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At first I though this was a joke
Don’t ignore this Tumblr
Yet they still do even when it’s right in their face.
This reminds me of how a friend of mine was abused by the mother of his child. She was mentally unstable and used to berate him constantly and would smack him in the head all the time. It really pissed me off. Then one night she threw hot coffee in his face and tried to stab him with a screwdriver. The cops hauled him off to jail because she made up a sob story that painted herself as the victim. Once he left her, he stayed with me and it was a nightmare. She stalked him and me. She would drive by my house obsessively at all hours of the day and night (her muffler made a weird sound so I know it was her). She started showing up at my job, showing up at the places I frequented around town, and filling up my voicemail with dead air. The cops were no help. One day she got bold enough to talk her way into my home by conning my elderly grandmother, whom I was taking care of, while I was out. She went in my room and went through my stuff (creepy), then found him napping on the couch and attacked him. My grandmother witnessed the whole thing. He grabbed her by the arms, forced her out the front door, and locked it. The cops were called again. They said they’d go and ‘talk’ to her.
The next day we were watching a movie and there was a knock at the door. The police had come to arrest him. She filed a complaint against him and shown off some bruises on her arms from the altercation that she swore were completely unprovoked. My grandmother saw the whole thing since she was in the living room too and testified on his behalf. He still ended up serving jail time. No one takes male domestic violence victims seriously. They only see males as perpetrators.
i was so scared to read the comments because fucking tumblr but im really happy i did. domestic violence/abuse should not be tolerated no matter what your sex/age/religion etc.
spread this like mother fucking wildfire
There’s no incompatibility between feminism and standing up for male victims of domestic abuse. If we believe women are equal to men, then we believe that some women are every bit as shitty as some men, and that women are just as capable of being abusive as men are. And the main reason domestic abuse of men isn’t taken seriously is actually sexism – the belief that women are too weak to harm a man, and that a “real man” is in no danger from a woman and that any man who could be harmed by a woman is somehow worthless and not worth protecting. Those are poisonous attitudes and they should be rooted out of society.
I am a feminist and I support victims of domestic abuse no matter what gender they are or what gender their abuser is. Gay men can abuse gay men, lesbians can abuse lesbians, and women who are oriented toward men can abuse men in relationships. Beating up your boyfriend because of anything, including “he cheated on me”, doesn’t make you a strong, empowered woman… it makes you an abuser. The only excuse for violence, ever, is self defense, and then only within proportion to the danger you’re in.
