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I'm going to break my answer to this in three parts because I gave three examples in the original post
"intersex people are really attractive"
there's nothing wrong with this in and of itself. my partner loves my intersex body, and I love my intersex body too. I am attractive and my intersexness is part of that! the problem is that it is not enough just to find us attractive.
when people are asked to question their biases against intersex people, they often default to saying "oh no I'm not intersexist, I find them hot/sexy/whatever!". that alone tells me that you are seeing intersex people as nothing other than sexual objects. you can discriminate against someone you find attractive. and, in fact, seeing someone as nothing more than a sexual object is a form of discrimination. this is particularly true when you are part of a group that is often seen as nothing more than a search term to type into pornhub (as is the case for intersex people)
"intersex people are interesting"
yes, I am interesting! but that's because I have a whole and complete personality. I have interesting things to say about the world. but by defining all intersex people as "interesting", you are once again talking about how you feel about our bodies, instead of adequately trying to counter intersexist biases
"intersex people are fascinating"
this is similar to the point about saying we're interesting, except I have a specific problem with this because of the history of the word "fascinating" being associated with scientific and medical industries. to be fascinated by something is to turn it into an object of scientific inquiry. which, again, would be fine if it weren't for the fact that we are seen as nothing more than a medical oddity. we are seen as nothing more than objects to be studied and stared at and ultimately "fixed". I don't want people to be fascinated by me, I want them to care about intersex people and intersex issues
what it comes down to is this:
- fetishisation is about more than just turning an entire group into sexual objects
- it's about turning us into objects full stop. it's about getting rid of our human qualities. it's about focusing on how you feel about us instead of on how we interact with the world
- both historically and presently, intersex people have been treated both as sexual objects and medical objects, and it is about time we are seen as people