A Conversation with Richard Siken by Thomas Hobohm

dm'ing a mutual you've never interacted with one-on-one is so embarrassing like. hi.... im sorry. you can kill me if you want... can i have your discord..... if not.. feel free to shoot me down where i stand... im sorry.. i'll leave..

This starts out as a nice gesture, then quickly becomes absolutely ridiculous.

1,024 dice. Man.

The transition from innate human kindness wanting to pass something forward and monkey brain want make chaos is really sharp and sudden.

support trans people.

It's fucking funny when you start to notice the "tells" of certain alters, such as speech patterns, posture, voice pitch, accent, hand gestures, ect.

Like "wait a minute... why am I fucking man spreading like a fucking clown.... oh.... oh it's him."

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personally i think you should be able to afford a place to live with a part-time job

dare i even say that, with how much technology has advanced in america, the 40 hour work week shouldn't be as commonplace and you should still get full-time employment benefits when you're working less than that actually

please watch my favorite game changer clip ever

Dear professor this assignment did not nourish my fundamentally curious soul so i did not do it No penalty full 100 points please Goodbye!

the accent really makes this

The Godmother

I know this has been said before, and y'all aren't gonna listen to me when I say it, but you can't be bigoted to bad people. Like you don't get to call Marjorie Taylor Green an NRA whore, or misgender Caitlyn Jenner, or be antisemitic to Ben Shapiro. It doesn't work like that. Not being called slurs is not something people earn by being a good person, it's something you do because YOU are a good person. And if I'm being honest, it shouldn't be that hard for you to do. You shouldn't want to say these things to ANYBODY, even if they are the devil incarnate.

When people use slurs against people they don't like, that tells me that marginalized people are only conditionally acceptable to them, and the second they don't like them they'll use their identity against them.

rb this and tell me what ur accent is. this has no purpose except the fact i just realized i could have like... mutuals with cockney accents or newfoundland accents or something and thats just wild

highlights of the responses:

I have an Appalachian accent

a fools guide to not wanting to die anymore

by me, a fool who doesnt wanna die anymore 

… 8|

That’s some pretty good advice. I don’t know what’s left of my humor after ‘guess I’ll just die’ jokes but it’s worth a shot.

Personally i went from “guess I’ll die” jokes to “IF I HAVE TO BE HERE FOR 5 MORE MINUTES I PROMISE YOU I WILL BUY JUST, AN ARRAY OF CLOTHES.” and other wild hyperbolic stuff. Just replace the death part with something ridiculous and off topic. Its very entertaining

This also works with calling myself things like stupid, worthless, trash, etc. Even if you do this jokingly to yourself, your brain still believes it, and keeps up the cycle. Seriously, I found that when I stopped saying these things about myself, even jokingly, it made a massive difference.

Here’s a tip I picked up from a friend that’s helped me a lot — replace self deprecating jokes with ironically self aggrandizing jokes

Like every time I trip and fall, instead of saying “l’m just a disaster human” I say “I’m the epitome of grace and beauty”

Or like, when I draw a picture I’m not 100% happy with, instead of saying “my art is trash” I say something like “you know I think it’s time we replaced the Mona Lisa”

When you do that you get to make a joke, but you’re ALSO getting practice building yourself up, y’know?

And eventually it becomes a reflex and you get so used to it that you can say nice stuff about yourself even when you AREN’T joking

This is so important

That self-aggrandizing technique is no joke.

I replaced “I’m stupid” with “I’m a God damn genius.” “Move over newton” “another masterpiece”

I replaced “gross/ disgusting” with “sexy/attractive” “the hight of elegance”

I replaced “I suck/ that sucked/ this is bad” with “fantastic”, “a lovely time”, “ swell/jolly good”

Replace every negative with a positive. Say it so sarcastically. Make it complicated make it entertaining have fun with it.

It will stop your self deprecating and build confidence. And people are more easygoing around you.

#a good stopgap is being neutral rather than negative/positive #when i drop smth at work i just say #ah… gravity. #and move on (tags by @whatever-you-can-give-me )

^^^ to those of you who complain that it feels weird or uncomfortable or not genuine to immediately switch to self-aggrandizement, try this instead!!! nobody on this post is kidding that it helps - you’re basically building a manual override for the mental pathways your brain is used to so you can switch those train tracks

“That certainly just happened,” is one of my favorite neutral things.

“In my utter brilliance” is for whenever I forget something dumb. (locking my keys in my office, for example)

“unparalleled hand-eye coordination” is for whenever I hurt myself.

Just like… pick a few so you’re not on the spot trying to come up with things when something happens, and then you can start saying them with whatever amount of sarcasm makes you laugh.

Another good in between for when you don’t catch yourself before the negative comment is to acknowledge that it’s not a reasonable reaction

Cuz yeah you might not remember right away and an “ugh I am the worst” slips out, and chasing with “clearly this is the height of crime and villainy” can bring your mood back around

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