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Quoiromantic Ask Blog

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Hey, my name is Marie-Rose. This is a place for any and all things quoiromantic! Submit, send an ask, or message me; all questions and comments are welcome :) Credit to @penicillium-pusher for mobile header image / Credit to @cat13potat for the avatar image
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Anonymous asked:

Can a person be both bi and quoiromantic? I'm not straight but I'm not sure either. I dunno if I have a crush on my bestie or if its just a close bond but I do know that I'm comfortable in a relationship with her/them.

ok i have not thought about this blog in Ages (turns out i'm a lesbian, i don't identify as quoi anymore) but let me pop back in to say Yes ABsolutely. "Can a person be--" the answer is yes. You know yourself better than anyone else. No one else can dictate how you identify, and if you think you're [thing x] and [thing y] at the same time and someone says "impossible, those can't coexist" they're wrong because you are proof that they can.

i will return to not existing anymore now, best wishes to all y'all <3

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Anonymous asked:

I'm unsure of whether I'm quoiromantic or just generally aro. Do you have any tips for how one would figure that out?

Well, this is probably going to be a lengthy process for you, no matter what. I do have some tips that may help you, though. Ask yourself: what do you consider to be the border between a platonic and a romantic relationship? Basically, what are the defining factors of each, and are they appealing to you? If you wouldn’t like to do any of the things that you associate with a romantic relationship, you’re probably aro. If you’re having trouble defining a clear line between what is platonic and what is romantic, you’re most likely quoiro. I hope this helps. If you have any other questions, please don’t hesitate to ask!

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If you’re not exactly sure if you’re quoiromantic, or if you don’t think it fits perfectly, you can use the label as long as you’d like, or not at all. It’s okay. Your journey to figure yourself out may take some exploring, and as long as you use the label “quoiromantic” you are one of us.

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to all my fellow quoi- and nebula- romantic peeps out there, i hope you have a lovely day and remember that you don’t need to be in a romantic relationship if you don’t want to.

they’re so confusing, I know, but you GOT THIS.

I hope you get to be with who you want however makes you happy!

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Quoiromantic + Christmas Aesthetic

Quoi - described as…

  • Not sure if you experience attraction or not &/or don’t understand attraction as a concept or feeling, finds the concept of attraction to be inaccessible, inapplicable, nonsensical. / unsure of your orientation
  • Cannot define attraction so unable to say whether or not you experience it.
  • Hard time distinguishing sexual/romantic attraction from other types of attractions, or can’t distinguish them at all (ex cant distinguish romantic from platonic, or has a hard time distinguishing romantic from sensual feelings)
  • Can’t find a better term because it is too complicated or because they just don’t fit any other term, also considered catch all term for people who fall on the aromantic spectrum but can’t define themselves past that
  • Doesn’t experience sexuality/romanticism/etc in a traditional manner.
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Nebularomantic

Definition: Similar to quoiromantic; being unable to or having a hard time distinguishing romantic attraction from platonic attraction due to ones neurodivergency. Derived from nebulous, a Latin word for clouded or unclear.

The first picture is the flag I’ve created for this orientation, and the second picture is the nebula that I’ve color picked the flag stripe colors from.

Note: This term is only to be used by neurodivergent people.

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scaredbucky

Shout out to the aromantics

-The aromantics who always have people saying that it’s so sad they’ll never get married

-The aromantics who are told that it’s just a phase

-The aromantics who have people telling them they just haven’t found the right person yet

-The grey aros who feel like they were faking it if/when they do find the right person

-The demiromantics who are told “that’s normal”

-The quoiromantics who don’t know if they even experience romantic attraction

-The quoi-___romantics who constantly get told they’re invalid because “if you cant tell the difference between platonic and romantic attraction then how do you know that its only ____”

-To all the lith/akoiromantics who are told that they just have attachment issues

-To the cupioromantics who are shit on by the alloromantic community for not loving people romantically and by the aromantic community for wanting a relationship anyway

-To the mentally ill aromantics who are told its just because of their mental health

-To the autistic quoiromantics who are told that they’re confused because they’re autistic

-Just… here’s to all the aromantics out there who are constantly ignored, even by supposedly inclusive blogs/posts.

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