what kind of woman doesn't have an axe?

//she compared to it once as almost lowkey cheating as she believes those are experiences you should share in a relationship like she might have a point? esp seeing how it would be me and another female coworker i am sorry, but no, she doesn't have a point, it is short trip with coworker, no matter man or woman, especially if you are friends, idk if that is business trip, but, i think she is putting some shit on you which she shouldn't, that is just petty. so does that mean you should never travel anywhere since she cannot go with you? i get it, i would feel guilty i cannot travel with my gf/bf, but, i would make sure she got every piece of info and photos and videos to feel included. Short travel shouldn't be consider lowkey cheating if your relationship is strong and stable as you claim it is

If she thinks that traveling on your own is “like cheating”, that seems like a red flag to me, especially since she physically can’t travel. I can see how it would suck to have to stay home while your partner goes off to have fun, but at the same time she should want her partner to be happy. Is her reaction perhaps driven by envy or bitterness that she isn’t capable of traveling?

Just my opinion but you deserve to have your own experiences, even frivilous non-work ones with someone other than your partner. It can be fun to imagine couples in fiction or your favorite media being so entwined/codependent that they do literally everything together. But in real life it can be difficult to manage such a thing bc both parties will have different preferences, disability/medical restrictions, schedules etc. AND THAT'S OKAY! You can still keep each other updated and let your partner know you are thinking of them while you are away--and she can let you know what she is up to. It is healthy to have other friendships in your life and give your own self permission to live life to the fullest.

As someone who has been married for four years with a chronic illness, there’s lots of things I miss out on that my wife does without me. Some hurt, some don’t. There’s also trips I’ve taken without her over the years. We’ve always supported each other. You’re still your own person, even in a loving relationship. It’s healthy and important for a partner to want you to have individual experiences.

Mmm see that's important context. If she can't trust you to go on a short trip with others, then why not? If you've never done anything to make her doubt you in the relationship, then that's not fair of her to put those jealousy issues on you. Going on a trip with a coworker is not lowkey cheating and couples should not share everything together. Like damn are you even allowed to have female friends? To have experiences with them without her?

how long would trip be? i mean... if she can't travel due health issues, i don't think it is really fair to stop you from travelling with friends, you will come back, you will message her and send photos, you will bring her souvenirs.

I understand her being sad and upset because she won't be there with you, but I don't think that should be something you will break up stable relationship over.

Another story is if you will be away for months...

maybe work on reasons why she doesn't want you to travel alone? there's got a be a deeper reason

Going to need more info before I can hope to make a suggestion, but on the face of it announcing "I want go away for an extended period and have adventures without you but expect you to be fine with being put on the shelf and to be waiting for me when I come back" might be a relationship killer all by itself.