Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone of any nationality and ethnicity.

Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone in the LGBTQ+ community.

Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone with a disability or disorder.

Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone who has experienced or is experiencing trauma.

Reblog if your page is a safe space.

Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Gentle Spirit

something i feel like queer ppl have been steadily forgetting over the last ten years or so is that “genderqueer” isn’t a specific nonbinary term, or even a synonym for nonbinary - it’s an umbrella term that encompasses nonbinariness and more. 

any flavour of trans (yes including “binary trans”)? you can call yourself genderqueer. fem, butch, androgynous, drag artist, crossdresser, or in any other way gnc? you can also use genderqueer. detrans but not in a radfem death cult kind of way? you too can be genderqueer. “i guess i’m basically cis but my other queer identity impacts my gender in a way that’s hard to put into words-” genderqueer!

it’s entirely acceptable and normal to be genderqueer but not nonbinary or genderqueer but not trans. it means literally nothing but “i’ve got a gender that’s queer” and it fucking rules we should use it so much more

This!  There was a period of time where this was well known and understood and then suddenly the genderqueer umbrella was closed up into a word synonymous with nonbinary. I’d just about given up fighting to get that umbrella back open, or at least remind people that it was once much more open.

What to do if you find yourself homless- written by someone who has actually been homeless

Most important: Spend the money you have on a motel. Churches probably will not actually help and shelters can be dangerous or turn you away. At a motel you have free breakfast, access to running water, and a lockable place to sleep. Do not waste money on a gym membership like the popular version of this post says to do, YMCA memberships are like $40.

2. Contact family and friends. Now is not the time to worry about being a burden. Your survival and safety comes first and that is all that matters, anyone worth having in your life will agree.

3. Start a gofundme. Even if someone can’t offer you a place to stay, they might be willing to toss out $5 so you can eat today.

4. Libraries have free wifi. Apply to any and all jobs you can think of if you aren’t already working.

5. Any home is a good home. Even if it’s a dingy apartment in a bad neighborhood. If its cheap and you can afford it, snatch it up. 

6. Pancake mix and peanut butter are filling, cheap, and last a long time.

PLEASE SHARE THE FUCK OUT OF THIS

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know a lot of my friends are in not-very-supportive homes and could end up out of a home, including myself, so I’m reblogging this for y'all!

reminder that when you start getting angry online, go offline. i know lots of people know this already but lots don’t and plenty others need a reminder. there’s a lot of stuff online meant to make you mad. there’s a lot of people who get off on making you mad. there are people out there so convinced of their own beliefs that there’s no point trying to discuss with them. blacklist tags, block people, scroll away, and sometimes, take a breath and step back. hate-scrolling is so easy to fall into but you might not realise how much it’s affecting you until it’s too late

#most social media is designed to extract profit from upsetting you#and convincing you that this means something and is important to feel so that you stay on their site and keep making them money#like there's a lot of stuff that matters! yes! but also#they're using your rightful human indignation to make sure you look at more ads

tags of @krahka deserve reiterating

Tagged by @rubberduckymondays to post

Last song:

Watching: The X Files

Reading: The Body Keeps the Score and Compassionate Satanism

Current obsession: X Files and kinky stuff 😂

Tagging:

@casserole2911

@lingonberryjamistakenwhat

@squirms-mckenzie

If you wanna!

Last song

Watching: this evening we started Hilda

Reading: a bunch of articles on Islam, lately.

Current Obsession: birds

Tagging:

@sneeblesnorble @onlyopenusername @lostlovepunk @lacycardigan

last song

watching: angel the series and mirai nikki

reading: good omens (i finally have a copy again!)

current obsession: my own ocs (and my friends' ocs, a bit)

tagging @klavierpanda @catwaifuwu @aro-oak

Thanks for the tag!

Last song:

Watching: Star Trek: The Next Generation

Reading: Introduction to Metric and Topological Spaces by Wilson Sutherland

Current Obsession: Topology

Tagging: @tesco-brand-aromantics @shinekittenace @alectricblue @vancrypt @isomorbism @arandomuser17 @a-crow-with-rights-and-anxiety

Thank you for the tag!! And sorry it took me so long, lol

Last song:

Watching: weeeeell... It's been so long since I last watched a TV series that I don't actually remember, lol

Reading: "The order of time" (Carlo Rovelli) + "Nausea" (Jean-Paul Sartre)

Current obsession: physics + trans stuff

Tagging: @transsexual-isopod-god @bog-o-mine @rue-cimon @romanticvampire @low-wisdom @arbielikestrains @my-ancient-marss @artemis-aro @panicking-skywalker @theinsomniacindian :D

Type "my gender is" on your phone and let your phone finish the sentence, then tag your moots to keep the chain going, I'll go first.

My gender is a little bit more intense than I thought I could have done

@mirukosbitchywife @get-junpeid

My gender is a good time to get the latest flash player

no-pressure tagging @rainethorn and @gardenofraven

my gender is not too bad for me

open tag <3

my gender is a lot of the garage door

@commiesolarpunkstarchild

@bog-o-mine

my gender is not fair

@quillsink

@arandomuser17

My gender is a beautiful day

Lol, I loved this

No pressure: @klavierpanda @transsexual-isopod-god @rue-cimon @romanticvampire @low-wisdom @arbielikestrains @my-ancient-marss @artemis-aro @panicking-skywalker @theinsomniacindian @vancrypt

people love it when lesbians are some guy until those lesbians are actually some guy.

people love lesbian masculinity, lesbians who use he/him and lesbians who are just some guy, and lesbians who call themselves boys and men and guys and dudes, and lesbians who are indistinguishable from men until they come too close to actually being men.

people love it when you blur the lines between gender, but they don't want you to blur it too much, otherwise you're not a real lesbian and you're invading lesbian spaces. if you blur the lines too much, flirt with the concept of being a man too much then you might as well be committing a hate crime because you explored gender in the wrong direction.

accepting that gender is a spectrum includes acknowledging that yeah, that spectrum includes lesbian gender, and yes, sometimes lesbian gender overlaps with being an actual honest to god guy. this is not something that will change, so i recommend making peace with it.

also some lesbians can be amab. some lesbians can be bigender. they are all allowed to have a complex relationship with masculinity and manhood.

Like and reblog if your account is a safe space for trans lesbians. It feels like trans lesbians in particular get shamed and ridiculed a lot by people in and out of the community. If you’re reading this I want to let you know you’re valid and I hope your safe and doing well.

YES !!! yesyesyesyesyes my blog is safe and open to all trans lesbians i love you all !! you are welcome here

❤️🧡🤍🩷💖

International Non-Binary People's Day

🦇 Good morning, bookish bats! It's International Non-Binary People's Day! Looking to add some great non-binary books to your ever-growing TBR? Here are books from authors who publicly identify as non-binary, starring characters that are non-binary, too! Which are you reading first?

✨ Fiction ✨ 💛 She Who Became The Sun by Shelley Parker-Chan 🤍 Loveless by Alice Oseman 💜 Nettleblack by Nat Reeve 🖤 Paul Takes the Form of a Mortal Girl by Andrea Lawlor 💛 Truth & Dare by So Mayer 🤍 X by Davey Davis 💜 Chlorine by Jade Song 🖤 Phoenix Extravagant by Yoon Ha Lee 💛 I Wish You All the Best by Mason Deaver 🤍 On a Sunbeam by Tillie Walden 💜 Pet by Akwaeke Emezi 🖤 The Discomfort of Evening by Marieke Lucas Rijneveld 💛 The Echo Wife by Sarah Gailey 🤍 The Black Tides of Heaven by Neon Yang 💜 Outlawed by Anna North 🖤 An Unkindness of Ghosts by Rivers Solomon 💛 The Heartbreak Bakery by A. R. Capetta 🤍 Bianca Torre Is Afraid of Everything by Justine Pucella Winans 💜 Jamie by L. D. Lapinski 🖤 Mordew by Alex Pheby

✨ Non-Fiction ✨ 💛 In Their Shoes by Jamie Windust 🤍 Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon 💜 Gender Queer: A Memoir by Maia Kobabe 🖤 Gender Euphoria by Laura Kate Dale 💛 A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns by Archie Bongiovanni and Tristan Jimerson 🤍 What’s the T? The No-nonsense Guide to All Things Trans And/or Non-binary for Teens by Juno Dawson 💜 Life Isn’t Binary: On Being Both, Beyond, and In-Between by Alex Iantaffi and Meg-John Barker

I'm gonna try to start a random chain (it probably won't work because I don't have a lot of followers but idc)

Just tag a few blogs u like and hope they awnser until it takes like 3 minutes to get to the bottom of the post lol

@lalaverdecia @meekspoetssociety @dazeddoodles @eighties-toons @leovaldiva3uwu @mythingsandstuff @spiritual-activity @that-thing-on-your-shoe

Thank you @guskinnie! Love you too

I know this may not work but... Heh

@kurtkellyisgay @dollythesheepp @veronicaslvr @heathersaddict @rich-goranksi-stan @lesbianjaredkleinman @enter-a-newsies-obsession @im-gay-and-mentally-unstable

I would tag more people, but I have no idea of who else to tag so that's it

thanks @leovaldiva3uwu <3

@vnirhaus08 @heatherz-trash @maybeimamuppet

daaaw thanks!!!

i’m literally just gonna go in alphabetical order so if i miss you you just didn’t show up and i’m sorry

@apexpreddators @bicaddyheron @bigfuckingfrog @beansbagelsblintzes @boyf-reinds @baebylesbian @chilipepper5176 @charlatte2235 @cran-does-art-things @cooter-n-tooter @dollythesheepp @drumline-geek @deadgirllwalkingg @earper-danvers @guylinda @heartbreak-grl @imperatrixtumby @i-followed-a-honeybee12 @lizzieehearts @lilacs-and-lightning-bugs @micro-bi-ologist @my-name-is-reginald-george @merriconstance @meangirlsbway-incorrectquotes @myst1xx @nick-carraways-side-hoe @nothingtoseehd @our-musical-dreamcasts @pikablob @parkitaco @primordialsoupy @pauchpee @queerlemontea @roseateinferno @sprnklersplashes @snowflakedork @saplesssapphic @spidy-nugget @sainttheodora @the-path-to-nowhere @the-abyss-gazed-back @theheroofhorseshoebay @thepaceperson @thatqueernerdoverlord @upside-down-theater-kid @unusual-and-strange @vnirhaus08 @wlwromanovas

aw tyyy this is really sweet 😭😭

@etchedstars @nothingtoseehd @10-4ward @thatwillnotagewell

Hey thanks! :D

@etchedstars @nothingtoseehd @wow-i-hate-my-fridge @enbygesserit @terra-bunny

Oh uhh thanks?

@almalvo @sp4cehusb4nds @duxduxdux @unsuitable-unless @whatifwekilledgodandwebothgirls @i-call-me-clarence @anabsolutelyremarkableblog

Thanks!

@lunarmultishine @violet-phoenix-nebula @nionkitkats

Hey, cool! Thanks!

@daydreams-in-the-moonlight @aaronthe8thdemon

Damnit I can't remember some of the others cause they change their names all the time 🤣

Thanks lovey 😊 I appreciate you

Oh boy where do I even start... @bylrndgm @edelweiss-coffee my wbnl beloveds 💜💙💚 @gaytedlasso @midnightmoon27 @henrysglock @parkitaco @parkergf @perexcri @castelobyers @nebulous-astronaut @talkingtothelights @foodiewithdahoodie @hoteadepresso @howtobecomeadragon @cluelessbees @kaleidoskuls @elhaspowers @ohfallingdisco @xxcreamixx @bonesofjelly @italiantv and shit so many others. Sorry if I didn't tag you but this tag would be a mile long if I did everyone but if we're mutuals or interact on this hellsite just know I love and appreciate you dearly and you make my days better by being here. Wishing you all love, light and gentle days 💜💙💚

Thanks for the tag Jon 🩷🥺 gonna tag my wonderful moots 🩷✨ @foodiewithdahoodie @italiantv @messrsbyler @mikeslawyer @l0veu2themoon @itachisnapplesharingan @bylersbear01 @cherryclerics @toasterfroggy @red-in-revenge @michael-wheela @sunflowerswren @bee-n-doodle @colemorrison @aidyaiden @unrepentant-byler-shipper @elevenmayfieldz @3leven1 and to anyone I haven't tagged, know that ily and appreciate you 🩷 you aren't forgotten and thank you deeply for following me and supporting my content 🩷✨

i’m a mutual of yours? 🥺

aw el ily!!!! (/p)

tagging all of my mutuals who i can remember

@hazmatazz @eefonline @atbyler @italiantv @weirdo09 @bylerloveswaffles @verashalurks @tobi-mostly @downbytheriversside @evil-gay-person @willthecleric @microwaveonwheels @urlocalalcaholic @draculagerard @overflowing-with-hyperfixations @over-rated-cheese @paladintoyourcleric @charlie-the-egg @rebelrobinrules1984 @chaoticbyler @howtobecomeadragon @grouchollie @sillylittlehumanbeing @foodiewithdahoodie @slaymaxuwu @st0l3nlull4bi3s @laetafelem @poetawritesdeath @when-blue-meets-yellow @retr0things @trans-gay-arospec-mike-wheeler @gay-little-bitch @mikewontstopwhiningaboutit @dunkeyfromshrek @runwiththerain @claryfrayed @fruity-cryptid @cultofsheep @pinkpwuddin @tulip-wizard @professionally-confuused @shortcakezzzz @mon-sher-liam @silentspacebee @pio-mio @wheelerssecret @apatheticlexicographer @yelenapines @helloblurry @afterglowsssss and others. i have way many more mutuals and i love you all dearly. thank you for being friends with me and just supporting and interacting with me for a while. glad to have you :)

hi!!! <3

@angerycat @heartbuckles @trashdragon4 @marcysbear @neil-perrys-glasses @gemma-nye @wearedreamingoftomorrow @whatthefr0g @me-n-michael @0lympians @stupidstarz @ineffable-hubbiewubbies @four-pillars-of-welton @chroniccpessimist @afterglowsssss @kazswift @dicegoblin2 you guys are sososo awesome! i love you all sm :]

:]]]

you all get a picture of a cool turtle i found today cuz why not !

@angerycat @achillyscomedown @blue0909 @cheese-in-space @dapperblooky @fivecenturies-ofverse @glokatt @gay-mooshrooms @henry-fox-biggest-stan @ineffable-hubbiewubbies @le-petite-ivy @mikhnovskykinnie @mediocre-noodle @magithegay @not-actually-human @oakay @spacey-typer @timewizard-oldman @victorian-dorian @weltonpoets @wildestdreamcatcher

Awwwww little guy!

@snowwolfstar2@alli0s@colorful-craze@losergirlranboolive

@possuminnit@yes-i-think-ranboo-is-beautiful

Thanks for the tag :)

@accidentallyaverage @ticcywhaleshark @abucketofweird

:]

@stranglingfigs @spaghettiwithnachos13 @melancholypessimism

:) <3

@ava-taylors-version @zoedoesedits @angerycat

@angerycat and @melancholypessimism @itsfunnybcuzitstrue @ticcywhaleshark @tinybitofhope and @jonmartintrash @sad-trash-pigeon

🤍🤍🤍🤍

no pressure tags!

@ridleyytheriddler @mem3nto-mor1 @5ducksinatrenchcoat @bitterliked1etlem0nade

shit this is the cutest

no pressure <33

@chaoticbicanadian @brokenphoenix2023 @aledradio @charliethinks @hershey-the-person @idfk-toryspring @charsthoughts @lepetitfruit @a-portal-to-nowhere @toulouseradiosilence @witches-ink @wantmeifyouwantme @touloseradiosilence @runwiththerain @yesterdayorcenturiesbefore

@ridleyytheriddler thank youuuuuuuuuuuuu

no pressure, tag, you’re it!

@yes-i-exist-shutup @chronic-mirrorball @totallynots8tan @kazbrekkerfast

Yipeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!

@theloonatic @auctionedfilm @barbietwin @bazkrekker111

This is so sweet! I’ll just do a few cos there are so many I love it here! @mydollsmovearoundatnight

@barbiemoviebracket

@nonbinarydollie

@alldollsarevalid

@impossiblesuitcase

@squash1

@themurdersquashsong2

@marvinthecrow

ahhh that is the sweetest thing ever!! luv you:))

i only put a few bc im lazy sorry lol but here are mine:

@barbietwin obv

@bluesyogurt

@grieving4theliving

@chill-byers

@thatssirgwaintoyou

@squash1

@chaoticgremlinswishtheycouldbeme

@ronans-hand-kink

@matchstickz

wait this is so nice!! awe. thank you!

ok i’m tagging some blogs i admire :) no pressure to continue.

@lesbianjudasiscariot @hondayota @miseria-fortes-viros @greenybeanyyy @declanscunt @ganseylike @friendofcars @swimmingback @stringcage @mayhaps-to-dream @mulletadam @thriftdyke @unganseylike @whoreshoecrab @gaygollum @hauntedcamaro @desertmp3 @ronseyz also sososos many more but my fingers would fall off if i kept typing

thanks :)

@300fcxway @fromjannah @if-you-give-a-gay-a-vampire @its-hell @jordanshenessy @cbeswater @parrished @revolutiongirlstyle @meant-for-originals @sophiescates and anyone else

i’m so honoured and loved…..

no pressure @the-great-kraken @maia-isnt-real @be-queer-do-arson @fiddler-sticks @iwantaferretwrites and anyone else who wants to!!

<2 <2 <2

In no particular order

@giftofjay @hewasanamericangirl @pangolinsandnewts @dapper-nahrwhale @roguendeavor @beetrotxo @kingxgarm @lennon-cuddlywump @legogeek33 @juniperjellyfish @thecolorspectrumsworld @aroleg @redfirst-for-rainbows @les-amis-de-llgbt @frau-wilhelm-klink @dangerousbithespian @cloudofbutterflies @oliviaaaah @xhavibee @steampunk-newsie @rays-of-gold @fireplace-ashes @apofid-puffleburry @sys-garden @whatisthismandoinghere @himbos-hotline @crow-with-a-knife @gavrocherip @nocturnalnewsiestrash @hey-op-just-kill-me @crows-and-paint @carryingthebanner @mentallydisturbedstegosaurus @mychal-is-ok @finding-an-angle @theopalescent1

thanks i thoroughly enjoy your presence too! and oh man there’s so many i won’t remember them all

@villainsandvictimsalliance/ @shanaraki , @beware-thecrow @likethesword @flustered-flux @passelofopossums @dabi-the-burnt @yreapwhatyasow @void-of-erebos @viradiant @justyourginger @a-crow-with-rights-and-anxiety @eleiwitch and pretty much anyone i’ve had a good interaction with or who frequently appear in my notes (i see y’all!!)

Aw hell yeah

@morifiinwe @mlmwerewolf @twocatsinatrenchcoat @klavierpanda @viro-lil-goat @jadedshadow394 @hera-the-wizard @sandwichhour-too @pretty-petty-pastel

Thank you! Right back at you :))

@tesco-brand-aromantics @shinekittenace @lostlovepunk @mordcore @alectricblue @isomorbism @homuncvlus @vancrypt @heyitsphoenixx @arandomuser17 I have probably forgotten someone cause it's quite late but please don't take it personally if I have /lh

Thank you so much!!! I like your blog too :D

Oh and also

@transsexual-isopod-god @bog-o-mine @rue-cimon @romanticvampire @low-wisdom @arbielikestrains @my-ancient-marss @artemis-aro @panicking-skywalker @theinsomniacindian @vancrypt @thegyusorcerer :))

WOWIE FIRST TIME STARTING A PICREW CHAIN BC I REALLY LIKED THIS ONE

MAKE YOURSELF A CATSONA WITH THIS CUTE PICREW !!!

@mishkakagehishka @catboyknots @nightingale-memoir @hxneylavendxr @catzakis @mutsuowo @bluestbluejay @niicookie @acanthemp3 and lol i won't tag every mutual so that you other mfs have some left to tag in yours

:D

@mitebitmurderous @figsandphiltatos @courtjester69420 @coffee-laytte @wikipedie @littlebitofdiaz

@silentglory22 @kittenofdoom

A little kitty cat!!!!

@beanswithbones @frowningfox

just like me fr @dhuumy-thicc @mari-mary @wikimb

I love doing those hehe

@emilyofjane @graphic-mistake @prophetparadox and anyone else who would like to participate too!

This is just too cuuuuuuute~

@castledvania @keyboardthenerd @takuahijackedthetardis @blacknight-darksky​ and anyone else who might wanna do this! Make yourself into a cute kippy now!

Me on my way to my job to do the science

@dinjoyer @uniramia @dismalbat GET KIPPIED NOW

if ya waaaaanna

FUCK OHHHH GOD THE TRANSFORMATION IS AGONIZING AGAHHHJGHAHAHH *poof*

fuck.

@low-poly-leon @offlinesequence @dantesgothwife (u don't have to u dorks)

EHEHEG

@vampfangzz04 @tireddvampire @beamx4 @crow-in-a-teapot

meow meow meow:3

@effervescentleaf @morosevamp @dullahandyke @rileythevampirelover @bugintheruins

THANKS FOR THE TAG!!

@3euromealdeal @aggaroll @st0rmyseas @codebreakerblue @milk-and-cold-custard also amyone else who wants to :]

That was fun! Thank you for tagging me :D

Uhhh I don’t really know many people on here so anyone who wants to can do this :)))

meow meow meow! tagging @poggay @maimreddwhite @dreamsy990 @lavender-draw @doodlingallthethings @sholmes-owns-my-uwus @call-me-strega and anyone who wants to join!

This one is really cute!!!! and thanks so much for the tag!!! im tagging @cafe-au-tism @prinxe-with-no-crown @peacocksapphire @catonatrain @thesomewhatliterateaxolotl @angomay @shingetsu-online @dyelwi @silvercrane14 @if-i-eated-soaps and anyone else I have ever tagged before in any of these. sorry im kinda forgetful. oops. no pressure ofc!!!!

I really like this one <3 kitty

no pressure for anyone tagged and feel free to jump in if you’d like!

@prringlecan @prettiestparagon @gnomeantics @bitterishvices @sowelili @franzigorey @its-raining-rats-and-frogs

:)

i have been tagged?

oh you flatter me thank you!

for you blokes if you want to partake: @ladylikelamb @pee-creature @piggyakuma @mad-heynaru @suffering-and-misery @windshield-patent

me if I was a kitty meow

@king-chook @slimeciclels

134340 Pluto did this to me.

@teeth-kid @yilleypi @umbrarkzoo @pixel-mess @peridot-tears

@trashshouldnt @pearlinaweddingdlc

I'm just a little guy :>

@crabussy @tom-pom-da-cat @randomideas666

freaking hanging out on the grass listening to my TUNES........

@p3terpaan @vancrypt @problemcore @skiddlecat @stellophiliac @laughteronsilverwings !

Unauthorised thing

Open tags

I am. IN LOVE!!!!!! with this picrew.

Tagging @rue-cimon @flowers-and-literature @fabricated-pessimist @revolutionary-georg @red-a-world-about-to-dawn and all my moots >:3

fgdshj I love it!!

Tagging: @flowers-and-literature @arandomuser17 @hydestudixs

So cute!!! Thank you for the tag :)

I'm tagging, but no pressure: @klavierpanda @transsexual-isopod-god @bog-o-mine @romanticvampire @low-wisdom @arbielikestrains @my-ancient-marss @artemis-aro @panicking-skywalker @theinsomniacindian @vancrypt :)

Was tagged by @ladamebrunette and @frankenbition for the picrew train, thank you both <3

I gave myself a littol elven ears. As a treat.

Tagging @lilas @joy-fires @galpal95 @nethlies @shanaraharlyah without any pressure

Thank you for tagging me! I think I deserve some elf ears too. lol

Tagging @esolean @slothssassin @the-ominis-gaunt @valyrra @a-smol-homo @sealeneee @cleverblackcat @darth-salem-emperor-of-earth @degenerate-otaku

AWW thank u for tagging me!

Tagging (without pressure):

@esolean @localravenclaw @wrexwas @joliirgendwas @queen-of-stoneharts @woundedeagle @shepardcommander @avarittias

thank you tagging me, you lovely people 🩷 (elf ears all the way hahaha)

no pressure tagging:

@sebastianswallows @ceres-zephyr @ominisgauntisthebest @tarirose @raven--thorne @theodoradevlin @accioquill @vivienne-writes @kiwiplaetzchen and really anyone who would like to join 🩷

Aayyy! I love these! Thanks for tagging me @esolean!

Thankful for the Def Leppard shirt option! ♡

Tagging:

@xantineverdoer @eternalremorse @dingdongdick @alreagwaine @wrenegade-accio @ravenelyx @applinsandoranges @cuffmeinblack @finalgirllx @vivienne-writes @woundedeagle @underthenightskydreamsneverdie

Oh my goodness, these are too cute! Thanks for the tag @esolean @localravenclaw Tagging: @blueraineshadows @simpy-slytherin @seabass-swallows @eternalremorse @darlingfiction @greedyforgarreth @silverxstardust @accioquill

Why is everyone cute!!!! (Also thank you for tagging me, always love making me in these things LMAO)

Tagging: @huntress-valkyrie @boxdstars @ravenelyx @hogwartslegacypics @skarathewitch @spaceyaceface @underthenightskydreamsneverdie @wolfiehardz

Thanks so much for the tag, this is so fun!!!

@hufflegruff @sonicranger1 @eleanorstaghart @rypnami @eternalremorse @localravenclaw @applinsandoranges @sophiver @sweetnsourdoh @shadowtriovibes

Aayyy! Glad to be apart! ^^❤

Tagging: @youwishyouweregay @nrrrdgrrrl2002 >:3

AWW thanks for tagging me ranger! Tagging(without preasure) @sailorjules26 @angrysheeproject @@sendmetothegrave @spottedears

Aww thanks for the tag Lovegood!

I decided to give myself elf ears and a witch hat for fun!

Tagging (no pressure though): @beetlegoose01​ @characcoon

Werk

@less-depresso-more-espresso @wraenata

Thank you for the tag! I think this is pretty accurate how I look all the time XD

Um tagging @liketheletter-l @shittygaypornmagazine @pommigranite

And anyone else that would like to. And no pressure to do this either <3

THANKS FOR TAGGING ME!!! :D

this was so much fun and also THE most accurate hair i've ever gotten from a picrew. i'm thrilled

i nominate @midnightduel @dykeraphael and @queko :>

i love picrews 💜

i shall choose to tag.,.,..,,,,., @sanfezu and @drdelicatetouchhh

no pressure! :D

Thank you very much for the tag!

Erm… dunno who to tag… erm… @mimocrocodilelol, @thevoidisscreamingbackatyou, @theycallmecharcoal, @defnotnoodle, @mknd, @fasupon, @makshu and @manyakot…? Maybe? That’s okay to ignore! Also, you can just text me to stop tagging you, if you want! That’s okay. And I’m sorry if I tagged someone who already did this… I’m sorry about that.

Ty for tagging me!

Uhm- I don't think I have many to tag but anyway- @lonelylittletofu @mramur

Feel free to do it or not

ay seems fun, i love picrew stuff. Thanks for tagging!

tagging mutuals if you dont mind:

@justgoji @fwittybee @snivel1 @burningdragoncollector

dw to ignore if you dont feel like doing it

HELLOOOOOO

@mramur there I fixed it

@detergentt @socks-wizard-money-gang @olliesneweyes @sundial-girl @poisoned-sugar11 haiiiiii

Hello hehegehe

Can you tell I like stars

Tagging uuuum @kittysboba @pixel1678 @princessanieloid @platinum-horizons all the others I wanted to tag where already tagged:,)

Don't feel forced to do it btw!

Thanks you for the Tagging! <33

@gremlinsbooty @tomboyjessie13 @apastelsunsetpainting @haiyis-dark-void @citriinestars @drama-glob come do this! (If You want, of course ^^")

Tis I! Sort of!!!

@bloodiedpeonies @hilow-peoples @etchedstars @olliesneweyes @tastyfren @gh0str3c0rd3r and anyone else !!

felt like geting a bit silly with it

@shslskaterboy @agalnamedlunasea @vincentus @gummyly @shihoann @2-kakimiko-1 @melvintheferalrat @vancrypt and anyone else who wants to join!!

What the fuck is that!!!!

Not; @klavierpanda @tesco-brand-aromantics @bigender-sliver-of-straw @catboy-joyfriend @jeddiehater @sydneylover @crabussy @p3terpaan @tiredmilkshake @rangordall @localvoidcat @lemonofthevalley @ god herself

I've only ever accidentally given myself a middle parting but this isn't far from what it looks like. Also not not gonna choose the MCR hoodie haha, especially as it's the cover from my favourite MCR album. Thanks for the tag!!

No pressure tags: @shinekittenace @lostlovepunk @mordcore @homuncvlus @arandomuser17 @alectricblue @isomorbism @beanb-urrito @heyitsphoenixx (I don't know if you like doing picrews but MCR hoodie) and @ anyone else who'd like to have a go! (I feel like I'm forgetting people so I'm sorry if I did forget you)

Thank you for the tag!!

No pressure: @rue-cimon @transsexual-isopod-god @bog-o-mine @romanticvampire @low-wisdom @arbielikestrains @my-ancient-marss @artemis-aro @panicking-skywalker :)

So what I’ve learned from the past couple months of being really loud about being a bi woman on Tumblr is: A lot of young/new LGBT+ people on this site do not understand that some of the stuff they’re saying comes across to other LGBT+ people as offensive, aggressive, or threatening. And when they actually find out the history and context, a lot of them go, “Oh my god, I’m so sorry, I never meant to say that.”

Like, “queer is a slur”: I get the impression that people saying this are like… oh, how I might react if I heard someone refer to all gay men as “f*gs”. Like, “Oh wow, that’s a super loaded word with a bunch of negative freight behind it, are you really sure you want to put that word on people who are still very raw and would be alarmed, upset, or offended if they heard you call them it, no matter what you intended?”

So they’re really surprised when self-described queers respond with a LOT of hostility to what feels like a well-intentioned reminder that some people might not like it. 

That’s because there’s a history of “political lesbians”, like Sheila Jeffreys, who believe that no matter their sexual orientation, women should cut off all social contact with men, who are fundamentally evil, and only date the “correct” sex, which is other women. Political lesbians claim that relationships between women, especially ones that don’t contain lust, are fundamentally pure, good, and  unproblematic. They therefore regard most of the LGBT community with deep suspicion, because its members are either way too into sex, into the wrong kind of sex, into sex with men, are men themselves, or somehow challenge the very definitions of sex and gender. 

When “queer theory” arrived in the 1980s and 1990s as an organized attempt by many diverse LGBT+ people in academia to sit down and talk about the social oppressions they face, political lesbians like Jeffreys attacked it harshly, publishing articles like “The Queer Disappearance of Lesbians”, arguing that because queer theory said it was okay to be a man or stop being a man or want to have sex with a man, it was fundamentally evil and destructive. And this attitude has echoed through the years; many LGBT+ people have experience being harshly criticized by radical feminists because being anything but a cis “gold star lesbian” (another phrase that gives me war flashbacks) was considered patriarchal, oppressive, and basically evil.

And when those arguments happened, “queer” was a good umbrella to shelter under, even when people didn’t know the intricacies of academic queer theory; people who identified as “queer” were more likely to be accepting and understanding, and “queer” was often the only label or community bisexual and nonbinary people didn’t get chased out of. If someone didn’t disagree that people got to call themselves queer, but didn’t want to be called queer themselves, they could just say “I don’t like being called queer” and that was that. Being “queer” was to being LGBT as being a “feminist” was to being a woman; it was opt-in.

But this history isn’t evident when these interactions happen. We don’t sit down and say, “Okay, so forty years ago there was this woman named Sheila, and…” Instead we queers go POP! like pufferfish, instantly on the defensive, a red haze descending over our vision, and bellow, “DO NOT TELL ME WHAT WORDS I CANNOT USE,” because we cannot find a way to say, “This word is so vital and precious to me, I wouldn’t be alive in the same way if I lost it.” And then the people who just pointed out that this word has a history, JEEZ, way to overreact, go away very confused and off-put, because they were just trying to say.

But I’ve found that once this is explained, a lot of people go, “Oh wow, okay, I did NOT mean to insinuate that, I didn’t realize that I was also saying something with a lot of painful freight to it.”

And that? That gives me hope for the future.

Similarily: “Dyke/butch/femme are lesbian words, bisexual/pansexual women shouldn’t use them.”

When I speak to them, lesbians who say this seem to be under the impression that bisexuals must have our own history and culture and words that are all perfectly nice, so why can’t we just use those without poaching someone else’s?

And often, they’re really shocked when I tell them: We don’t. We can’t. I’d love to; it’s not possible.

“Lesbian” used to be a word that simply meant a woman who loved other women. And until feminism, very, very few women had the economic freedom to choose to live entirely away from men. Lesbian bars that began in the 1930s didn’t interrogate you about your history at the door; many of the women who went there seeking romantic or sexual relationships with other women were married to men at the time. When The Daughters of Bilitis formed in 1955 to work for the civil and political wellbeing of lesbians, the majority of its members were closeted, married women, and for those women, leaving their husbands and committing to lesbian partners was a risky and arduous process the organization helped them with. Women were admitted whether or not they’d at one point truly loved or desired their husbands or other men–the important thing was that they loved women and wanted to explore that desire.

Lesbian groups turned against bisexual and pansexual women as a class in the 1970s and 80s, when radical feminists began to teach that to escape the Patriarchy’s evil influence, women needed to cut themselves off from men entirely. Having relationships with men was “sleeping with the enemy” and colluding with oppression. Many lesbian radical feminists viewed, and still view, bisexuality as a fundamentally disordered condition that makes bisexuals unstable, abusive, anti-feminist, and untrustworthy.

(This despite the fact that radical feminists and political lesbians are actually a small fraction of lesbians and wlw, and lesbians do tend, overall, to have positive attitudes towards bisexuals.)

That process of expelling bi women from lesbian groups with immense prejudice continues to this day and leaves scars on a lot of bi/pan people. A lot of bisexuals, myself included, have an experience of “double discrimination”; we are made to feel unwelcome or invisible both in straight society, and in LGBT spaces. And part of this is because attempts to build a bisexual/pansexual community identity have met with strong resistance from gays and lesbians, so we have far fewer books, resources, histories, icons, organizations, events, and resources than gays and lesbians do, despite numerically outnumbering them..

So every time I hear that phrase, it’s another painful reminder for me of all the experiences I’ve had being rejected by the lesbian community. But bisexual experiences don’t get talked about or signalboosted much,so a lot of young/new lesbians literally haven’t learned this aspect of LGBT+ history.

And once I’ve explained it, I’ve had a heartening number of lesbians go, “That’s not what I wanted to happen, so I’m going to stop saying that.”

This is good information for people who carry on with the “queer is a slur” rhetoric and don’t comprehend the push back.

ive been saying for years that around 10 years ago on tumblr, it was only radfems who were pushing the queer as slur rhetoric, and everyone who was trans or bi or allies to them would push back - radfems openly admitted that the reason they disliked the term “queer” was because it lumped them in with trans people and bi women. over the years, the queer is a slur rhetoric spread in large part due to that influence, but radfems were more covert about their reasons - and now it’s a much more prevalent belief on tumblr - more so than on any queer space i’ve been in online or offline - memory online is very short-term unfortunately bc now i see a lot of ppl, some of them bi or trans themselves, who make this argument and vehemently deny this history but…yep

Or asexuality, which has been a concept in discussions on sexuality since 1869. Initially grouped slightly to the left, as in the categories were ‘heterosexual’, ‘homosexual’, and ‘monosexual’ (which is used differently now, but then described what we would call asexuality). Later was quite happily folded in as a category of queerness by Magnus Hirschfeld and Emma Trosse in the 1890s, as an orientation that was not heterosexuality and thus part of the community.

Another good source here, also talking about aromanticism as well. Aspec people have been included in queer studies as long as queer studies have existed.

Also, just in my own experiences, the backlash against ‘queer’ is still really recent. When I was first working out my orientation at thirteen in 2000, there was absolutely zero issue with the term. I hung out on queer sites, looked for queer media, and was intrigued by queer studies. There were literally sections of bookstores in Glebe and Newtown labelled ‘Queer’. It was just… there, and so were we!

So it blows my mind when there are these fifteen-year-olds earnestly telling me - someone who’s called themself queer longer than they’ve been alive - that “que*r is a slur.” Unfortunately, I have got reactive/defensive for the same reasons OP has mentioned. I will absolutely work on biting down my initial defensiveness and trying to explain - in good faith - the history of the word, and how it’s been misappropriated and tarnished by exclusionists.

Worth noting here is a sneaky new front I’ve seen radfems start using:

Yeah, okay, maybe older LGBTs use queer and fag and dyke…but they’re cringey, and you don’t want to be cringe, do you?

I’m not even joking. They strip the loud-and-proud aspects of our history out of all context, remove every bit of blood, sweat, and tears the queer community poured into things like anti-discrimination laws and AIDS research funding, and use those screams of rebellion to say we’re weird, and you wouldn’t want to be WEIRD.

Stop and think about that for a minute.

Yeah. They are not the arbiters of our community and they never were, and it’s important to not give them the time of day.