Could you please explain the "help me" in the bottom of the groom's shoes and how it's a joke/poking fun at/is an example of toxic heteronomativity?
So I dunno if y’all have seen this, but I’ve worked a lot of weddings in my life and there’s this super funny (/sarcasm/) thing where the groom will write “help me” on the soles of his shoes, so that when the couple kneel down at the altar, everyone will see it and laugh at the fact that this poor man has been trapped into the sanctity of marriage.
Sort of like those cake toppers where the groom is attempting to run away or is being forcibly dragged to the altar with words like game over on it cause he no longer gets to have fun with his life or something because he’s getting married:
Or quite literally, a ball and chain:
Basically the whole “help me” thing? Is a continuation of the idea that there are definite gender norms, and that those genders are in direct conflict with each other, and therefore predispositioned to eventual resentment and hatred.
It’s the snarky sitcom hetero snide comedy where the wife is always nagging the husband who is the put upon joe average who had life and dreams until he got married and had kids, who now wants to just be left alone to read the paper while his wife looks after his home, his kids, his general emotional well being, and is still cast as the shrew for wanting something more from him than his dispassionate resentment that she won’t coddle him like one of the offspring.
Cause haha, it’s so awful spending the rest of your life with the person you are profess to love and adore…imagine that…imagine losing your freedom, your individuality and quite possibly your own autonomy to another person through a societal convention… *everyone not born male and white looks into the camera like they’re on the office*
Also consider, if a woman knelt down at the altar and had “help me” on her shoes? How drastically unfunny that becomes because we know, we know the way marriage is set up to give one partner the advantage over the other…
It’s just icky. It’s an icky not funny joke which I wish would die out.
Im glad someone said this. I want my fiance to be jumping for joy to marry me, if he isnt he shouldn't have asked in the first place.
A bucks party isnt a last night of 'freedom' its a celebration with your mates that you have found the person with whom you want to spend your life with.
If you are loosing freedom by getting married, your views on marriage are wrong or you are marrying the wrong person. Marrage is partnership of equals, not dominance of one person over another.
Male or female, one should never be dragged kicking and screaming into what is meant to be a union of two people in love.
Faking It Drabbles Master List
Here is a list of all the Drabbles from Dean’s POV. I will add more and reblog as I write them!
Oh and these too
Faking It Master List
I will add and reblog as I write more parts! (header by @leatherwhiskeycoffeeplaid )
Faking It, Just Breathe, Sex Hair and Blindfolds, Cold as Ice, Rough Around the Edges, Sticky Sweet, Slow Burn, Adult Film 101, Date Night, Hell on Heels, The More, The Merrier, Even More, Even Merrier, Hunter’s Aftercare, Under Arrest, Flexibility, Melting, Anger Management, Tight Spot, Under Control, Still Under Control, Not Faking Anything, Elbow Grease, Soaking Wet, Art Lessons, You’re Mine, Bare, Silent, Say It, I Trust You, Yes, and A Night on the Town, Stranger, The Challenge, Keep Count, and Spero Te.
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Season 10 - Gag Reel
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And the Winchester Twitter/Instagram saga continues. This just makes me so happy.
Just feels like yesterday. We were together in heaven and now I am here and John is gone and they are gone. Every moment I spend with you, reminds me every moment I lost with them.
I get it, I do. But leaving is sooo not the answer. Poor boys :(
That is gonna guarantee that we will all have stayed single.
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Ruth and Alaina pranking Mark and his reaction to it:
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