your own work is easy (similar for ExTJs) because you’re only responsible yourself– but managing other people who can be flaky, unpredictable, and mistake-prone is a challenge. The root cause of micromanagement is lack of trust in your team, a couple ways to mitigate this include:
- Be a mentor, not a manager, and empower your team by teaching them how to become better. Most people don’t come perfectly pre-packaged with all the information, technical skills, people skills, organizational skills, work habits, and stamina to succeed– they need time and space to develop. If you’re lucky enough to be ahead of the curve then help them get to where you are. Provide resources (helpful examples or past templates to leverage), discussions, and a feedback loop that both compliments strengths and identifies areas for improvement.
- Let people make mistakes. I know, I’m asking for something incredibly painful, but very necessary because people need to make mistakes to learn. Give them smaller and simpler tasks so they can first fail and learn things in a safe environment with minimal impact to the project, then scale the responsibilities with more complexity. Remember that even though it takes longer to teach someone a skill rather than doing the task yourself, once they understand how to do it, that’s one less thing you have to do moving forward.
- Give positive feedback in equal proportion to constructive criticism so your team won’t equate a discussion with you to a rectal exam. This will make the person more receptive to feedback because they won’t feel like you’re singling out the things they did wrong instead of acknowledging and appreciating the things they did right. In time, these interactions should strengthen the relationship and give the person more confidence to speak up and contribute, take more ownership of tasks, take on a bigger workload, and rely less on you which is the end goal.
- Set regular touchpoint meetings once or twice a week as needed. Don’t hover over your team, let them know that (for example) every Monday and Thursday at 1PM you’d like to spend 30 minutes to discuss project updates, potential issues, and anything else on that person’s mind. This frees up your time to do your own work and it gives them breathing room and flexibility to get their work done, experiment, use their own work style, and come back for feedback.
On dealing with politics
The best way to navigate through politics and to be untouchable without lowering yourself to the bullshit that transpires in the office is this: be so damn good and so valuable to the organization that you become invincible to the gossip circles and power games that people play. If you’re a lawyer winning high-profile cases, a consultant delivering top engagements, an investment banker closing mega deals, a designer creating major campaigns, or a surgeon performing miracle surgeries– no one would be suicidal enough to come at you. Additionally, make sure to receive credit for the great work that you do. It’s not enough to be great, other people need to know this in order for you to be properly rewarded.
If, by chance, you’re in an organization that values stupidity and favoritism over integrity and merit then this is an issue of a toxic culture and you need to leave. Find a place that values someone like you so every day doesn’t feel like a constant uphill battle– demand better for yourself.
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Anonymous asked:
Any advice for an INTP who is about to step into a leadership role and maybe a little anxious about it?
Related answer:
For INTP (and ISTP) leaders, the top 3 issues to be aware of:
1. Communication: For Ti-doms, ideas sound great in their minds until they try to communicate it to other people and it comes out as a convoluted and jumbled mess that no one else understands. For ISTPs, the workaround is typically “let me just show you what I mean” and they’ll do it (which is great except no one else understands how they did it). For INTPs, the workaround is typically “let me keep explaining my rationale until you understand and/or I confuse you even more.” As a leader, communication is important to master because your team can’t do correctly what they can’t understand.
Additionally, Ti-doms have the tendency to be unresponsive to communication because they’re so deep in trying to solve a problem they don’t come up for air.
Solutions:
- Organize your thoughts before speaking by sequentially ordering work steps, plans, and strategies chronologically. That way you’re able to walk other people through your thought process in a narrative that makes sense to them.
- Write it down. Take the information and logic from your head and put it on paper. If you have trouble writing it, you’ll have trouble speaking it. This allows for visibility, clarity, and edits if necessary before it’s presented to other people.
- Get feedback from other people to clear up confusing language and clarify ideas.
- Schedule breaks in your calendar or touchpoint meetings with teammates so there’s a mandatory stop that forces you to pause what you’re doing and reconnect with other people.
2. Indecision: The Ti bicycle is prone to overthinking and spinning its wheels until it beats an idea dead, resurrects it, and then murders it again with more analysis. It’s great to be thorough, but it’s not great to be so thorough that you slow everything down to the point the project comes to a grinding halt and your entire team is stuck in purgatory because you’re unable to make a decision and move on.
Solutions:
- Two words: diminishing returns. Set a deadline or threshold for yourself and your team by accepting that more investment in time and energy needs to yield X amount for it to be worth the effort. 10 more hours of analysis to yield $1 in gains isn’t worth the trade-off. Move on.
- Act. You won’t get new insights and data until you try. The success or failure of an attempt will provide new information to refine your theory and move closer to a solution.
3. Detachment: Ti-doms, in general, aren’t confrontational and they aren’t “pushers” of people. They like to focus on ideas, tasks, and problems to solve instead of the people and politics that come with leadership. It’s great to be easygoing and approachable, but it’s not great to be so easygoing and laissez-faire the train goes off the rails and into a canyon. This behavior causes issues when people need to be confronted, low performers need to be disciplined, schedules need to be enforced, etc. triggering extreme dread. “I don’t want to deal with this” isn’t an option for a leader.
Additional issue: can be pushovers.
Solutions:
- Schedule standing meetings with the team so it becomes normal and natural for them to receive feedback from you. They’ll expect to hear from you on a regular basis because it’s already on the calendar as a regular event and it’s not an unnatural harbinger of bad news that came out of left field.
- Say “no.” It works. Trust me.
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Anonymous asked:
Would you have any advice to share for a woman in a very male dominated field (engineering) who is stepping into a leadership position and must manage a team of predominantly men who may not be pleased with this development? I have read all your insightful leadership posts and I am only asking for additional advice for this particular situation. Thank you, Mr. ENTJ.
I’ll leave you with one last piece of advice: don’t let anyone ever make you feel like you don’t belong in the room.
Don’t let anyone make you feel like you have nothing to contribute, don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re unqualified for (or undeserving) your position, and don’t let anyone chase you out of the room. You’re there by your own merits, and if they don’t like it, they can be the ones to leave.
Congratulations and best of luck.
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infp issue #132
being an infp in a leadership position is really hard, people think that they can ignore you and make you do all the work just because you’re passive
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Leaders can have many different styles — just compare President Donald Trump to Malala Yousafzai to your boss or the coach of your kid’s soccer team.
But a study published Thursday suggests that people who end up in leadership roles of various sorts all share one key trait: Leaders make decisions for a group in the same way that they make decisions for themselves. They don’t change their decision-making behavior, even when other people’s welfare is at stake.
That may come as a bit of surprise, given that most lists of key leadership qualities focus on things like charisma and communication skills.
“Previous research has mostly focused on these kinds of either personality characteristics of a leader, or situations where individuals are likely to lead,” says Micah Edelson, a neuroscientist at the University of Zurich in Switzerland. “But we don’t know much about the cognitive or neurobiological process that is happening when you are choosing to lead or follow — when you’re faced with this choice to lead or follow.”
He notes that the decisions of leaders can affect the lives of many others. “It’s not always that easy to make such a choice, and it’s something that could be even a little bit aversive to you, to make a choice that impacts other people,” says Edelson. “And there are some people that seem to be able to do it; some people don’t. So we were interested in looking at that.”
Illustration: sorbetto/Getty Images
Source: NPR