If someone asks you if your “a Gay/Lesbian/etc” in That Tone™, its okay to say no, especially if saying yes is potentially endangering to you and puts you at risk for ridicule and humiliation.

You’re not denying yourself or misrepresenting the community, you’re protecting yourself and that’s your number one priority.

Don’t feel guilty for keeping yourself safe.

just think about how grateful your future self will be if you keep going. how glad you will be for having worked so hard. it will all be worth it.

types of valid bisexuals

People will judge you regardless of what you do. You might as well be judged doing something you care about. 

pro tip: if u feel like u have to be a watered down or ‘less intense’ version of urself when interacting w/ someone - they do not deserve u.

self care for when you hit rock bottom

i fucking hate self care posts made by neurotypicals so here’s one from someone who Actually Gets It

-can’t shower or take a bath? me either. dry shampoo can make your hair look and feel cleaner, and baby wipes or makeup wipes work great to get the top layer of grime off your skin.

-can’t wash your sheets and make your bed? i feel you. push your blankets out of the way and shake the crumbs off your sheet. it will at least be a bit more comfortable.

-can’t even change out of your dirty pajamas? been there. hit yourself with some febreeze and a lint roller. if you can, brush your hair. if you can’t, hair ties and bobby pins are fantastic.

-can’t make anything to eat? same. if you can, there’s no shame in ordering food. in fact, it’s probably better you eat something rather than go hungry. if you can’t, try and find something that comes pre-made or takes minimal effort to make. at the very least, drink some water.

can’t respond to messages or reach out for help? yeah, i get that. set an alarm for a few hours from now and respond to any messages you need to once you’ve given yourself time to prepare. if they’re Important Messages that need Professional Responses, you can find fill-in-the-blank format rough drafts on google. as far as personal messages go, don’t feel bad for sending a mass “I’m sorry, I’m in a personal emergency right now. I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.” response to everyone.

-can’t even sleep because it’s so bad? asmr videos always knock me out, personally, but i also watch a lot of bob ross. just try to find something quiet and soothing to use as background noise and take your mind off it, or at least give you a more peaceful environment to think about it.

-can’t go for a walk/drive? try opening the blinds or curtains. you’re still exposing yourself to the outside world. baby steps. (i also play animal crossing or sims; it may be virtual but fuck it. i went on a walk.)

-can’t go into work/school? let people know. let your coworkers or classmates know it’s an emergency and you can’t make it. give yourself up to two days, but then you have to go back. ask to have your work emailed to you so you know what you missed.

-can’t brush your teeth and wash your face? makeup or baby wipes and gum or mouthwash. don’t let yourself physically rot bc you’re rotting emotionally.

-remember that you’ve been here before. if you survived then you can survive now. that’s what this is about- survival. you don’t have to be living your Best Life. right now, it’s more than enough that you’re alive.

This is the only self car masterpost I’ve ever seen that is feasible for severe depressive episodes

And here I want to say it’s totally ok if you can’t do my quests. Sometimes you don’t even have power to get up. So here is a list for when its really hard! Laying around and do nothing is okay too.

things to normalise

- gay parents - female masturbation - guys showing emotion - they/them pronouns

- empowered women - questioning sexuality and/or gender - masculine girls - feminine boys