with the rise of social media, young artists think its necessary to have polished, professional looking art accounts with a singular style rather than explore different mediums and painting styles. its become more about curating a cyber account than actually broadening your horizon which leads to young artists burning out from follower counts and online persona image making before they’ve even found the element of joy in art.
sorta related but i dont like that tumblr has made “unhealthy relationship” mean “one person is an abuser and the other is a victim”
unhealthy relationship means just that. a relationship that is unhealthy. whether because a party is uninterested, both parties bring out the worst in eachother, theres just no more spark, etc
just stop using “unhealthy relationship” as if its perfectly synonymous with “abusive relationship”
abusive relationships are DEFINITELY unhealthy relationships but not all unhealthy relationships are abusive, ya dig?
Important post.
Not everyone you don’t get along with is an abuser.
i really want to normalise the idea amongst lgbt youth that its okay to switch labels as you further understand your identity. you’re not a traitor or a fake if you realise you’re bi instead of a lesbian, or if you’re a trans woman instead of a gay man. it’s really difficult and scary to be lgbt and it’s doubly hard to deal with a shifting identity amongst all that so… be kind to yourself. you’re learning and figuring yourself out and nothing is set in stone. let yourself figure out what feels most comfortable to you. and for those who are secure in their lgbt identities, particularly adults, don’t make kids feel bad for switching between labels. we’ve all had identity crises in our lives, so provide support and understanding rather than unforgiving attitudes.
this post is not an excuse to jump on the “of course you can’t label yourself at a young age” bandwagon either. young people who stick with and feel comfortable in an identity from an early age are just as valid as you are.
Additionally, on the other side of this - if you know someone who switches labels, it’s also your job to not make them feel like a traitor or a fake. If you’re their friend or you say you support them, then be their friend and support them. If you don’t understand how they could say they were one thing however long ago and now it’s something different, this is your chance to learn, not reject.
And if they later choose to go back to their original label, then they still weren’t faking it. Those were the feelings they had at the time.
im obsessed w physical closeness, romantically….not even sexually just if u date me it’s all hugging all the time we are gonna lay in bed and im gonna cuddle w u, we will stand in the kitchen and i will stand hip to hip w u, u will sit on the couch and i will stroke your hair and kiss your forehead….it’s so intoxicating as a concept
Don’t ask me why I needed to draw Tres Horny boys as Selkies. This is just where we are now.
Plus: A Griffin-fish
I’ve been watching too many Auntie Fee videos lately
Some of your problems will inevitably stem from your refusal to view other human beings with the same complexity and nuance you see in yourself
More of your problems will come from failing to understand how others’ complexity is different than your own
hard pill to swallow: we are all capable of becoming toxic. sometimes we are the toxic person in a relationship. we get too caught up with the influx of emotions and the overwhelming pressure without knowing that slowly, we are becoming toxic, too.
lucy liu deserves the lesbian cult following that cate blanchett has and you can’t change my mind
its time to stop sleeping on wingfics and hcs 2k18!!!
does a line of i love moira powder off the table. finally doin some art again bitches
shoutout to everyone making progress that no one recognized because you never let anyone see your darkest moments. i see you and i am so, so proud of every little step you’re making in the right direction.
