“it’s okay, lil fella! c’mere! it’s just us, the limp bizkits!”

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I think the reason so many people in a nuclear family identify their parents as narcissists is 'traditional family values' are inherently self-centered on the parents' behalf. The parent is positioned as an all-knowing authority over the child and has the right to treat them how they please. Parents will also sacrifice their children's well-being to appear as a 'respectable' family in public--image is that important to them. You can identify narcissistic traits in this dynamic but those traits are really centered around the family, not individual narcissistic people

I'm a dark triad master manipulator cuz I am nice to people who could fire me or cause me inconvenience at the workplace at some point in the future. This isn't common sense behavior only a career climber sociopath would do this

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so just because i ahve a rare and incurable condition where i can only understand human suffering thru the lens of showtunes and cartoons aimed at preteens means my posts about labor disputes aren't insightful? tch [turns on my heel and like five pins fall off my little backpack with nothing inside except the leather journal i'm writing my fantasy novel in] [turns back around immediately] so yeah it's sort of a chaotic found family story and it's like really wholesome but feral AF and there's a lot of queer representation

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yeah every generation has had concerns about overuse of technology among children but that doesn't mean every concern is wrong. like when I was younger it was "kids watch too much tv". for kids who watched tv an average amount, obviously there wasn't an issue, but I did actually know a family whose kids like...literally sat and watched tv every hour of the day, which is not healthy. so it's less of a "technology bad" thing and more of a "everything in moderation" thing. the moderation part is now much easier to get around, and that's why the problem escalated.

some of this could improve if advertising towards children was regulated. the psychology of advertising is now guiding children's entertainment. for examples, I recommend this article on the impact the reagan administration's deregulation of advertising had on children's entertainment.

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Very Small Living Spaces (1989)

i mean . no shit?

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like with lolita I feel like even when people are defending the book they tend to go too far in the wrong direction and flatten it into "well obviously the book isn't sympathetic towards pedophilia, you're supposed to hate humbert and think he's disgusting at all times" and I just feel like that's reductive bc like. the book is absolutely not sympathetic towards pedophilia but imo you ARE supposed to find humbert funny and kind of tragic and charming and that's like. the point! like he's intentionally written to be all these things!

if the book wanted to just be like. a straightforward condemnation of pedophilia, then humbert wouldn't be the narrator. but it's not a book about child sexual abuse being bad -- like that kind of goes without saying, you don't really need to argue it -- it's a book about the ways humbert justifies his abuse to himself, and to the audience. it's a book that's largely about how stories are told, and the way personal and cultural narratives can be used to justify even the worst imaginable behavior. humbert doesn't describe himself abusing a child, he describes himself being 'seduced' by a 'nymphet'; he likens his relationship to that of dante and beatrice or petrarch and laureen to establish historical legitimacy and lend a sort of tragic romanticism to it. it almost feels like the book is less focused on the story itself, and more on the way humbert spins it. he isn't written to be an obviously hateable monster, he's written to be erudite and tragic and funny, and that's because the book isn't trying to teach you that child abuse is bad, it's demonstrating the ways that being erudite and tragic and funny can be used to normalize and justify something that you already know is bad. imo it's largely a book about the ways that someone can construct a mythology to convince themselves of anything, and how if we don't think critically about what we're told then we can fall into the same trap.

it's also absolutely a story about reading past the lines to figure out what's actually going on. like it's funny that the book has become such a touchstone for discourse about Media Literacy bc I really think that 'media literacy' is like. one of the core themes. like the book kind of requires that you ignore the way humbert writes to make out what he's actually describing; the worse his behavior gets, the more flowery and beautiful his writing becomes. the story the book tells if you buy into humbert's mythology and the story it tells if you don't are dramatically different.

like the ways that the book depicts dolores suffering are there, but you almost have to read past the narrative humbert presents to see them, right? like when he complains about dolores being irritable and cruel and moody, he's presenting the picture of a fickle and unreasonable WOMAN who is toying with his emotions. but when you read what he's actually describing instead of the way he describes it, it reads like a fact sheet on spotting child abuse! she has mood swings, she lashes out at people, nothing makes her happy, she cries herself to sleep most nights. if we read humbert's account at face value, she's a fickle seductress who gets a sick thrill out of hurting him; if we recognize his bias and intentions in writing it, she's a deeply depressed and traumatized child still attempting to resist her abuser despite everything she's been through. like it's as close to an exercise in 'media literacy' as a book can get in that regard.