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all tea is dead people tea, if you think about it

@rainwolfheart / rainwolfheart.tumblr.com

rain, 26, i like cats and dwarves // nonbinary bisexual, they/them, relationship anarchist // witch blog @clementine-and-rain-tarot // ao3 Rainsong // canada. en/fr/es.
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new lil intro post because i've had a bunch of new followers lately. and some of them aren't even bots!

HELLO i'm rain, my pronouns are they/them en anglais (ask for other langs), and this has been my personal blog for a goddamn decade or thereabouts. i'm a grad school dropout and theatre making person and in my spare time i write fanfic and embark on other fan projects until i get bored of them.

i don't have the patience to have separate blogs for different fandoms ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ i do however have a witchy/religious/philosophy sideblog @clementine-and-rain-tarot and a fibre arts sideblog @clementine-and-stanley

currently i'm not really focused on any fandom here. been playing a lot of the sims and tears of the kingdom though, and tenatively getting back into dragon age fic.

you can find my fic on AO3 at Rainsong, and also here on tumblr under #my fic. you can find info on my ocs here (or here on mobile).

i try to tag common triggers, please always feel free to ask me to tag something i've missed. my spoiler policy is usually a week for things that are weekly, up to maybe a month for things like novels and movies. again lmk if you want me to tag longer.

i don't have a dni or anything, do what you want and i'll block you if i don't want you interacting with me lol

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Spicy-brained friends, I would like to propose an update to the very useful ‘if you hate everyone, eat, if everyone hates you, sleep, and if you hate yourself, shower’ mantra to live by

Have you suddenly become a petty, hateful little gremlin who thinks people should face the firing squad for (checks notes) leaving teabags on the counter, breathing loudly, or daring to exist in the same space as you? Perhaps mundane and reasonable requests like ‘hey, we agreed to hang out now, let’s hang out’ make you want to scream and move to a yurt in the woods.

You. Are. Overstimulated.

People talk a lot about being overstimulated, and the physical/mental effects of it. What I haven’t seen is people talking about what it does emotionally, and it took me an embarassingly long time to link up those nitpicky, resentful emotions with the state of overstimulation/meltdown/shutdown.

These feelings do not mean that you’re a bad person! They probably aren’t how you actually feel about the people around you. They probably do mean that your nervous system is at its absolute limit and any request/demand/stimulus is Too Much and taking you into fight or flight territory.

Go lie down in a dark room for an hour, or find somewhere safe and familiar to stim for a bit. If it’s happening a lot, schedule yourself regular low-stimulation shutdown time

Signed: someone who moved in with their nearest and dearest only to have a massive crisis of faith about Suddenly Hating All of Them. I don’t hate them, it’s just overstimulating living with people. If I can spare anyone else a similar 9 months of suspecting that they may actually be a bit of a shit person, then this post is worth it!

you might especially feel this way if someone picks up on your bad mood, but all their kind suggestions make you want to bite and scream. in my experience that’s not because you hate them or even the suggestion, it’s probably because *any* new information or ideas, no matter how gentle, is just Too Many Thoughts. this is when it helps a lot to have a plan in advance, even if the plan is just “take medication” or “go to hidey-hole,” because trying to think of a solution in the moment might be beyond you.

(also if ur overstimulated, it’s often worth checking if you need to eat/sleep/shower as well, because that might be part of what’s overstimulating you!)

chronic pain is also a source of overstimulation

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soul-hammer

She also was one of the people who glassed Libya and turned it into an open-air slave market-having nightmare state, so I think we can discard any insights she might have about Middle East policy.

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jv

Fuck, this may very well be the end of Eurovision as a cultural force in Europe.

What’s going on:

  • The Dutch artist have been showing some mild unease at the Israel presence there this year during the past week. The Irish ones have been forced to change their looks because it included the words “ceasefire” and “freedom for Palestine” in ancient gaelic script.
  • Yesterday, someone from the Israel delegation joked about the dutch artist’s father death (the Dutch song is dedicated to him) and there was “an incident” (undisclosed, but the rumor-mill says the Dutch guy may have punched the jokester)
  • Eurovision have disqualified the Netherlands from today’s final.
  • The Dutch broadcaster association (those who pick who to send to EV) posted this a few hours ago:
  • There has been protest within the Finnish public broadcaster asking for Finland withdrawal
  • The head of the political party who is the junior partner in the government of Spain is also calling for our withdrawal.
  • The Israeli delegation seem to have spent the week literally harassing anyone they perceive as critical, with several complains about their behavior already being published.
  • The Israeli song is one of the favorites to win, and if they do, next year Eurovision would be organized by them. If that happen, there is no way several countries wouldn’t just refuse to take part.

So yeah, there is a chance this may be it for the festival. Good job, Eurovision. Great fucking job.

Shit is going down HARD in Eurovision right now.We are hours from the beginning of the fest and in the last couple of hours:

  • The french artist stopped his song during the dress rehearsal today, gave a speech about peace, and left the stage
  • The Irish ones sent a press release asking the EBU to disqualify Israel for the comments their broadcaster had done about the Irish song
  • Both Ireland and Greece didn’t show up to the festival flag parade that kickstarts the show.
  • Norway’s artist who were going to be the spokesperson of the jury tonight announced she is declining to participate… An hour ago, about 8 hours before she would have to go live

To that last point, several other spokespeople also stood down with hours to go. Including Käärijä for Finland

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renrood

adding that according to the dutch broadcasting association (AVROTROS) joost klein was disqualified by the EBU for…

making a violent gesture to a camera lady who kept filming him despite him asking her not to repeatedly. the lady contractually was not allowed to film him after his rehearsal or semi final act (forgor which one it was).

he never laid a hand on her, there were various eye witnesses to the incident who corroborate this being the case. swedish police were involved and somehow they already closed the case, which is kinda suspect if you ask me.

The show on itself seem to have been way less interesting than everything that happened in the previous hours, but a couple of interesting images:

Portugal’s wore keffiyeh-patterned nails during her song, and the org tried to censor it, so she got pretty in-your-face about it:

Ireland’s brought a watermelon pillow and placed it so it was extremely visible:

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Anonymous asked:

For context to the Ottawa thing, Ottawa City Hall commemerates national/independence days of many countries if they request it (it was in the news in 2022 that they rejected an application by Russia to fly their flag due to the invasion of Ukraine).

This is not to say they are right to or that people should not protest the event, just to clarify that this isn't a new event they've decided to do this year for the first time ever; they raise it every year because this is standard practice here, and unfortunately Canada is, as we know, very close to Israel.

Again, please protest the event.

Because I'm the one who made the post you're providing context for, I just want to point out very few independence days coincide with the exact date where 70% of the occupied country's population was ethnically cleansed. I understand what you're trying to say, and you're not wrong, but I cannot emphasize enough that the Nakba is not something that preceded the founding of the zionist occupation. It was the founding of the zionist occupation. That was the event. The genocide is explicitly the event they are celebrating. May 14th-15th 1948 is the day the genocide occured and upon which they proclaimed the founding of a country on top of our literal mass graves.

I'm not going to allow anyone to retain a prespective wherein we remain in the background of our own history.

Just as an update, this event was briefly cancelled (~ a week) before being reinstated yesterday.

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cryptotheism

Every Ben-Gurion quote is like "Settler Colonialism, which I think is extremely cool, is essential to the Zionist project."

Ben Gurion voice: "If we have to commit genocide to be settler colonialists, so be it."

Oh yeah. For those that don't know. David Ben Gurion was the founder and first prime minister of Israel.

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nothorses

It is deeply, deeply beneficial to TERFs if the only characteristic of TERF ideology you will recognize as wrong, harmful, or problematic is "they hate trans women".

TERF ideology is an expansive network of extremely toxic ideas, and the more of them we accept and normalize, the easier it becomes for them to fly under the radar and recruit new TERFs. The closer they get to turning the tide against all trans people, trans women included.

Case in point: In 2014-2015, I fell headlong into radical feminism. I did not know it was called radical feminism at the time, but I also didn't know what was wrong with radical feminism in the first place. I didn't see a problem with it.

I was a year deep into this shit when people I had been following, listening to, and looking up to finally said they didn't think trans women were women. It was only then that I unfollowed those people, specifically; but I continued to follow other TERFs-who-didn't-say-they-were-TERFs. I continued ingesting and spreading their ideas- for years after.

If TERFs "only target trans women" and "only want trans women gone", if that's the one and only problem with their ideology and if that's the only way we'll define them, we will inevitably miss a vast majority of the quiet beliefs that support their much louder hatred of trans women.

As another example: the trans community stood relatively united when TERFs and conservatives targeted our right to use the correct restroom, citing the "dangers" of trans women sharing space with cis women. But when they began targeting Lost Little Girls and Confused Lesbians and trotting detransitioners out to raise a panic about trans men, virtually the only people speaking up about it were other transmascs. Now we see a rash of anti-trans healthcare bills being passed in the US, and they're hurting every single one of us.

When you refuse to call a TERF a TERF just because they didn't specifically say they hate trans women, when you refuse to think critically about a TERF belief just because it's not directly related to trans women, you are actively helping TERFs spread their influence and build credibility.

what is some TERF ideology we should be on the look out for?

This isn't comprehensive, but I'll do my best.

TERFs are, first and foremost, radical feminists. Radical feminism is essentially second-wave feminism without the intersectionality brought in by third-wave feminism. It believes that patriarchy is at fault for the oppression of women, but sees this in a very strict, binary way: women are the oppressed, and men are the oppressors.

TERFs use this to justify their specific brand of transphobia. This idea, among others, is essential in supporting that transphobia.

I'll try to outline some of those ideas, and some of the logical thruoughlines they use:

  1. Women are uniquely oppressed, and always in danger. Womanhood- or the experience of being a woman- is defined by oppression, misogyny, and Being In Danger.
  2. Women are particularly in danger in the presence of, and in relationships with, men. Spaces that exclude men are essential to preserving the safety of women.
  3. Socialization: men are raised to support patriarchy, while women are raised to be subjugated by it. Men have no motive to unlearn these lessons, so all men are inherently more corrupted by these lessons than women.
  4. Relationships with men are therefore inherently (more likely to be) abusive, and relationships with women are inherently safe(er).
  5. Sex, in particular, is more often exploitative than not. Only some kinds of sex are not exploitative. Many kinds of sex that we think are consensual, or that people say are consensual, are either rape or proto-rape.
  6. Exchanging money for sex is inherently rape/exploitation/non-consensual in some way.
  7. As women who deny men access to them, lesbians are The Most Oppressed and also The Most Endangered. They must be protected at all costs.
  8. Because so many women have been raped by men with penises, both men and penises are inherently traumatic to A Lot Of Women.
  9. Many lesbians will naturally have an aversion to relationships with trans women because of this. Trans women who argue against this "genital preference" are potential rapists trying to infiltrate lesbian spaces to hurt and take advantage of women.
  10. Men will always try to invade "women's spaces" to take advantage of women, endanger them, and strip away their resources both for personal gain/pleasure, and in service of upholding the patriarchy.
  11. If we allow men to say they are women, they will invade those spaces and hurt "real" women. Men who say they are women are dangerous, and must be excluded and punished.
  12. Men may try to obfuscate labels and terminology to "define women out of existence" or otherwise cause confusion, which they can manipulate to further their infiltration.
  13. Women are all miserable with their bodies, cursed with the pressure to reproduce and have sex with men.
  14. Women are all miserable with their genders, forced as they are to ensure the overwhelming and constant suffering that is patriarchy.
  15. Women will attempt to escape this misery and pressure by "becoming men". This is cowardly, but understandable; a tragic but inevitable result of patriarchy. These women must be saved.
  16. Some women who try to escape patriarchy are doing it out of self-interest; they are betraying women by becoming men, and contributing to their oppression. These women must be punished.
  17. Bio-essentialism: women are oppressed specifically because of their bodies and ability to reproduce. This is an inherent and defining part of womanhood. Nobody can claim womanhood without this experience, everyone who has had this experience is a woman.
  18. Women's bodies are all beautiful and perfect because they are women's bodies. If the womanliness of them is tampered with, they become less valuable. Men's bodies are gross and undesirable symbols of patriarchy.
  19. Testosterone makes people violent, aggressive, irrational, and angry. Estrogen makes people calm, kind, and happy.
  20. Men can never understand women's bodies as well as other women do.
  21. People can be attracted to other people on the basis of "sex" alone. This is inherent, immutable, and unquestionable.
  22. Men are sexual animals who inherently and unavoidably find lots of bad things sexually arousing. Because "youth" is attractive, many men find young girls and children attractive, and will try to take advantage of them. Misogynistic control/power over women, hurting women, and even rape are also inherently sexually appealing to men.
  23. "Gender" is meaningless; it's founded in misogynistic stereotypes about men and women, and when you remove the stereotypes, there's nothing left at all. Only binary "sex" is real, because that's what patriarchy (and biology) is based on.
  24. Manhood is itself a toxic, oppressive, inherently corrupting concept. Anyone who participates in manhood is corrupt and immoral; who would choose to be the oppressor?
  25. Masculinity is defined only by hating women, having power, and being aggressive, violent, and controlling (etc.)
  26. Patriarchy doesn't just target women, but femininity as a whole, for its association with women.
  27. Patriarchy doesn't just reward men, but masculinity, as it rejects femininity. People who reject femininity and embrace masculinity are rewarded by the patriarchy.

Some of these ideas are contradictory, but they lead to the same conclusions. Some of them lead to similar conclusions, many of which take very little further nudging to push into more dogmatic ideas.

This is exactly why we need to understand all of these paths into TERF ideology- and more.

In fact, the vast majority of the points on this list- particularly the beginnings of their logic- can be very easily swallowed while still holding that trans women are women, and trans men are men.

That's what TIRFs (trans-inclusive radical feminists) are, and they're still incredibly dangerous. TIRF ideology normalizes these points, making it far easier for TERFs to recruit; even if TIRFs themselves try to be aggressively anti-TERF.

Again, this isn't comprehensive, and it would take a long time and a lot of words to cover every flaw and danger in every line of reasoning here.

But remember how these things work; even if some of them begin with a grain of truth, even if some of them are true- especially if you define the words they contain differently- be wary of them.

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a lot of people say twink bc they want to say faggot. and they don't even necessarily realize. but they do

pro tip, if you're using twink to mean:

- loser

- effeminate in a negative way

- weak

- pathetic

- annoying

you are probably being homophobic and probably just using it as a free pass alternative for gay or faggot. you're not slick it's not okay and you need to think about your words more. you're not immune to doing this if you're queer either I've seen a LOT of people doing this all across the sexuality labels.

if you've said:

- same with fruity

- same with bottom

I agree wholeheartedly and you're incredibly right

- "this especially happens to me as an afab trans person because people assume because I'm small and have less body hair I'm okay with being called that, including derogatorily"

you're adding important additional experiences, I'm sorry for how people treat you, and you should kill them with fire

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top five most important things you can give a character. 1. bisexuality. 2. autism. 3. so much negative rizz it loops around into irresistibility. 4. so many bad events. 5. a coping mechanism that’s cute and silly provided you don’t think about it too hard

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We need to lay more blame for "Kids don't know how computers work" at the feet of the people responsible: Google.

Google set out about a decade ago to push their (relatively unpopular) chromebooks by supplying them below-cost to schools for students, explicitly marketing them as being easy to restrict to certain activities, and in the offing, kids have now grown up in walled gardens, on glorified tablets that are designed to monetize and restrict every movement to maximize profit for one of the biggest companies in the world.

Tech literacy didn't mysteriously vanish, it was fucking murdered for profit.

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anoraktrend

Linux is a very good and powerful alternative.

reminder: you cannot Personal Choises your way out of an Intentional Structural Problem

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bogleech

Someone was just telling me how the real reason people hate pineapple pizza is probably that most restaurants just sprinkle the pizza with blocky wet pineapple chunks when the original style recipe called for paper thin slices that quickly caramelize in the oven, giving the pizza a gooey sweetness that blends smoothly into the tangier acidity of the tomatoes. They are after all both fruit.

And I actually did like pineapple on pizza, but I only ever had it served to me as the chunks, and NOW that looks gross in comparison to that description.

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krudman

Eurovision is the absolute easiest thing in the world to boycott. It's not food owned by one of 5 food conglomerates. It's not tech that corporations have made essential. There's no "support the devs" logic to be even considered. It's literally just noise that is forgotten in a week.

This year it's noise that will be forgotten in a week that is actively supporting one state that's committing genocide to another state they're actively suppressing any discussion about.

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