my problem with a lot of body positivity / progressive beauty culture stuff is that it focuses on expanding the definition of beautiful rather than deconstructing the idea that physical beauty indicates worth. my difficulties with living in a body (and therefore with living, period) often come back to the fact that no matter how tightly i control my body, i am viewed as either object of disgust or object of desire (occasionally both simultaneously). i can never be neutral. i can never be subject. my difficulty with existing would not be assuaged, at least not for long, by winning the game of “beautiful.” winning is not the same as having agency or personhood. we don’t need to change the rules of the game. we need to stop playing.

I was in line at Aldi and this girl with two toddlers in front of me had her card declined and she looked so fucking sad and said “let me call my husband real quick” and it was only 18 dollars, so I just paid for it, and she was very sweet and then as she walked off, the lady behind me said `”You know that was probably a scam, right?” and like, even if it was, like what a sad fucking scam, right? 18 dollars at the Aldi. If you’re “scamming” me for some Tyson chicken and apple juice and cauliflower, then just take my fucking money. 

“A scam” people are fucking wild.  

Y'all this old lady on Facebook got angry at me so she threatened to call my job and report my “rude” behavior to my boss. So she got my information from my page

SHE GONNA TRY TO CALL MR.KRABS ON ME YALL

SHE GONNA TRY TO CONTACT BIKINI BOTTOM

If I give you an apple and an orange and I tell you to choose, how many choices do you really have?

Two? Nope. You have FIVE, minimum.

  • You take the apple
  • You take the orange
  • You take both
  • You take nothing
  • You take something else

And this works EVERYWHERE. 

“Are you with us or with them?”

  • I’m with you!
  • I’m with them!
  • You both have good points!
  • You’re all insane!
  • I’m going with that other group over there!

“You need to vote Democrat or Republican!”

  • Democrat!
  • Republican!
  • I switch depending on the leader and the issues!
  • I don’t vote! 
  • I vote for a third-party!

“Are you Christian or Muslim??”  

  • I’m Christian
  • I’m Muslim
  • I think God is one and the same and follow good doctrines of both
  • I’m atheist
  • I’m Jewish

And it’s often more subtle

Like a salesperson handing you two products and pressuring you to buy one of them, making you forget that 

  • You don’t have to buy anything if you don’t want to
  • You can leave the store and buy something elsewhere

And sometimes it can be as important as

“Are you gay or are you straight?”

  • I’m gay
  • I’m straight
  • I’m both? So Bi?
  • I like no one, I’m ace. 
  • I’m anything else, really, this is a spectrum and I define my own orientation.

So remember- If someone if pressuring you to pick between two choices, they’re probably trying to manipulate you by making you forget you also have another three options.

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h holy shit

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