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@dophdintraining / dophdintraining.tumblr.com

23. DO/PhD student. Surviving med school and graduate school at the same time. Tag: #five pancakes a day
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Anonymous asked:

Wait wait wait wait, how did you do it???? I mean, I’ll finish med school until 23 and you’re ending phd and have (almost) 2 kids? Omg, my hero

Thank you, anon! It’s definitely been a wild ride and not easy. Definitely easier having two kids during my PhD portion than it would’ve been during my med school portion, but I wasn’t counting on a pandemic taking away my childcare, either, much less screwing up my CV advancement opportunities and delaying my research. Good luck with med school!

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It’s been a while!

Yep, still alive.

Surviving the pandemic, with a toddler running around, while pregnant, while trying to finish a PhD, has not been easy.

We also recently decided the toddler will not be returning to daycare this fall, so I’ll be full-time momming again. While writing my dissertation.

Somehow I’ll survive! I’ll probably be using this blog again for accountability. If anyone wants to join me, let me know!

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Yup, I’m still here.

My plans were messed up by COVID-19, but whose weren’t? So I’m at home, attempting to write a dissertation while chasing around a toddler.

Who’s got tips for working at home?

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wingkink

Therapists are just…. Common sense filters

Me: yeah so I just don’t have the energy to get up and make myself a sandwich or wait for something to cook so I just. Don’t

Her: why don’t you just eat the sandwich components without putting them together

Me:

Her: you can just eat a handful of cheese and some sandwich meat. You don’t have to make a sandwich.

Me:

Me: what

Therapists finding loopholes for mental illness things is one of my favorite things about dealing with mental illness because it really helps me understand that just because a reaction is Common doesn’t mean it’s Right. Does doing dishes stress you out a lot? Buy paper plates. Do your obsessive thoughts make you worry about leaving your curling iron on so you drive home from work to check? Just put the curling iron in your purse and bring it to work with you while we work on tackling where this worry comes from. Symptom management doesn’t have to look like drudgery.

i used to go days without showering because seeing my body was so upsetting that i would end up spiraling and then i realized i could simply turn the lights out. it took some getting used to but i’ve been showering with the lights off for years and it’s now one of my favorite parts of my day.

do whatever you want nothing is real and there’s no need to inflict unnecessary suffering on yourself just to try to seem “normal”

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biyaself

I love this post

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jettestblack

Hmmm

These kinds of loopholes make life so. Much. Better.

One of my favorite stories is this lady had extremely bad OCD. Every day she’d be late to work because she was convinced that her hair dryer was going to burn down the house so would always have to turn around and check it. Multiple times a day even. A bunch of doctors tied to “fix” her of that fear, until one day she got a doctor that suggested she bring the hair dryer with her. Other doctors were annoyed, saying that wasn’t a the correct way to help, but she gave it a go. When she had that fear, she’d look over and see the hair dryer unplugged in the seat next to her and was able to carry on. I think it’s such a perfect example of actually helping someone instead of forcing them into a neurotypical standard.

That story helped me stop repeatedly checking if my front door was locked. Instead of checking that the door was locked over and over I would check my security system app. If it’s on it will alert me if the front door opens.

“…actually helping someone instead of forcing them into a neurotypical standard” should be added to the Hippocratic Oath.

Started reading about the door and I thought they were gonna say they took the door with them

They’re👏called👏adaptive👏behaviors👏and 👏are 👏literally 👏how👏you 👏fight 👏mental👏 illness👏

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12.10.19

It's been a while since I posted, mostly since life has kept me incredibly busy between being a mother and a PhD student. I'm making good progress with my research and I'm on track to finish next fall! My baby is a year old now and amazing. Life is great.

What kinds of posts would you guys like to see? Send me requests!

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