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I'm Dira Sudis: dira on Dreamwidth, dsudis on Twitter, and Dira Sudis (dsudis) on the AO3. I've been active in fic fandom under the same name since 2002 and I have the fanlore page to prove it. Currently writing a lot of Dreamling and watching a lot of Air Crash Investigations. She/her.
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Sandman fic master post

This seems to be a thing all the cool kids are doing for Dreamling week this year, so I will join in! These are (nearly) all Dreamling stories and series, with exactly one that is totally gen.

Standalone stories:

To Be Brand New (141k, 25/25, Canon-Divergence/Fix-It, De-Aging)

When Two Become One (33k, 7/?, Canon-Divergence/Fix-It, Arranged Marriage)

No Better to Be Safe Than Sorry (3k, Daydreaming PWP)

Which Betokeneth Concorde (1k, Dancing, Sort of)

A Worthy Gift (1k, Gift-giving fluff)

Form and Function (5k, Dream's shapeshifting genitals PWP)

(Everything Looks Worse) In Black and White (2k, Angst and fluff)

Beans on Toast (3k, Domestic PWP)

Welcome Little Stranger (2k, Nightmarish Mpreg-ish PWP)

Held Now by This Love (6k, Bondage PWP)

The Weather Outside Is Frightful (3k, Rainstorm Hurt/Comfort)

Introduction to Goncharov Studies (2k, Tumblr Nonsense PWP)

A Dream of Unusual Size (3k, Dream shapeshifting shenanigans)

An Endless End (3k, Gen! Also Major Character Death! But nice!!)

Licking the Spoon (9k, Touch-Starved PWP)

Series:

The Nightmare Apocalypse (And Everything After)

Everything That Falls Down Eventually Rises (9k, apocalypse)

The Death of a Certain Nightmare (1k, sorry Corinthian)

A Well-Ordered Love Story

Five Stars (4k, Human AU grocery delivery meet-cute)

There Are Rules (5k, relationship negotiation)

You Are Safe (You Know, Now) (13k, birthdays and Christmas)

Never Refuse You

  1. Rock Bottom of a Hallowed Ground (20k, 1689 canon divergence)
  2. A Symbol of Your Exegesis (4k, post-1689)
  3. A Salutary Effect (8k, 1789)
  4. Traces of Your Lifeblood Flowing (7k, 1889)
  5. SOS from an Outpost There (11k, 1920s)
  6. Tell Me I'm Dream, Dream, Dream, Dreaming (7k, 2021)

A Condition of Complete Simplicity (Costing Not Less Than Everything)

  1. England and Nowhere (Never and Always) (37k, kidfic AU)
  2. Down the Passage We Did Not Take (7k, more kidfic AU)

Retired Dream (feat. Time Blindness and Other Challenges)

  1. Adaptive Tea Making (2k, making tea)
  2. Such a Gorgeous Sight (2k, midnight snacks)
  3. The Second Drawer (2k, sex toys)
  4. The Kind of Human Wreckage That You Love (6k, necrophilia)

Dream Problems

  1. Lying in Wait (2k, Dream fantasizes in the fishbowl)
  2. Having a Nice Problem (8k, Dream meets up with Hob)
  3. The Keeping of Promises (9k, belated aftercare)
  4. Texting of a Sexual Nature (2k, beginning a relationship)
#the sandman#dreamling#dreamling week#fic masterpost
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invisible-arcs asked:

Can you talk more about Elle Woods being autistic in Legally Blonde? :)

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naliniasha answered:

Elle strictly follows the traditional rules of femininity as dictated by southern californian culture, with special interests in the color pink, fashion, and her parter. She is extremely trusting and takes people literally when they are kind to her which is OK when she “stays in her place” as gender norms dictate, but as she leaves her familiar habitus in which she has cultivated social, cultural, and symbolic capital through careful study and adherence to these social norms, she finds herself ostracized and abused. Even though she is hyperlexic and has a high IQ (as traditionally defined), she has difficulty reading social cues in new environments. She also copes with transitioning into new circumstances by falling back onto familiar routines of personal hygiene and filling her personal space with familiar items. She is also extremely ethical to her personal morals which gets her into difficulty when social norms dictate being flexible with one’s ethics. She also does not privilege human companionship over other species. 

damn…. I should write an article on this. This was fun. Mostly because I’m the Elle Woods flavor of Autistic in many ways. 

Elle Woods is the kind of Autistic that most neurotypicals can’t recognize because she is camouflaged in “socially acceptable” practices, but to someone who is also Autistic is clear that the way she approaches these practices is neuroatypical. Many Autistic women survive and ‘blend in’ by making traditional feminine norms their special interests, and their neuroatypicality can often become disabling only when they change habitus, which means the circle of people and environment and all the culture and practices that go with it. They spend a lifetime getting “good” at one habitus and fitting in, but suddenly stand out as “different” when their habitus changes. Autistic women are also often extremely trusting, and when they are “attractive” by traditional feminine norms they don’t question when people are kind to them. They assume people mean well unless they say otherwise, making them highly susceptible to abuse and bullying, often by fellow women. Many Autistic women have above average IQs (by traditional definitions) and apply these abilities to traditional feminine practices such as fashion, art, homemaking, pop culture, etc. So they don’t fit the stereotypes of the “absent minded professor” which is extremely gendered male and white. As many Autistic people often feel that other people, often partners, are their special interests, some Autistic women are camouflaged by their focus and dedication to a boyfriend or husband, because gender norms literally normalize this as an acceptable, desirable practice. Practicing their ethics with strict black and white rules, they can appear to be extremely “pious,” religious, and “dedicated” wives and mothers, which again is normed by gender practices and camouflaged. If they experience OCD qualities, these are often practiced in homemaking-related skills like cooking, cleaning, and personal hygiene, again… all camouflaged by gender norms as simple being a “good girl” and a “good wife and mother.” 

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emeraldincandescent

100% here for hyper feminine autistic characters because we don’t get enough of those.

#legally blonde#elle woods#autism
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missvoltairine-blog

it has been like at least eight years and sometimes I still think to myself, when I am tired, “but I am le tired… well then take a nap! AND THEN FIRE ZE MISSILES” even though in retrospect that is like one of the most embarrassingly unfunny videos to ever come out of the internet 

tbh i still start sentences with “hokay, so” at least 3 times a day 

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judgebunnie

same, aggressively so. I also still use “wtf, mate.”

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knottahooker

who doesn’t think this is STILL AS HILARIOUS as it was when we all watched it over and over and over again 15 years ago?

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fozmeadows

I’ve reblogged this before and will doubtless reblog this again because MY ENTIRE GROUP OF FRIENDS WAS SO OBSESSED WITH THIS VIDEO IN 2002/2003 THAT WE COLLECTIVELY BANNED ANY MENTION OF IT EVER AGAIN 

AND YET

WE ARE NOW GROWN-ASS ADULTS IN OUR THIRTIES

AND IT STILL GETS QUOTED FROM TIME TO TIME

I HAVE THE WHOLE THING MEMORISED

TO THIS DAY, MY MOTHER REGULARLY SAYS “BUT I AM LE TIRED” BECAUSE OF A VIDEO I SHOWED HER IN FUCKING HIGH SCHOOL

THIS IS AN ICONIC PIECE OF INTERNET HISTORY AND I WILL FIGHT ANYONE WHO SAYS OTHERS

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gingersnapwolves

my wife and I still regularly say “hokay so”, “but I am le tired” and “and some big meteor’s like ‘well fuck that’.” Fucking iconic.

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cobrilee

I HAVE NEVER SEEN THIS BEFORE AND I’M SO GRATEFUL FOR THIS POST BECAUSE I’VE SEEN IT NOW AND I CAN’T STOP FUCKING LAUGHING

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ruffboijuliaburnsides

God how has it been that long

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izhunny

Happy Anniversary to this twenty year old flash epic!

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justalurkr

AND IT IS UNFORTUNATELY SOMEWHAT EVERGREEN 2025

#the end of the world#flash animation#internet classic#hokay so#i am le tired
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unashamedly-enthusiastic

Devastating to have more evidence that done IS better than perfect

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unashamedly-enthusiastic

Additionally, findings indicate that the act of doing shows you that you were not seeking perfection, you were fearing inadequacy

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unashamedly-enthusiastic

@grey-and-lavender

#oh that last line gutted me #is there a place between perfect and failure?

Good news! There is!

Bad news! It is called 'done'

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grey-and-lavender

✨ fuck ✨

#the perfect is the enemy of the good#done is better than perfect
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hellyesbro

the amount of faith it takes to transition and believe it can get better is holier than any church

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hellyesbro

Youve never met anyone like you but youve heard people like you exist and youve heard nothing but awful awful things but. you know youre one of them. you know what you have to do. You cant do anything but pray that its better because you know you cant survive this anyways.

#trans rights#trans#queer#lgbtq#courage#faith
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lemontongues

shoutout to slow growers, late bloomers, people whose plans got derailed by circumstances beyond their control or their own choices, people who never had a plan to begin with, people who have had to start over when theyre too old to feel like theyre supposed to be where they are, people who cant pretend theyre built for the environment theyre in, and everyone who's not living the life they thought they would. im proud of you for making it this far and i hope you keep going until youre happy ♡

#it’s weird but it’s good
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captainjonnitkessler

Not "humans are inherently good" or "humans are inherently evil" but a secret third thing (humans are inherently social animals which means that we're very good at cooperating and being compassionate towards those we perceive as being part of our community but we're also very good at being tribal and violent towards those we perceive as threats to our community and everyone defines their community differently)

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melodytaylorauthor

People are neither inherently good, nor are they inherently evil. Rather, people are inherently people. -- Terry Pratchett, paraphrased.

#humans being humans
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ladysisyphus

I did this to help illustrate a point I'm making in a different post, but I feel it's relevant above and beyond that specific context.

#fandom#fanfic
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liminalweirdo

just an FYI for trans people in the US right now

[id: reddit post by user spaghettishoestrings titled "(UPDATE) Just lost my healthcare !" with the flair "Celebratory."

Post reads:

Original post is viewable through my profile. Apologies, since I’m on mobile, I couldn’t hyperlink. The TLDR: my doctor called me on Monday and informed me that their practice would no longer be providing treatment for gender affirming care as a result of a recent presidential Executive Order, even though the EO was for people under 19. Even though I’m 25.

Also, because it was asked a few times, this happened in Michigan, and I’ve been on HRT for 5+ years. It’s a practice that includes like 15+ physicians, and I think that the decision was made over my PCP’s head, given that she once told me that she literally moved states to be able to provide gender affirming care here.

First off, genuinely, thank you so much for all the replies and messages. I genuinely felt frozen after that phone call and didn’t know where to start, and you all really helped me get my feet off the ground.

A couple people mentioned contacting the ACLU, which, truthfully, I thought, “there’s no way that the ACLU will get back to me” but I sent a message anyway. They actually called me a few hours after my post and we talked about the Executive Orders and my rights. They offered to fax my provider a letter reminding them of my rights and some other legal terms. It’s crazy how a post on reddit resulted in my name being on the official ACLU letterhead.

Anyway, today my doctor’s physician assistant called me and shared that their practice is reversing their decision and they will continue to provide gender affirming care. I’m still keeping a bunch of the resources that y’all shared saved, including Planned Parenthood, Plume, and looking into a private endocrinologist.

This whole experience just reminded me how great this community is. I appreciate y’all <3"

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[id: reddit user copurrs commented:]

You should contact Chase Strangio from the ACLU, I believe he is looking for reports of folks being denied their GAC due to these EOs. He's @chasestrangio on IG and Threads.

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#us politics#gender affirming care#trans rights
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wheelie-sick

if USPS has a million fans, I'm one of them

if USPS has 5 fans, I'm one of them

if USPS has 1 fan, that is me

if USPS has no fans, I'm no longer alive

if the world is against USPS I'm against the entire world

till my last breath I support USPS

I joke but actually USPS is the literal lifeline for so many housebound disabled people who receive lifesaving medications through it- especially housebound people in rural areas. so many private shipping companies do not serve rural areas. try getting anyone else to drive hours into the middle of nowhere to deliver. try it. not all disabled people live in urban areas. USPS saves disabled lives ‼️ without USPS many housebound disabled people will die.

USPS is a disability rights issue

#us politics#usps#us postal service
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infra-fucker

Robot porn should explore personal choice and identity more.

Consider:

  • Robot who gets chubby silicone put onto their torso and thighs because they'd prefer a softer, more grabbable body as opposed to being all metal and sharp edges
  • Industrial robot who gets parts added/taken off to live as a companion bot, and a companion bot who does the opposite (consider, they share parts and dating). Just. Industrial bot with a big wet pussy and companion bot with big imposing pistons and gears.
  • Sex robot club where they install pain and pleasure sensors on themselves so they can fuck each other and explore their own sexual identities outside of being appealing to humanity
  • Alternatively, sex robots who already have those sensors instead choosing to interface with other robots via ports and data transferring as they prefer it to traditional sex
  • Robots who identify with human concepts of gender and robots who identify with entirely novel robot identities, and robots who blend the two

The thesis of this essay is that robots can be a remarkable allegory for queerness and they're hot as well.

#robots#sexuality
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leveragehunters

SO excited to read my new book! I deal with so many Sov Cits, and advise other people on dealing with them, and their beliefs are fascinating.

(Them, not so much, unfortunately. They attract a very different adjective.)

#sovereign citizens
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