when yr paranoia is rlly vague so its just like

honestly i dont know what ace/aro exclusionists think we get up to reveling in our privilege when every ace/aro affirmation post is like “remember despite what ur taught every day ur still a human being :)”

they think because we don’t have statistics of abuse that somehow makes it untrue, that our experiences can be discounted, when we have so very little to work with we barely even have the resources to make changes or even get truly, pointedly angry and instead just try and muddle through combating the dehumanization we go through every day, the thrumming hatred that i can feel all around me all the time, just like, i don’t know, the entire rest of the lgbt+ community but without any sense of the community that’s been scattered by the “ace discourse” to the point that even when we try to “just make our own groups” as we’ve been told to over and over again we can barely begin to build ourselves up before someone tells us that some other aspect of our very identities is problematic, that we truly can’t even exist

if you’re a man, i’m not interested in hearing your critiques on how superficial and obsessed women are with beauty. discuss instead how patriarchy created a society that resulted in women placing their entire self-worth on their appearances and how you, as a man, can change a culture that produces that. 

MY ULTIMATE CREATION

getting spoken to as if i’m straight by straight people who assume everyone is straight, subsequently feeling like the world’s most useless and irritated secret agent

Gay ppl who are biphobic make literally no sense and yet here they are

white boys literally only see themselves as human bc every time they say shit like “oh whats next, a fat black bisexual amputee??” in response to the idea of diversity in media its obvious that each word they add to this description to make it more ridiculous sounding is meant to be another degree further from Real people, as if there werent more people than you could imagine that fit that description 

Is there anything more excruciating than not knowing if someone is “feel bad, need space”, “feel bad, need u to reach out” or “literally fine, just busy, stop pestering me”

being chummy with terfs is as bad as being a terf

making fun of people who worry about people being terfs is shitty. ‘op is a terf’ is a warning, not a funny meme

White pride has absolutely nothing to offer anyone.

White pride is one of the most embarrassing, unattractive and overall pathetic qualities a person can have.

Hypothetically- to suspend disbelief for a moment,if white pride could be divorced from being literally a white supremacist slogan, and somehow stripped of its racist overtones (which it cant) ‘white’ can’t in any way refer to any specific European cultures.

Scandinavian pride is great, German pride is cool too- both of these cultures have tons to offer, but only in terms of the ways they exist as independent from whiteness. These kinds of prides exist within whiteness but can not comprise it- they’re very separate things that don’t acutally overlap onto any simultaneous notion of white pride- same goes for any other region associated with white people.

‘White’ refers to a position of power in the world- an archetype that contains literally nothing but the worst the world has to offer. White means a race of conquerors, colonizers and their children- nothing else.

^^^ totally agree. Speaking as a White person, Whiteness is meaningless divorced of its violent aspects. Whiteness was invented to pit ourselves against non-White peoples. We can tell Whiteness is made up because the goalposts have shifted dramatically as White societies were forcibly created outside of Europe - which is why Irish and Jewish people are considered White in America but often not in Europe. 

White pride is specifically about pride in a violent, supremacist cultural order. Taking pride in Whiteness means taking pride in colonialism, racism, misogyny, mysogynoir, and a thousand and one ugly and violent things. I take pride in my family and our history and traditions, but I am not proud of the things done in the name of Whiteness.

You’re pretty on-point here, but there’s one correction I have to make: Jewish people are, at best, conditionally white in America. That is, they can get the privileges and benefits iff they keep their heads down and hide their heritage. The people who patrol the borders of whiteness - white supremacists - have made it extremely fucking clear what their position is on Jewish people.

okay can we just one last thing

spreading the idea that one is only triggered when having a full blown, system-shut-down panic attack is damaging and delegitimizing to people who have physiologically and emotionally different reactions to triggers.

like slow burning, long lasting unease and fear.

that’s a trigger reaction too.

please stop.

Some other trigger reactions (not an exhaustive list at all, some I’ve experienced, some I’ve known people who’ve experienced):

And that’s just off the top of my head.  There’s lots more triggers.  And a trigger can set off a short-term reaction, or a long-term reaction.  The long-term reactions can last for far longer than you’d imagine.  And if a person has the wrong physical illness, a sufficiently strong trigger can even be dangerous to their life — even if it’s not in the form of a total emotional breakdown.

So triggers don’t just come in one form, and they don’t just have one set of effects on the person, or one obvious severity.

this post is incredibly validating thank you

It literally is. Right down to “If you’re using that as an insult, it says more about you than me.”

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