Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet (via antigonies)
Touches Ask Game
Prompts for writing human connection, intimacy, belonging.
Hand-holding
The purest form of human connection.
- tiny hands in big hands
- calloused hands in soft hands
- cold hands in warm hands
- hands with the perfect ratio to each other for hand-holding
- platonic hand-holding
- running their thumb over the other’s hand
- dancing with their hands holding onto each other
- squeezing hand for comfort and encouragement
- holding hands across the table
- happily doing everything with just one hand, if it means they don’t have to let go
- not wanting to lose each other in a big crowd
- possessive hand-holding
- linking hands together during sex
- grabbing hand to show them something
- loosely holding onto each other’s hands, laying in one’s lap
- only linking the pinkies together, not ready to let go completely
- holding hands while skating
- excitedly grabbing each other’s hands during a concert, jumping up and down together
- playing with each other’s fingers
- pressing the other’s hand against their cheek
- holding hands while one is balancing on a small wall
- grabbing the other’s hand to pull them back from something
- holding hands under the table
- only realizing it when they have to let go
- standing in front of each other, holding both their hands
- holding their hands above their head, fingers linked together
- passionate hand-holding
- grabbing the other’s hand so they don’t fall
- holding hands while running through the rain
- brushing against each other, linking fingers together for a second
- grabbing their hand to grab their attention
- not really paying attention, both doing something else, but still holding hands
- bandaging the other’s hand and not quite letting go
- holding hands while driving
- grabbing the other’s hand to pull them back to them
- unconsciously searching out each other’s hand while sleeping
- not realizing they’re holding hands till someone points it out
- swinging hands back and forth, skipping like children
- holding hands in a museum to pull them to the next exhibition
- letting go when there is an obstacle in their way and immediately grabbing each other’s hand again when they pass it
- loosely holding onto each other’s hand
- dragging the other with them, holding their hand
- raising the other’s hand to their lips to kiss it softly
- holding hands while jumping down from somewhere together
- comparing hand sizes, then linking fingers together
Hugs
A warm embrace.
- friendly hugs
- hug around the waist
- hugging while twirling around
- comforting hugs
- side hugs
- hugging and gently holding the other’s head
- pulling someone into a hug
- hugging while walking
- eye-to-eye hugs
- hiding their face in the other’s neck
- clinging to each other
- hugging while lying down together
- group hugs
- hugging with head on shoulder
- tender embrace
- ‘not wanting to let go’ hugs
- hugging from behind
- bear hugs
- hugging with hands in each other’s pockets
- cuddling
- hugs and kisses
- hugging and jumping up and down together
- familiar hugs
- hugging with height-difference
- gentle hugs
- hugging with patting on back
- piggy back hugs
- quick hugs
- hugging while slow dancing
- one-sided hugs
- hugging while straddling the partner
- long-lasting hugs
- ‘picking them up’ hugs
- hugging while grabbing butt
- cuddle pile
Kisses
Showing affections.
- goodnight kisses
- hand kisses
- smiling while kissing
- lips barely touching
- morning kisses
- slow kisses
- passionate kisses
- kisses on the cheek
- first kisses
- goodbye kisses
- welcome home kisses
- kisses on the corner of their mouth
- frustrated kisses
- kissing each other breathless
- soothing kisses
- nose kisses
- kisses as a promise
- short pecks
- forehead kisses
- kisses on head
- “we’ll face this together” kisses
- kisses in the rain
- life-or-death kisses
- kisses for a cover
- hard kisses
- giggling while kissing
- desperate kisses
- neck kisses
- hushed conversation in-between kisses
- eyelid kisses
- gentle stroking of cheeks
- small kisses
- kissing it better
- jaw kisses
- wake-up kisses
- kissing away tears
- public kisses
- relieved kisses
- kisses for comfort
- tummy kisses
- kisses to shut them up
- slowly kissing down the body
- “we’ll see each other again” kisses
- kissing each finger
- sleepy kisses
- angry kisses
- feather-light kisses
- kisses with trembling lips
- secret kisses
- kisses with their last dying breath
Touching
Feeling another human’s touch.
- touching foreheads
- running fingers through hair
- hiding face in neck
- caressing the other’s hand
- feeling their pulse
- patting the other’s head
- holding hands
- shielding the other one with their body
- listening to the other’s heartbeat
- spooning at night
- laying their hand on the other’s neck
- pushing a strand of hair behind their ear
- nudging the other one
- putting an arm around the other’s waist
- hugging each other
- massaging them
- holding the other’s chin up
- squishing the other’s cheek
- high fiving
- bandaging/stitching up an injury
- kissing the other’s brow
- falling asleep on the other’s shoulder
- carrying the other one in their arms
- whispering in their ear, lips touching the skin
- stroking the other’s arm soothingly
- kissing the top of their head
- pulling the other one towards them
- feeling for each other in the dark
- tickling the other one
- grabbing onto their arm
- doing a pinky swear
- caressing the other’s back
- tasting their smile
- washing the other’s body
- kissing their bruises and scars
- lifting the other one up
- putting their head on the other’s chest
- stroking their leg
- leaning into the other’s side
- patting them on the back
- sitting close and knees touching
- braiding the other’s hair
- giving them a piggy-back ride
- sitting on the other’s lap
- feeling their temperature
- linking arms with each other
- touching their elbow to get their attention
- dancing with each other
- holding onto the other’s shoulders for support
- putting a hand over the other’s mouth to shut them up
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i think about this poem every day
“You think you know yourself inside out when you live alone, but you don’t, you believe you are a calm untroubled or at worst melancholic person, you do not realise how irritable you are, how any little thing, the wrong kind of touch or tone, a lack of speed in answering a question, a particular cast of expression will send you into apoplexy because you are unchill, because you have not learnt how to soften your borders, how to make room.”
— Olivia Laing, Crudo
“When I’d first loved him, I wanted to take him apart, as a child dismembers a clockwork toy, to comprehend the inscrutable mechanics of its interior. I wanted to see him far more naked than he was with his clothes off.”
— Angela Carter, from “Flesh and the Mirror,” Burning Your Boats: The Collected Short Stories
thinking abt that specific type of intimacy from being in someone’s bedroom for the first time, & you’re poking around their items, & they’re reclined backwards on their bed telling you all the little stories while they follow you around the room with their eyes, & you feel it
“I loved you before I was born. It doesn’t make sense, I know. I saw your eyes before I had eyes to see. And I’ve lived longing for your every look ever since. That longing entered time as this body. And the longing grew as this body waxed. And the longing grows as this body wanes. That longing will outlive this body. I loved you before I was born. It makes no sense, I know. Long before eternity, I caught a glimpse of your neck and shoulders, your ankles and toes. And I’ve been lonely for you from that instant. That loneliness appeared on earth as this body. And my share of time has been nothing but your name outrunning my ever saying it clearly. Your face fleeing my ever kissing it firmly once on the mouth. In longing, I am most myself, rapt, my lamp mortal, my light hidden and singing. I give you my blank heart. Please write on it what you wish.”
— Li-Young Lee, from The Undressing: Poems; “I loved you before I was born” (via feral-ballad)
Margaret Atwood, from “There Are Better Ways of Doing This”
Trista Mateer, "Baggage", from Honeybee
“In those city rooms, I wrote a poem. I wrote another. I wrote a book. If the poems that came to me on those nights might be considered love poems, then they were in love with rain and alpine flowers, with the strange vocabularies of a pregnant body, with clouds and with grandmothers. No poem arrived in praise of the man who slept next to me as I wrote, the man whose moonlit skin always drew my lips towards him. The love I held for him felt too vast to pour into the neat vessel of a poem. I couldn’t put it into words. I still can’t.”
— Doireann Ní Ghríofa, A Ghost in the Throat
— The Picture Of Dorian Gray, Oscar Wilde
Anne Carson, ‘Wildly Constant’, London Review of Books
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