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lily-musings

                                              even if i get hurt // even if it hurts                                                 i have no choice but to stand up!                                                  no matter how many times i fall                                                     i have something to protect 

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As someone who often gets anxiety about this sort of thing, could please reblog this post and spread it around if you will RP with and support RPers who don’t have fancy graphics, use plain gifs/images as their RP promos and will even support RPers if they don’t format their text or enhance their icons?

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PSA

If you feel like your muse has been waining recently, it’s probably because of current events. 

This is a stressful period we’re all experiencing. You are not alone right now. Trying to battle the complications of real life takes energy, that energy detracts from the energy you use for roleplay.  

And this can be especially frustrating when RP is something you’re trying to use to escape from reality.

So remember to love yourself, treat yourself nicely, and not blame yourself for feeling under-motivated.   If you need to take a break from everything that’s okay.  Don’t be angry at yourself.  Do what you have to do to help yourself relax. 

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PSA FOR YOU ♥ YES YOU. THE ONE READING THIS.

One thing I’ve noticed that I want to address, is the way people feel so guilty and feel the need to apologize for being slow at getting to replies or not getting to them at all. And, trust me, I’ve been there (and still catch myself there tbh, i just had this realization a few moments ago and had to share lmao); people feel obligated to others, rather than prioritizing their own well-being. As though we’re somehow responsible for the well-being of everyone else. I see it so much! ♥ And I totally sympathize and understand. But I just want you to know, from what I’ve observed, the vast majority of us feel so obligated to others, and yet most of us (at least the people who respect others free time oh dang yep i’m throwin’ shade) couldn’t care less about others dropping threads, or having a billion drafts, or getting distracted with other things!

We put so much pressure on ourselves for not being machines that can keep up with everything 24/7—which, I mean, would be pretty amazing lmaaaao—but the point is it’s okay to get distracted, and be disorganized, and jump from one idea and plot and thread to the next! It’s okay! ♥ We don’t have to put so much pressure on ourselves! To the point that we torture ourselves with obligation and guilt and forget to check in on our own energy levels. Because I can almost guarantee that most people are too worried about their own feelings of obligation, than the thing we’re stressing ourselves over!

I see people apologizing for caring for themselves, and taking breaks when they need it, and not being ‘fast enough’, and so many other things that the people who truly respect our health and happiness and free time probably aren’t even thinking about. So, if that fits your description, and you still struggle with putting way too much pressure on your own shoulders, and you feel as though you have to care for everyone else before you care for yourself, then this post is for you ♥ And ngl for myself as well, bc I often find myself feeling obligated and responsible for others, even when I’m drained of energy too lolol.

But here it is—not that you even need it—but in case you feel that you do:

You have permission to slack offYou have permission to take breaks! You have permission to drop threads without warning, or to have a billion drafts pile up! You have permission to take care of yourself first, and to be as disorganized and cluttered and lazy as you want! You have permission to be human! And more importantly—you have permission to be yourself! ♥ Your friends and everyone else who truly loves you and respects you wouldn’t want it any other way! You don’t have to feel guilty or obligated for respecting your own energy and needs and if someone tries to make you feel that way, that’s a huge red flag for me tbh ♥ But yes! Please have fun! Please be yourself! Please listen to your own emotions! Because your true friends will always stick by you—not for your writing or your organizational skills or your superhuman ability to have 0 drafts at all times—but for who you are as a person ♥

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