Yeah well you didn't need to put trans men down to get your point across.
You could have just said the second part without implying we're accepted with no effort every time. Stop fucking throwing us under the bus.
Almost every single anti transmasc caricature that's meant to imply that this is a "privileged cis woman faker" features a fat person.
What the fuck is that person talking about?
I’m not sure I’ve connected any dots here but I find it real weird how transandrophobes either describe transmascs as skinny pretty boys or ugly gross fat guys depending on what’s convenient for their narrative.
Yeah, we apparently shape-shift into wither hyper privileged white boys when we're oppressors, and fat ugly theyfabs when we're stupid females.
Oh yeah, and don't forget the "ugly" they always call our features ugly. Like huh really wish I wasn't degraded in that way.
Like ugly in what way? How would you describe ugly? Is it 'anything other than the Eurocentric/white beauty standard".
Also notice how they sexualize our bodies? Always drawing the "cis woman faker " (not a fucking thing) as someone with revealing clothing, and a huge chest like embracing your femininity or sexuality as a transmasc is a bad thing to do.
What they want transmascs to be is this ↓
God forbid they look like this
(Picture of me fyi)
Or this
Or this
Or this
Or this
Remember when mullets were like, a staple in queer fashion but then transmascs jumped on the mullet train (bc get this, mullets can be excellent for androgyny and closeted trans men) and suddenly mullets were ugly and there were all these memes about "saving transmascs from mullets" or whatever? I specifically remember this happening about a year ago when tiktok especially had a lot of transmascs showing off their mullets and stuff.
I specifically remember in a groupchat i ran with some friends, there were 3 trans dudes (including myself), 3 nonbinary folks, one of whom identified as a lesbian. one of the trans dudes started talking about wanting to cut his hair into a mullet. most of us were super supportive! like hell yeah! get that mullet!! do what makes YOU feel best!! I even admitted to wanting a mullet. then the lesbian started going in hard on how ugly mullets are and how the dude shouldn't do that. anyway, long-story short the trans dude got a mullet, and the lesbian once again made their opinions loudly known about how ugly mullets are. again, their wording left no room for interpretation, it wasn't a "I don't personally like mullets for myself", it was a full "mullets are ugly/hideous" and when the dude would post selfies there was always a comment like "You're handsome but I still think mullets are ugly!"
the next month I got a mullet-like haircut. it was a bit too long to be an actual MULLET but it was close enough to qualify and I largely stopped posting selfies. but then the lesbian started sharing memes privately to me SPECIFICALLY about lesbians saving their transmasc friends from the barber and shit like that. I didn't wanna be aggressive so I kinda went "haha that's funny, but on the flipside this seems to follow a trend where anything transmascs do to feel good about themselves gets deemed ugly and/or cringe even if we're following trends that already existed in the community" and they did not take that well.
like this is ONE example I fully lived thru since starting my transition that was in an ENTIRELY QUEER space.
AND FINALLY, trans men are not ACCEPTED more than trans women, even in queer spaces not specifically geared toward gender inclusivity. transmascs are talked down to A LOT, are treated like babies, and there are a troubling amount of cis gay ppl who truly believe that transmascs are just lesbians with internalized homophobia.
To go back to the sexualization real quick, I'm surprised no one commented on the fact that "slut" is written on the bodies of one of those "cis women fakers" they really can't stop seeing transmascs as sexual objects. Or I guess as broken sexual objects that need to be punished for not being pretty enough.
I'm guessing that's referencing the transmed belief that "A true trans man would NEVER have vaginal sex because he would be TOO dysphoric!"
So it follows that any trans man who doesn't get bottom surgery and still has sex must be a faker.
I remember Kalvin going after one specific trans sex worker and calling him a faker because he had (kinky) vaginal sex.
No but Kalvin literally went after a transmasc sex worker because he said that trans men should be allowed to have breasts and that doesn’t make them any less of a man, but ofc Kalvin saw that as a “trender” thing bc god forbid a transmasc person doesn’t have top dysphoria, also I wonder how he feels about transmasc sex worker who fully pass, like Ari Koyote or Viktor Belmont, would he misgender them bc they both chose to keep their vulvas? I don’t think so
Yeah exactly. I have this one specific image etched into my brain of him doing a bondage scene, because Kalvin straight up showed a clip of one of his videos as a "reaction".
And his whole reasoning was "Why would a trans man want to use his bottom genitalia during sex?? He must be faking it."
And this is all Kalvin did. He projected onto other trans men and set his own dysphoria as tbe standard for everyone else.
Not to mention, the guy he went after was a SEX WORKER. A TRANS sex worker. Which is one of the professions trans people (especially immigrant trans women, at least here in Italy) are in out of necessity, and one of the most dangerous ones. Do we really need to make their job harder?
