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Dana the Ragnarok

@theragnarokd / theragnarokd.tumblr.com

they/them pronouns. an adult. ao3: http://archiveofourown.org/users/the_ragnarok ko-fi: https://ko-fi.com/theragnarokd
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Pinned post for posterity:

  • I’m Dana, or Ragnarok, or Rag.
  • I use they/them pronouns
  • I am a proud freak & degenerate
  • I’m older than 25, in case that matters to you
  • Don’t follow me if you’re a minor, I will block you.
  • I am not great at nor consistent at tagging. i will try to tag for whatever you ask but odds are i’ll forget. it’s not because i don’t care, literally just brain bullshit.
  • This blog contains random nsfw text, tho nsfw images will probably be tagged. probably.
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handotcom

oh my favorite trope? two people who go through something so unique and agonizing and entirely beyond words that they have no choice but to create a bond that transcends all other types of love, thus acting as the sole point of understanding for the other person in a world that cannot fathom what they’ve been through

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tlirsgender

People trying to pathologize like eating sweets and jerking off is wild. "I stopped doing this thing that feels good and I want more now ?? So this is an addiction and I have to keep avoiding it until the craving goes away" no you just want to enjoy things because you're a human being. Chocolate and porn and whatever aren't, like. Meth. It won't kill you to feel good. You don't have to be a medieval monk

Like yes it's possible to have an unhealthy relationship with whatever gives you the easiest dopamine hit but the thing is that that's more symptomatic of, like. Being depressed. Than pleasure itself being evil and bad for you

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lierdumoa

If you feel like you're overindulging in 1 thing, the solution is to fill your life with a variety of indulgences, not live in deprivation.

If you feel like you're overindulging in 1 thing, the solution is to fill your life with a variety of indulgences, not live in deprivation.

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Hi I'm Lauren I'm new to this app, I'm just trying to make some friends. Can i be your friend?

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so as a semi-popular blog i tend to get a lot of scam asks, but this is actually a type of scam i've never encountered on tumblr before, so i'm going to make kind of an in-depth post/psa instead of just the usual short "this is a scam" response i usually give.

usually, tumblr scammers tend to follow a few easy signs:

  • blog less than a week old because they use them for like a week before discarding/being banned and then remaking
  • fundraiser post for cause that's meant to tug at the heartstrings (cute pet that needs medical treatment, capitalizing on current crises like the genocide in gaza, single mother trying to provide for kids, queer teen who got kicked out, etc)
  • pictures are stolen off facebook or gofundme, oftentimes from an actual, legitimate fundraiser (this is so scummy)
  • paypal country code does not match with the country they state they're in
  • spams asks to random blogs telling their backstory and asking for donations or reblogs of their donation post, often with a request to answer privately (so the spamming doesn't show up if you search their url)

those are donation scams, and i get them in my inbox about once every week or two. they're the most common type of scam on tumblr.

THIS asker didn't mention any kind of money, or donations, or backstory. just "can i be your friend". they have no fundraiser post or in fact any original posts at all, and their blog is almost a year old with consistent activity. seems kind of normal at first glance, if a little awkward, but this is actually the beginning to what's referred to as a "pig butchering scam".

pig butchering scams can be either romance-based or friendship-based. they involve an innocuous-seeming interaction developing into a relationship, and once the scammer thinks they have your trust, they start asking for money, using that built trust as the basis. you would lend a friend some money in an emergency if they promise to pay it back quickly if you could, right?

pig butchers are definitely harder to spot than donation scammers, but there are some clear signs if you look closely enough.

the out-of-nowhere nature of the ask was what got me initially suspicious, so i searched her url. this is what that search looks like.

clearly not a user trying to actually make friends, and instead a spammer. a couple people there have already pointed out this is a pig butchering scam.

a few weeks ago, she was even bolder and doing a more donation-scam approach:

(hint: she is not going to give it back to you)

@kyra45 even posted about this as far back as september, and apparently the scammer was a blank blog back then:

if a tumblr search yields little results, you can also google someone's url. a google search led to this post with a user who got into the actual pig butchering part of the scam, developing a relationship before trying for money.

another, far less obvious tell is that she's following loads of bots, mixed in with normal users she's following. while i'm unsure if this user is a bot herself (i'm leaning toward a mixed use of a bot to send asks and personal replies once she gets a bite), normal users don't just... follow random bot/SEO accounts.

she also has a second, identical account at @pleasantdesttinykkryptonite, the same url with an extra k. possibly a backup in case she gets banned.

john oliver actually did a whole episode on pig butchering scams (already posted by someone in the url search) if you'd like to learn more.

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tlbodine

For the last goddamn time...

"Kill your darlings" means "if something is holding you back, get rid of it, even if it sounds pretty."

That's it! That's all it means! It means if you're stuck and stalled out on your story and you could fix the whole block by removing something but you're avoiding removing that thing because it's good, you remove that thing. That's the darling.

It does NOT mean

  • That you have to get rid of your self-indulgent writing
  • That you should delete something just because you like it (?wtf?)
  • That you need to kill off characters (??? what)
  • That you have to pare your story down to the absolute bare bones
  • That you have to delete anything whatsoever if you don't want to

The POINT is that you STOP FEELING GUILTY for throwing out good writing that isn't SERVING THE STORY.

The POINT is that you don't get so HUNG UP on the details that you lose sight of the BIG PICTURE.

Good grief....

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hadeantaiga

Also, you don't have to like, delete it from existence. Keep a second document full of the Darlings. You never know when you'll need it later.

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ernmark

In writing, epithets ("the taller man"/"the blonde"/etc) are inherently dehumanizing, in that they remove a character's name and identity, and instead focus on this other quality.

Which can be an extremely effective device within narration!

  • They can work very well for characters whose names the narrator doesn't know yet (especially to differentiate between two or more). How specific the epithet is can signal to the reader how important the character is going to be later on, and whether they should dedicate bandwidth to remembering them for later ("the bearded man" is much less likely to show up again than "the man with the angel tattoo")
  • They can indicate when characters stop being as an individual and instead embody their Role, like a detective choosing to think of their lover simply as The Thief when arresting them, or a royal character being referred to as The Queen when she's acting on behalf of the state
  • They can reveal the narrator's biases by repeatedly drawing attention to a particular quality that singles them out in the narrator's mind

But these only work if the epithet used is how the narrator primarily identifies that character. Which is why it's so jarring to see a lot of common epithets in intimate moments-- because it conveys that the main character is primarily thinking of their lover/best friend/etc in terms of their height or age or hair color.

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Chapters: 1/1 Fandom: Homestuck Rating: Mature Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Relationships: Jane Crocker/Dirk Strider Characters: Jane Crocker, Dirk Strider Additional Tags: Non-Sexual Submission, D/s, Foot fetish but not really, Service Submission, Bad BDSM Etiquette, Under-negotiated Kink Summary:

Jane makes some interesting observations, and Dirk keeps bringing her stuff.

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Bear in mind that this is a technique that anyone can use on anyone about anything.

For example, you probably want to be suspicious when megacorporations start rebranding themselves as "diverse" and "sustainable".

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deadmeat

if I was a head receiver ie a person who fucks mouths despite that not being their intended purpose I’d feel so bad for ruining ppl’s hair I’d especially feel bad for grabbing a girl’s curly hair and getting it all knotted and such. I think I’d try to make it up to her by buying her a wonderful breakfast and giving her whatever else she wants also. coz like it must b rlly hard to b a girl with curly hair who gives a lot of head right. it must b difficult

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uncle-fruity

Taking T didn't ruin my singing voice, and frankly I'm sick of folks panicking and ignoring the fact that cis boys go through two or three years where their voices are fluctuating and cracking and changing before they settle.

Your voice isn't ruined, it's changing.

If you want to make that transition easier, you gotta keep using it. Sing! Even if your voice cracks in goofy ways. Even if you have trouble placing your voice comfortably. It gets easier, I promise. Get a voice teacher (if you can) who has experience with vocal changes for pubescent cis boys if it's really making you anxious or if you're having a hard time controlling it.

To be clear, I'm not trying to be dismissive of people's emotions, nor am I trying to tell you about your own experience. If you feel something intensely, that's fair and valid. Respectfully, you should unpack that with a therapist or supportive peers.

However, when one of the main TERF tactics against transmascs is convincing trans guys that T makes you Worse in a Variety of Ways, and that you'll be ruining your body if you take it, I am EXTREMELY dubious of how many people online report any part of their body being ruined by T. Sounds suspiciously like TERF shit. And, yes, even Actual Trans People can play into TERF talking points. I'm begging y'all to stop the rampant fearmongering surrounding T.

So, after nearly a year being on T, I'm here to say that YES my voice cracks and YES my voice fluctuates and YES sometimes it feels like I have to relearn everything I knew about being a vocalist, but goddamn if I won't have fun figuring it all out, because I know this is just one stage of the transition I'm going through, and it's worth it.

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