in the moonlight

Guys, I just wanted to say that being a part of this group for the betterment of 3 years has been amazing. I’ve gotten a chance to work alongside you to help provide a healthy environment as both a member and a team leader; but there comes a time that, happens eventually in most relationships, that one side outgrows another and it’s time to part ways.

So yes, my time at So So Scandalous is coming to end.

I’m not going to lie, there are practices in this group that I am not a fan of; but I have fisted my whole hand in my mouth for far too long to be silent about it any longer. I know I am burning bridges. I know I am losing professional relationships that used to be held near and dear to my heart. However, at the end of the day, I have to do what is right by me and what I hold to be true in my life and my mantras.

I cannot participate in an environment that alienates more than half of their core members because they do not participate in a certain group of friendships and toxicity. I can’t be in a place that does not listen to their members unless they are in that certain group. 

I cannot participate in an environment that does not provide true to their words, that only listens to their members when it is convenient for them to, and provides nepotism and favoritism to a central core group of people.

I cannot participate in an environment that--to be frank--gives out word for word generated responses to their members in the event of crisis, knowing the vibe of neglect that it gives out.  It’s hard running a group this large, I get that, I used to help out. But there comes to a point where all of these generic passive responses are just that--they’re passive. They do nothing. They show nothing. I can’t be in a group that just sits on sidelines and watches until it’s convenient for team leaders to speak out because it benefits them more than the majority of the members.

I cannot participate in an environment that has a justice system that is heavily weighted towards one side of the system; when a person who does no wrong, maybe posts a little bit out of character once a day, ends up getting a strike while another person who blatantly is offensive and has inappropriate behavior towards a triggering subject is given a warning and a slap on the wrist.

I cannot participate in an environment where people manipulate people, twisting words and phrases to get what they want, and spread toxicity and malicious hate, all for the sake of their own agenda. I can’t be in a place where there’s blatant bullying, lying, deceit, and cruelty. For far too long I have listened to close friends come to be upset because a certain group has burned bridges and alienated them from friends that they used to be close to--all for the sake of belonging.

I cannot participate in an environment that honestly does not care about their individual members unless they are with a certain group.

So, to the people that I’ve made connections here. I’m sorry for this abrupt leaving. I’m sorry for the hurt that this might cause any of you; but I won’t be doing right by me and my morals if I didn’t speak up and I have far too long done myself wrong.

Some of you who want to get in touch, do some digging and research and you’ll be able to find me easily.

Thanks for a good 3 years and I’m sorry it had to end this way.

theflashgrant:

That will be true, and it’ll be more fun for him to see the kids when we’re more free with time. I just don’t want to make anyone disappointed, you know? Family’s important to the both of us and I want to be able to accommodate that.

angelkarliekloss:

It’s usually in July so I love wearing dresses that I can actually move and walk around in and be comfortable. They do! I go to different ones and I see so many people dressed up as characters from all sorts of things. Have you ever gone to one? It was adorable getting to see Grant home with the kids and relaxing. He truly is Superdad, which was pretty cool. Ali seems to understand and Matty’s too young to really know anything about it, but I think they’re doing better.

yochriswood:

theflashgrant:

But I’m sure we’re going to see a ton of people we don’t get to see very often. I really want to see Victor again, watch his show and spend at least a meal with him. Tyler too. He’s gonna be mad we aren’t bringing the kids this time, is he?

yochriswood:

ffsgleeson:

angelkarliekloss:

Thank you, thank you. If he takes such amazing care of you already, I think I’ll be in great hands if I ever get the pleasure of using him for a red carpet premiere or even Comic Con soon enough. I was doing a movie after The Flash wrapped! So it was my own little project and Grant got to stay home and take care of the house this time. They’re still in one piece, thankfully. Bella’s passing has them confused still, but I think they’re getting used to it. How are your hubby and little ones, including doggies?