This week, I’ve been thinking a lot about Gwyn Berdara and what she means to me, particularly as a fellow survivor of sexual assault, and what I hope her journey includes in future ACOTAR books.
First of all, I love how throughout ACOSF, Gwyn is far more than her trauma. She’s competitive and nerdy and irreverent and brave and she has a beautiful smile. She’s a great friend and she loves pegasi and romance novels and making friendship bracelets. She’s protective of her community – both the priestesses and Nesta and Emerie – and she demands to move forward on her own terms. Gwyn is a nuanced, vibrant character who is far more than the worst night of her life. I love that SJM took the time to show us all these facets of Gwyn, and to show us the start of her healing journey.
For instance, I love seeing the way that Gwyn begins to embrace herself as a person with a body in ACOSF. I saw myself in her when she asked Nesta, “why would a priestess need muscular thighs?” (257)
For so long, it was easier to be a mind detached from my body, or to believe that my mind was good in a way that my body might never be. My body had been touched – such a little thing, in some ways, to have changed me so completely, though I’m thankful every day that it was nothing near as awful as what happens to Gwyn in Sangravah – and I had found myself shattering.
When I started to train my body simply to become stronger, the way Gwyn does, something slotted into place for me. My anxiety retreated. I saw muscles growing on my arms and legs, visible under my skin as I moved, and I felt capable. I also learned to have compassion for this body. Even stronger, it sometimes hurt. It needed breaks. And I learned to take a new pride in my body. If I wanted to wear something tight or low-cut or short, it was now an act of reclamation and delight. Look at my body, I was saying, look how strong and beautiful I am! Check out these muscular thighs!
Though I know pride and strength do not prevent assault – a survivor is never the villain in the story – claiming my body in this way helped beat back the hurt and lingering shame. While we get to see this to a certain extent, as Gwyn helps resurrect the Valkyries, trains and even wears the form-fitting Illyrian leathers, I hope to see this reclamation from Gwyn’s perspective. I want to see her delight in wearing a revealing dress or lingerie or even nothing at all because of how proud and delighted she is by her body.
Although I did a lot of my own healing work, my husband was instrumental in helping me move forward. I remember one day he told me, your soul is clean, and I cried, because those were the words I needed to hear so badly. I realized that in some deep part of me, I didn’t think those words were true, not anymore. There have been many other conversations and assurances and times when he’s just held me, but I will never forget that moment.
And that’s part of why I hope that Gwyn will find a romantic partner who supports her as she heals. Not because she “needs” it. Gwyn is totally capable of healing on her own, with Nesta and Emerie and her community in the library. But I hope that, whether it’s Azriel or Tarquin or Emerie or Fenrys (listen, the multiverse is real), she will also have a partner who will hold her gently in their arms and tell her the words she thought might never be spoken over her. That those words would lay the ghosts of her attack and her guilt and all her pain to rest. At least for a little while.
If she chooses it, I want her to be able to take control of her romantic and sexual experience. I want to see Gwyn heal on her own terms, confident and knowing she can make her own place in the world. And I’ll fully admit that a part of me wants this outcome for her because of what she represents to me, and maybe to fellow survivors as well. Gwyn deserves the happiest resolution to her story, and so do we.