idk what trans man or trans masc needs to hear this but if ur experiences with gender or gender identity make another trans man or trans person in general uncomfortable, that is entirely not your problem.
if you’re 50 years old and have lived the majority of your life as a woman and feel comfortable calling your younger self a girl and a woman and saying you used to be a woman, and some 20 yr old trans guy says that makes him feel dysphoric bc his experience is that he’s always been a man, that’s not your problem.
if you’re medically transitioning and want to look a certain way in order to pass for safety or comfort and someone says that makes them uncomfortable because you’re “inferring men have to look a certain way to be men”, that’s not your problem.
if you can’t or don’t want to medically transition and someone says that your body gives them “secondhand dysphoria”, that’s not your problem.
if the way you experience sexuality or queerness doesn’t make sense to someone and they think your identity is a reflection of their identity, that’s not your problem.
someone else’s unresolved issues are not your problem, and if they try to make them your problem, laugh at them and then block them/walk away.
