You literally have to understand that ur closest friends and loved ones may very well have kinks or fetishes that gross or freak you out and they simply won’t tell you because they know it grosses or freaks you out. Like you have no way of knowing if your best friend is into necro roleplay if she doesn’t wanna tell you. Sometimes you date someone for years before finding out they have a thing for incest. Maybe your coworker likes ageplay and diapers. Who gives a fuck. Nothing changes between you knowing and not knowing except your own constructed moral outrage.
WRONG!
1. Get comfy doing illegal shit. Laws are made up to enforce whatever the people on top want to enforce, anal and oral sex are technically a crime in several states currently if I recall correctly
2. It’s also illegal in many places to do any kind of play that causes pain to a partner, especially that leaves marks, including bruises.
3. Making judgements about people’s morality and personhood based on whether or not they fall into the class of “criminal” is bad. Stop
I understand that “kink and not a crime” is meant to refer to genuine acts of sexual abuse and rape, but you can just say that. Also we don’t need to bring that up every single time we talk about kink. It just strengthens the connotation between kink and abuse. If we’re talking about kinks and fetishes, we are automatically talking about roleplay and other kinds of consensual play between risk-aware adults 👍🏼
"do you want to go out to dinner?"
"as long as we're eating food and not nuclear waste."
"You don't have to say that every time."
