The concept of laziness is bullshit. As a whole, but let me focus on adhders (pun unintended).
What is laziness? "Unwilling to do work".
ADHDers (and other ND/ chronically ill folks) are often called lazy cause NTs see us as 'unwilling' to do work. A personal choice.
They are saying we don't care enough to do something.
But that's rarely the case.
Why would we not want to improve our lives? Who WANTS to struggle?
The ADHD diagnosis process is bullshit, especially if you are afab. The diagnostic checklists focus on grades, and hyperactvity mostly.
Inattentive and internally hyperactive symptoms can be near identical to anxiety and depression. In fact, I was initially diagnosed with depression and anxiety.
And if you managed to do well in school, which ADHDers can do for a variety of reasons, well, you're kinda dismissed.
It took my sisters years to get a diagnosis. The only who took her seriously was a female psychiatrist. And mind, this was after years of counselling, and being on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds for years, and still struggling.
So now back to the initial point.. is it laziness?
Well, you don't seem unwilling, but rather unable.
If you never cared enough to try, ie, unwilling, you wouldn't be feeling discouraged.
Final point is this: if you relate to ADHD symptoms, you are obviously struggling.
Even if it's not ADHD, it doesn't mean it's nothing.
Guys, anything else to add?