Fuck Your Inabilities & Get Your Perspective Right

Vulture showed Rachel Weisz that Reductress piece

Feel free to reblog from the source and ignore this addition but I just wanted to add to this for people who truly do not get it:

Society tries to trick fat people into thinking their lives will get better when they’re skinny because “you’ll feel better skinny because your body is healthier” and shit like “you’ll act more confident and people respond better to confidence.”

This is to absolve themselves, on a personal level, of fatphobia. It is to say FAT PEOPLE make their own lives harder and skinny, midsize, even other fat people do not make it worse. The fatphobia is made up, not real. Not systemic. Not a constant in interpersonal relationships.

This is a lie.

I lost about ~40% of my body weight. Some of the kindest, least judgmental, socially aware, anti-discrimination people almost immediately started treating me better. I could even just MENTION that I was trying to lose weight, that I had only lost 1 pound, 5 pounds, 10 pounds (while still being “obese” by arbitrary medical standards) and people would treat me better.

Again, these are people who never, ever used fatphobic language. Who never shamed me out loud for being 214 pounds. Who I thought loved me to the best of their ability.

And it made me realize… everyone is fatphobic until they actively unlearn fatphobia.

If you think you aren’t fatphobic, I assure you, you are. And I think you need to mentally check yourself when you are interacting with fat people.

Are you withholding affection? Are you avoiding touching them when you’d touch someone else? Do you immediately try to avoid certain activities with them? Are you PUSHING activities onto them that you think will make them less fat? Do you avoid clothes shopping with them and going to stores with clothes for fat people? Do you avoid gifting them clothes because you don’t want to ever talk about sizes with them?

What do you avoid talking about with fat friends?

Do you complain about your own weight, “feeling fat?”

Do you push YOUR insecurities onto your fat friends?

Do you avoid being seen with them?

What are you excluding fat people in your life from?

Do you have internalized biases? Do you quietly think to yourself that they’re eating too much, that they’re lazy or selfish? Do you assume they’re unhealthy? Do you blame them for what they’re going through?

Do you make it clear you’re willing to listen when they want to talk about this?

What do you do to make sure the fat people in your life know you love them AS IS?

#i don’t think ppl realize just how oppressive fatphobia is#and leftist spaces haven’t quite caught onto it yet outside of explicitly fat liberationist spaces#so literal left wing communist social justice people will be horrifically fatphobic all while denying systemic fatphobia#meanwhile there are SIGNIFICANT hurdles in employment and pay and medical care for fat people#we are less likely to be employed#less likely to be in positions of authority#make less than our thin peers#and are literally more likely to die bc a doctor just didn’t feel like treating us#so many fat ppl have died from completely treatable illnesses bc a doctor decided they were just fat and didn’t need tests or treatment#i will never forget the story of a fat woman who went to the doctor for shortness of breath for like 5 years until they FINALLY did tests#and found out she had stage 4 lung cancer#or the story of another fat person who’d been seeking treatment for difficulty walking#only to be ignored for a decade#and it turned out it was a massive spinal tumor that eventually paralyzed them#like#fuck y’all just truly do not realize how severe fatphobia is#especially when you’re not cishet and white

shoutout to the lord of the rings lighting directors. bold move to let the audience see what's going on in nighttime scenes. i miss that.

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I joined a 'Hand made instruments' group, and I get to see shit like this constantly, and I just.....HNNNNNNNNNNNG every time.

OP what’s the group

Boop: https://www.facebook.com/groups/homemadeinstruments

I think disabled people deserve high income for free forever with no strings attached and I’m not kidding

disabled people deserve basics. but we also deserve to go on vacation. we deserve splurging on a $50 video game every once in a while. we deserve nice meals and nice clothes and nice things. we deserve a nice candle. and fancy soap.

disabled ppl deserve to be comforted by human impulses like the rest of y’all

lol remember when people were getting pissy about my idea of ‘nice things’ and ‘disposable income’ because it was just describing their everyday life and that’s not glamorous

meanwhile I wrote this post living on my best friends couch living out of a suitcase lol

Got needlefelting supplies for Christmas

Annoying that dairy products are demonized as Unnatural and Disgusting when it's actually kinda neat that humans figured out a way to fulfill omnivorous nutritional requirements without killing any animals (and populations historically dependent on dairy even evolved lactase persistence!). This is biopunk to me

I've seen weird memes and stuff like "Milk is BODILY FLUID that came from a COW" and the fact that people exist that would find this distressing concerns me.

Y'all are not going to like learning what fruits are...

A fruit is an OVARY that because SWOLLEN AND ENLARGED after PLANT GENITALS were rubbed in PLANT SPERM by a BUG

you people will just. say anything

#Tbf tho the bechdel test is pretty shitty #Like dgmw this is a stupid take but it’s a lame test anyway

okay but do you understand that liz wallace made the bechdel-WALLACE test because she was a dyke who wanted to go to movies and pretend the characters were dykes and her friend alison bechdel happened to put her silly little litmus assessment into a comic strip and then the rest of everyone else decided it was a bona fide way of means testing media for Feminist Content? do you know that? it doesn’t sound like you know that

Also like…

Nobody is saying women in movies can’t talk about men in a romantic context. What is being said is that women in movies often talk about nothing other than men in a romantic context.

Do you want to know how low the bar is? Do you want to know?

Iron Man 3 passes the Bechdel test. Pepper and Maya have a brief talk about Maya’s work.

THAT’S IT. THAT’S HOW LOW THE BAR IS. Two named female characters have a conversation about something that isn’t a heterosexual romance. Fucking IRON MAN managed to pass.

Now, here’s the issue. Do you know why this (informal, often misapplied) test is a thing?

Over three-quarters of movies cannot pass it.

At least 75% of the time, a woman’s driving force in a movie is entirely and only romance. Either that, or she is isolated from other female characters to the point that she may have very interesting motivations….but no other women to talk to about them.

That’s a problem.

Of course it’s a bad test. It’s SUPPOSED to be a bad test. It’s supposed to be a bar so low anyone can get over it. The fact that it’s still relevant is a huge fucking problem.

alison bechdel releasing that dykes to watch out for strip in 1985:

Babygirl I know fandom history that you wouldn’t even care about

i know fandom history that even I don’t care about

well, i know about lump fish

Good to see we’re all on the same page

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Sometimes the American justice system makes astrology look like the Standard Model

Everyone wants a magic solution to solving crimes and proving guilt. That was the point of the lie detector, bite mark evidence, fingerprint analysis, graphology, blood spatter patterns, the Reid interrogation technique, and pretty much any now-discredited attempts at forensic science. In some cases it involves literal magic, like corpse dowsing.

I think people want there to be a magic solution because then they don't need to worry about whether they convicted the right person: it wasn't them who decided it, it was the objective truth of the burn analysis or the microscopic hair comparison or the hypnosis-revealed witness testimony that did it. And that's not how it fucking works.

Booboo wheel crash no survivors

ive never seen anyone capture the feeling of meeting older dykes as well as this

it’s quite actually devastating that you rarely can get physical copies of concert tickets these days. it’s all digital like.. where is the commemorative piece of paper i held in my sweaty little hand all night that i get to bring home and stick in my keepsakes? we are losing some of societies greatest pillars

The older I get, the more I understand that it’s okay to live a life others don’t understand.