No, I don’t think so.

Empathy seems to become more important the more complex and diverse a community is, as it becomes less obvious what dependancies exist logically, an emotional connection to separate of “same as me/us” and “different to me/us” might be required.

Of course, due to a more global network and algorithms that push for radicalisation, it is more likely for these groups to form an extremist view of how different others are.

While empathy helps people identify others’ emotions, communicate and find themselves in others, it also permits them to draw a strong line between what they understand and what is therefore seen as similar and valuable and what they do not care for, which is strange and easily vilified.

Depending on if this is an evolutionary advantage or disadvantage, empathy can be seen as either, but most likely these points cancel each other out. Empathy is just as much part of communities as it used to be, these communities are simply more spread out and less bound by proximity in terms of location.

People who lack empathy or have an abundance of it in some way have also existed for a long time already and while it might be rewarded in some circles to display less empathy, this does not mean it has declined in general.

I like who I am. If taking away a part of me permanently would alter who I am, then why would I risk this, and if it would not alter me, then I see no point to it.

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Thanks for asking. I appreciate the sentiment.

My job is going as well as is to be expected. I enjoy my work and while it hardly can be said that I am doing the exact same things that I did when this account was first created, I am not far from where I thought I would be now, back then.

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There will always be and always have been people better than me or others at some things. And while I pride myself in a rather unique combination of skills I am not delusional enough to ignore the fact that I can be bested or easily replaced in most parts of my life.

There is a lot more freedom in being second place than first. The anonymity of an other person’s shadow is a blessing I do not take for granted and will not waste because my ego drives me to compete for the acknowledgement and praise parts of me think I deserve.

I aim to be as good as I need to be and instead of investing all my time into one skill, to diversify and to always have an ace up my sleeve if need be.

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Prostitution is a high-risk job. Making it safer, by regulating it in a legal setting benefits the community, as stds and crime against sex workers indirectly and directly affect the development of a community.

Ideally, it would be regulated by an institution that focuses on the preventing of sex trafficking, prevention of the prostitution of minors and prevention of stds as well as regulating the general well-being of people in such a profession.

While I might not be interested in such a service, if people are willing to pay for this service, then the service can be made a profession and is therefore “real work”.

Thanks. I appreciate the sentiment.

However, I have neither returned, nor have I left, I am merely bored as of this moment, which is a luckily increasingly rare occurrence.

There is no such thing as good or bad people.

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As stated, they are a short-cut to communication and finding a community. Labels can be useful if people understand them to have the same definition, both to identify someone you wish to label “wrong” or “other” or if you wish to identify with someone else.

Are there any advantages to such a diagnosis?

One must be a fool to wear a label like this proudly, and if worn only inwards and hidden what meaning must it carry? Do you wish to pay for the diagnosis and adjacend therapy yourself or declare yourself a “psychopath” to your insurance?

You can know who you are and learn to be yourself in a sustainable manner without labels.

A label is often a short-cut to communication and to finding a community, a label that is kept secret or is misunderstood is therefore nearly useless.

Yes.

But I do not mind the selfishness. It is the waste on all sides, including the one comitting suicide, that I find distasteful. By committing such an act you do not only take away from resources of the community or others, but also opportunities for yourself.

It is very, very rare for situations to arise that determine there will be no improvement or joy in the future and for the person to still have the capacity to logically consider their options.

If you are in a position where you can consider your options, more likely than not you could always kill yourself later, but if you kill yourself now, who knows what could have been.

It is not just selfish, but quite idiotic.

Learning to let go is never easy. Sometimes people prefer the familiar things that hurt them to the unknown or consider “no war over that they have not won”.

Also, it is quiet common to “crave drama” as a way to distract oneself and others from other problems. If there is always something more significant or pressing to deal with, one can push aside other emotional tasks and essentially “procrastinate emotional labour and growth”. It is difficult for most people to find contentment if they are used to stress and fear as they do not trust a seemingly calm or relaxed situation. They might therefore look for drama and thereby inevitably find or even cause it.

However, you should discuss these issues with the therapist you undoubtedly should have for your bpd anyhow, rather than with strangers online.

Qualifications matter.

However, it matters a lot less when in your life you obtain qualifications than people make it seem.

In some areas you might get paid significantly more if you have a degree, even if said degree has little or nothing to do with your job.

There are evening and online schools, some of which are fairly cheap and in some countries education is free or even paid. Also, if your education would aid you in your current job your employer might be inclined to pay for it and to provide you with additional time off to attend classes.

Of course, it is not impossible to be successful by nearly all definitions without any formal qualifications, but if you consider yourself to be so intelligent that you will be able to achieve success without any qualifications, then obtaining said qualifications should be fairly easy for you.

You are an adult, so you do not have “nothing” but you have the freedom to choose your path. If you wish for it you have the advantage of choosing freely how, when and where you wish to obtain the education that might give you a path into a more “successful” future.

That is a relatively roundabout way to ask if I am a Christian.

There is no such thing as Karma.

But I am well-aware that my risk of being bitten by dog would increase tremendously if I were to spend my free time kicking dogs.

Also, I suspect the majority of people would react in distaste to such a behaviour which would therefore result in social repercussions.

We life in a world were actions have consequences without the need for luck or fate.