This week I got a sinus infection that blocked up both my ears and made me effectively deaf so I ended up having to go to hospital to get them surgically cleaned, and now my hearing is so crystal clear I basically have sonar/can see through time. How are you? Xx https://www.instagram.com/p/Ci7k-VjoziE/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
It’s that time!!!!
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in light of the current "THINK OF THE CHILDREN" moral panic re unsuitable literature, i'd like to share an anecdote.
my thirteen-year-old cousin came to visit a few months back. he saw my copy of american psycho and asked if he could borrow it, because his friend had seen the movie and said it was really good. i said okay, sure, but just so you know, it's a lot more graphic than the movie and there's some stuff in there that you might find really upsetting. he asked what kind of stuff. i gave him a bare-bones outline of the contents (gore, sexual violence, cannibalism, etc). he said he would think about it.
a few days later, he came back to me and said, "it doesn't sound like my kind of thing. i think i might wait until i'm a bit older to read it." alright, i said, good call, and that was the end of it. i am 99% sure that if i'd just said "no, you can't have it, you're not old enough," he would have felt patronised and found a way to read it anyway, just to prove a point.
you can draw whatever conclusions you want from that, but i feel it's a pretty good indicator that giving kids the information they need to curate their own experience is way more effective than telling them what they are and aren't allowed to read. that's just my two cents, though.
Honestly, I think this is the way to go. Being honest about what you're doing and why. I'm not against telling a kid no, but I always try to tell them why and be specific. In my context it's usually an, "I can't/wouldn't show that here at school/talk to you about that because of x." For example, recently they came in talking about the Dahmer show which I think is wildly inappropriate to show a middle schooler. They asked me if I'd seen it, and I was honest. No, I haven't, I know enough about his story already to know that watching something like that would be really upsetting to me.
this felt like some kind of modern poem. so,
Série “Vidas Difíceis”, Algarve, décadas de 40/60.
Quin Wu, House No. 13, American fastfood meets Soviet Union brutalism
a collection of moons, seen at the high museum of art.
Abandoned dam tunnel in the woods outside Pittsfield, Massachusetts, u/JamesTheConqueror, 2020
“Fantasies of murder: not enough: to kill is to cut off from pain but the killer goes on hurting not enough. When I dream of meeting the enemy, this is my dream: white acetylene ripples from my body effortlessly released perfectly trained on the true enemy raking his body down to the thread of existence”
— Adrienne Rich, The Phenomenology of Anger