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I AM GOOD !!

opening tumblr again is wild but it's so good to see you again <333

People on tumblr are like "I'm handing all my mutuals a bowl of soup we are kissing with tongue we are the bestest of besties I am killing and dying for you" but sometimes me and the mutuals are posting completely different shit existing on the same blogging platform but really we're just standing in the alley going "ayup" at each other like fucking king of the hill.

KILOMÈTRES MORALES ASDGHASDJASJKDKJA

i got these knockoff boots online and instead of the brand name on the tag they have the name of an apparently nonexistent martin scorsese movie??? what the fuck

[Image Description: image 1. a shoe tongue with a patch that reads, "The greatest mafia movie ever made. Martin Scorsese presents goncharov. Domenico procacci production. A film by Matteo Jwhj0715 about the Naples mafia." The word goncharov is placed in the middle and is in large text compared to the rest.

Image 2. A reply by @ AbandonedAmbition that reads, "this idiot hasn't seen goncharov." End Description]

@creatorsofcolornet event 7: wardrobe ↳ COSTUME DESIGN in CRAZY RICH ASIANS by MARY VOGT

TYPES OF STARS

What’s the attractiveness of both of those? Well, have you ever seen a hummingbird?

JEREMY STRONG The Late Show with Stephen Colbert, 10/13/2022

Remind me to make a longer post about this later, but I think there's an interesting similarity in the way nonbinary (or genderqueer people in general) talk about the nuances of their gender and how people really big into specific music scenes talk about the nuances of the genres they listen to. Like there's the description you give other people in your community, and the "normie" description you give to people who aren't as familiar. And "genre" and "gender" are both constructs in similar ways too. Just my little binary observation tho.

I'll expand more on this later. But anyway, start asking people what genre they are and what gender of music they listen to.

here's that longer post, but keep in mind i'm halfway through a bottle of soju rn

so as a binary trans person, i often had a difficult time understanding the really specific genders and gender identities i'll see. obviously i'll still support them, but i had trouble understanding. and that's just because my gender journey has been different.

sometimes (in less than positive circles) i'll see bad faith arguments against people with these genders like "the census isn't going to mark you down as 'catgender' lmao" which is annoying because i've never seen anyone say that?

the thesis of this post started to prickle in my head when i saw genderqueer mutuals of mine reblogging that post that was like "what is the gender identity you describe yourself as around cis people, and what's the specific one you actually identify as?" reading through people's responses and the way they described the nuances of their genders made me go

"oh shit, it's all music"

because if i'm listening to altar of plagues and my coworker asks what kind of music i'm listening to, i'm just going to say "metal". and if my grandma asks, i'll just say "rock". but if i'm talking to another person who i know is familiar with metal, that's when i feel like i wouldn't be wasting my breath going into specifics. because i know they'd know how describing a band as "black metal" is different than describing one as "power metal" or whatever.

that's what a lot of bad faith arguments around nonbinary genders don't seem to realize. they're not for the cishet majority to understand. i'd even argue that they're not for binary trans people to understand either, considering it took me this long to understand.

but it seems like when people talk about their gender through the lens of anything that goes beyond just male, female, or even strictly nonbinary, it comes from a place of wanting to discuss the nuances of gender identity.

like here's an interaction between two hip-hop heads that has never happened:

person 1: i like memphis rap -- specifically horrorcore.

person 2: okay, i have no followup questions. let's talk about something that has nothing to do with rap or music.

like if someone is coming out as cloudgender to you, it's because they think you're someone who can hang and talk about what that means. what does "cloudgender" mean to you? is it the constantly-shifting state? the association with the weather? the moodiness? the same way two people could have a 6 hour heated discussion about the differences between delta blues and hill country blues, but if you played a charley patton song back to back with an rl burnside song, some people who aren't familiar with blues won't be able to tell the difference. you might as well play the same song twice. so if someone identifies as a demigirl in some circles but to you they just say they're nonbinary or even just "female", they clocked you as a gender normie lol.

and just like gender, genre "doesn't exist", but it still has societal impact. a lot of the blues i listen to wouldn't sound out of place next to country artists. where are the lines? race? class? culture? all of the above? and this becomes muddier when you look at marketing. being plastered with a specific genre can be the kiss of death for your mainstream career, or the thing that pushes you to the top. it's a social construct, but we are social people.

anyway, i hope this makes sense. as a binary trans person i'm not sure where i fit in this analogy. maybe it's like i listened to a bunch of specific subgenres and went like "yeah these all scratch the same itch for me". but if people find meaning within the nichest of niche genres, i think that's amazing. you are an onion and you just kept peeling. when i see people with identities like bloodgender or flowergender, i see someone with a much more nuanced and complex relationship with their gender than i ever could have. i see poetry. i see music.

the booze is catching up with me.

someone mentioned it in the notes but ‘genre’ is gender in french, they are the same latin word. this concept is not just similar or analogous - it is literally the same concept

This is an amazing way to think about it, and it feels exactly how I feel about what use I use in what context about my gender

every time i feed my cat i think of who woulge? “dinner” it is my cat.

oh this post is actually incomprehensible isn’t it

this one this is the Image

I made this image. That’s my cat Lola.

This pic is almost 3 years old. She doesn’t eat Fancy Feast anymore because she has thyroid issues so we give her special dinner.

I was completely lucid when I made this picture. 

please explain the picture

I saw this picture on Twitter years ago & it reminded me of my cat. She used to wear a collar that had a jingly bell on it, Then we took it off, and she got good at sneaking onto tables and eating butter when no one was looking. Also she likes to eat her dinner very fast. 

A lot of people got hung up on the word “woulge” for some reason. People like to obsess over every little thing & assume it has some hidden, deeper meaning, like it’s some kind of puzzle to solve. I made it say “woulge” because I thought it would look funny. 

i think the cat has a funny face

You’re right.

friend!

I fucking hate the hand that feeds me. I think I'll do something fucked up to it

so anyways. i have neopronouns swag now <3

the asl sign for “transgender“ is basically the same as the sign for ”beautiful“ but signed at the chest instead of in front of the face.

so that’s cool.

this is my imperfect not-a-fluent-signer understanding but:

(based on a presentation by a deaf trans guy i was at in 2005 where he was promoting that sign)

it seems like that sign was invented and implemented by trans people over the last 10-ish years. before that the predominant vocabulary was “sex change” and then some deaf trans people were like “yo fuck that” and came up with the current sign, which starts off with the sign for “myself,” then motion that indicates both change and coming together, and ends with the closed hand held against the sternum.

and in the process it also mimics the sign for “beautiful”

and because of spatial grammar, things closer to the front of your body in ASL are generally more vital, more emphatic, more immediate, more present.

so it’s actually a case where the word coherently indicates “beauty” and “self transformation” and contains hints of the complete thought of “my self transforming, through a coming together of disparate factors, into something more real, immediate, and vital than I was before.”

so yeah. that’s just fuckin’ awesome.

and that’s just the way to express that concept now.

Thats really beautiful

trying a new thing here (rbing) this. might be too long when added on to but that's okay

OH ABSOLUTELY. nancy and robin raising their eyebrows at one another from across the table whenever someone says something stupid,, definitely the type to tell one another all about x conversation in the car on the way home.

god yeah !!!! especially with the way they structure the show and all the larger timeskips, it's so easy to assume that the whole gang and their subsections stick together which. they do address more with s4 (lucas joining the basketball team, hellfire induction, max drifting away from the group etc) but realistically speaking, there's no way nancy doesn't take her perceived cue and step back when there's no immediate threat to the kids yknow. ahdslfhd nancy's "isn't it weird we only seem to hang out when the world's ending?" is so funny bc. she's literally talking to the kid known at school for being a complete loner, while she herself is only shown to have one (1) real friend and also her boyfriend. nancy and jonathan would be the people who, for the first year of their friendship, only hang out outside of school when they're bringing their brothers to one another's houses

LMAO EXACTLY. robin will suggest biking somewhere and it starts the whole "i could just drive" cycle. this is the first criticism nancy's heard of her driving skills (mike complains all the time but he doesn't count, and both steve and jonathan are too afraid of her to say anything). car hijinks indeed!! it's okay though bc they start teaching mike how to drive and it goes so terribly that no one can say anything about nancy's skills. robin cracks up for a whole hour after making a joke about the wheelers not being able to drive

oh holy frick your mind... yeah. you put it into words so well. they've got such different internal lives, and on a more innocent level (mike and will), the byers and wheelers can coexist and help each other in other ways. it's more subtle, but things like most of the dnd nights being at mike's, where there's plenty of food and space despite the wheelers having three kids. mike having his room full of toys and figurines and things like a millenium falcon model, whereas will has his more intimate gifts like the crayon set from his mom and jonathan's mixtape. and on the jonathan nancy level, where for nancy, the job was a crucial start to her passion and hopefully career into journalism, but for jonathan, he was letting things slide because he needed the job for the income and as a way to help his family. and even the scenes that they have together!! jonathan and will bonding over songs, even as they're both aware that it's a distraction to keep will from worrying about the shouting. nancy and mike glaring at each other over the kitchen table, but it definitely goes deeper. i think while jonathan's anxieties as an older sibling center around protecting will and providing for the family so his mom doesn't have to do as much, nancy's kinda center around this idea or fear that the wheeler siblings are growing up to be strangers in their own household. there's hardly any scenes with them (nancy mike and jonathan will) but even with those scraps, we can see that they stand in different places. will and jonathan have the jonathan watching will in the rearview mirror, then later confronting and comforting him about being in love with mike. they've always had to look out for one another, and they're not afraid to show their affection to one another. that's where the byers-hopper family has found its strength. on the contrary, the wheeler family is very much shaped around the idea that they're living a good life, with enough money and food to be comfortable, and that should be enough to pick up slack where the actual emotion of love fails to make itself prevalent

(new paragraph because jesus christ that's a lot of words in one block my bad) in that scene where mike is asking nancy to be a stand-in for the hellfire campaign! people have pointed out that background reactions in the newsroom are along the lines of "nancy has a brother?" and nancy obviously turns down the idea of joining for a day. however. if that were will coming to ask jonathan if he'd like to join, despite his lack of experience or specific knowledge, no doubt people would be well aware of jonathan's younger brother will. not that this would ever happen ofc because the news articles and zombie boy and etc etc but, if it did play out like this, no doubt jonathan and will's different relationship would have seeped through jonathan's self-isolation and whatnot. but yeah wHAT YOU SAID !!! s5 WILL have nancy and mike getting closer and it WILL allow nancy to connect with people and everything will be good and happy

so true honestly,, the fruity four has a great dynamic but imagine the scenes between stoncy + ronance. nancy and robin each have a braincell, jonathan and steve kinda pass one back and forth, but when they're all together somehow the braincells evaporate. they're all great in a fight, but anything involving human emotion and non-fight communication is lost

as a fellow nancy brainrot haver i DID go through the five stages of grief. the absolute falling-off-a-cliff of nancy's character development istg. every bit of character development that the fandom had been pouring into the cracks of canon writing just... gone. but after they were confirmed as fake i will say that the jonathan who? line is hilarious. (I KNOW RIGHT. SEVERELY UNCALLED FOR FAKE SCRIPT WRITER)

HI !!!! IT'S SO NICE TO MEET YOU PROPERLY ISH :D and. oh. damn. that's a lot of words woah. maybe the real friendship was the dsm entry we unintentionally produced along the way.